Is she dropping hints or am I reading into things?

[MeKnowNothing]

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Been going to a gym for the last year now - seen an attractive girl in there ever since. However, I wasn't looking for anything as I was coming out of a situation at the time and was focusing on myself. There have been instances in the past where I should have noted something before, but the intensity has significantly increased since the beginning of the year (I was away for a month over Christmas).

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I've noticed her appear to be more "intense" with her looks toward me, sneaking glances when she thinks I don't know or can't see her. She's used the mirrors to keep tabs, while she can often be around me (but that might be due to her training plan - she seems dedicated with it). It'll sometimes appear as if she's "looking for me" when I've seen her - scanning the gym to see where I am or just wanting to know where she can find me.

[Zack-Bann]

I can think of at least one person who has the answer
And she’s not on this app


Talk to the girl


If the world ended tomorrow would you rather have talked to her or speculated about it online only to watch her show up with the boyfriend who did make a move? 🙃

[OneViewpoint]

Ummm... here's a thought. Have a conversation with her. Just say hi, how's your workout going. See if she welcomes your approach or gets noticeably uncomfortable. That'll give you a clue.

[DishLady]

Who in the world would know given all the juicy details provided?

[Abbycado]

How are we supposed to know? There is no context whatsoever. XD

[MeKnowNothing]

Yeah - I realise (and apologies); I'm new here and what I wanted to ask won't post - trying to work it out lol!

[Abbycado]

Ah, now I see updates. I will read through that.

[MeKnowNothing]

Still only half the thing - let me see if I can add further... XD

However, if we're in close proximity, it appears she goes shy - finding it hard to look at me or maybe trying to divert her eyes. From a distance, I've seen her at the water fountain look back straight at me, despite so much else going on.

I think she's told others about me, as I get glances from people she seems close to - she is friendly with a coach where I go and I feel as though they know something I don't? I get looks from the coach, whether we're working out close to each other or if we're in different areas of the gym. Sometimes, it's like the coach is watching me closely - perhaps to report back? I can't be certain of this though but it's the vibe I get as I've seen them (and others she is close to) look in my direction when they've been talking.

She doesn't appear to be shy with people she knows ("gym bros"), but with me, I feel like there's a nervous tension - we've never even spoke and I've noticed she can look away if I look at her and "catch" her looking. I'm trying to be more approachable, but thinking I might have to make the approach first?

I'm useless at these things. I've had the disaster of picking up on signals that weren't allegedly there and got burned (hence joining the gym). I don't want a repeat, especially as we appear to go at the same time on a regular basis.

So, as the question states: "Is she dropping hints or am I reading into things?"

Any insight would be highly appreciated!

[Abbycado]

Sounds like she is trying to get you to notice her and hope you might say something.

[MeKnowNothing]

Can I ask what gives you that opinion?

[Abbycado]

Because girls that want guys to approach them have to show it somehow. I am not saying this is a foolproof thing, but if she keeps looking at you that much, there is going to be a reason.

[Anonymous]

I think u are thinking way too much into it. She’s probably minding her Own business. How old are u both

[Anonymous]

Don't be just another creep at the gym. Leave her alone.

[RedInnocent69]

If a guy asks, she’s probably dropping really obvious hints 😂

[In_Trance]

How about having an actual conversation with her