Is it worth going back on the dating sites?

[Bkay123]

I would really like to find someone to be my girlfriend and eventually get married. I want to go on dates but my life consists of going to work and going home. I also workout at a gym.
I tried the dating sites for the longest time and only dated one girl from it which it didn’t workout. Being on the apps It made me all screwed up emotionally. I felt depressed and worthless after getting no dates from being on it for over two years. I felt better when I finally just deleted everything. I just feel horrible that I can’t get a date even if my life depended on it. Any advice would be great.

[D_Bone_Steak]

Going to a gym is probably your better move than those dating sites. I was able to pull those chicks left and right but that's because I have a home gym and I'm sexy af.

Here is the thing though... those chicks are whores and will never make a good long term sort of thing easy and most likely not even doable. Think about why women turn to dating sites themselves... desperate, or just looking for male attention. You think that shit will make a good mother or partner. They're only desperate because they fucked up every relationship they touched or they're an attention whore that will suck a dick for being given a complement. Dating sites are for the trash and should only be used for when you need some trash to stick your dick in for practice.

Stick to the gym. Buy a damn bench and adjustable weight plates for the cost of gym membership. Get buff. Then you have to learn how to deal with all the chicks trying to fuck you with husbands and boyfriends, and let yourself find a decent chick.

Remember this if you don't remember shit else I've said here, getting buff does bring on the chicks, but some of them are old, nasty looking, and shit you don't want to fuck with. And the gay guys start hitting on you too... be ready to kick them in the teeth too. Don't get hung up on some chick that looks alright but she has 2 kids in tow... that's not your kids bro. You'll be wasting your time and never be #1 in her eyes. Those kids are and despite her talking trash about him, Dad is #2 even though you're feeding his kids and doing all the work. Fuck that shit.

I say go get a van and live in it. Get a hot 16 year old girlfriend that think you're the shit. Be doing Bulgarian split squats and shit in your van. Why stop with one hot 16 year old when you now have a 14 year old chick too. Be doing chest presses in your van... not paying rent and shit. Now you have 3 girlfriends and you'll look at this post you made and call yourself a fag. All that money that went to having to pay rent and random shit, just goes into your van. Your internet is better than every house around you and the things you own are better. You're buff af because you lift and now you have 4 girlfriends at once. You live in a van and all that shit you make from working goes farther than ever. Just a pussy pounding van lifer that even installed a shower and a toilet that incenerates your shit into ashes. Living better than most of these other losers just because you dropped out of the rat race with 5 girlfriends now.

Live the dream or keep playing by the rules and be just like them. They work, spend all their money, then have to work some more, and when they do get a pussy that likes them, they just work harder and spend more money to keep it like a subscription to netflix even if they don't fuck with it anymore.

You're just stuck in the system that was designed to keep you down and not have 6 girlfriends at once that you bang everyday. Break out of the matrix and get 8 girlfriends at once that you bang everyday. Spend more time clapping cheeks than you do working. That's what I do... I fuck chicks and play video games and don't even work anymore... I make chicks buy all my shit. Just saying. Call me a loser all you want, but at least I don't spend 8 or so hours of my day being a man servant to someone you probably don't even know or don't even like.

You got to break the fucking matrix bro. Cheat the system and shit. Then figure out why you're fucking 14 different women everyday and this dude online is complaining about not having a chick at all. That's when it's your turn to teach a bro. Bitches ain't shit but hoes and tricks.

[Levin]

There must be more to this. Dating sites destroy even attractive men's self esteem. So do not use. I believe they are 'impossible'.

However, I feel like there is perhaps a deeper reason why you're struggling to get the girl you want. What is your lifestyle like? Do you have any addictions or bad habits. What is your emotional and mental health like. How's your general self esteem and confidence. Do you generally feel hopeful about the future or is there an essence of 'in drudgery, given up'. Do you need to make changes to your career, work life balance, social relationships. All questions to think about that may help go a little deeper.

You said you go to the gym. I don't go to the gym, but I would imagine there is possible the opportunity to strike up conversation there? So yes, deeper forces at work, perhaps.

[Bkay123]

I don’t have any addictions. I don’t smoke or drink. I consider myself a happy person. I like to joke around. Growing up I was always shy. Even when I was in my 20’s. Maybe I need to go out more. As far as the gym goes. There are a limited number of women there and I don’t think approaching girls in the gym would be ok.

[Ez-Bri-Z_v2]

If you felt that bad on a dating site then why go back? You can meet people away from them whether it be in person or on other internet platforms. Why do you think your profile didn't work? Was it your photos or your bio?

[Bkay123]

I put up good photos and was honest on my bio.

[Ez-Bri-Z_v2]

Well there had to be a reason it didn't work out then. What do you think it was?

As for a bio, being honest is great, but you also need to be interesting on it. It's your first introduction to potential matches.

[Bkay123]

I guess don’t know how to be interesting.

[Ez-Bri-Z_v2]

🙁

Well, there are probably guides out there that could help you write a good bio for your likes and interests.

[Bkay123]

I’ve googled all of them too.

[Ez-Bri-Z_v2]

Hmm, well, if you have refined your bio to where it is interesting, possibly funny or at least entertaining, then have you tried cycling out photos to see what works?

[Bkay123]

Lol I’ve tried it all. The only thing I think might be why is my height. I’m 5’2. Most women put in their bios saying swipe left if under 6’ tall.

[Ez-Bri-Z_v2]

Ah, yeah there are a lot of shallow women out there. I get it though. I'm 5'10, pretty tall for a woman. Some guys don't know what to do about that and if they even feel comfortable dating someone as tall as or taller than them.

My brother is only 5'4 and he ended up with a cheerleader who he started dating while they were in high school and she's as tall as I am.

It's not impossible to find, but dating apps are not the best of the best when it comes to finding partners. A lot of people think they can be picky and a lot of them are not great catches themselves.

[Bkay123]

Back in high school and in my 20’s I was always shy. I’m just coming out of my shell. There were girls I talked to in school. Even had a couple girls write there numbers in my year book saying keep in touch. My thought was maybe they were just being nice.

[Ez-Bri-Z_v2]

Oof , I get that feeling. I always feel like people are just being nice when they compliment me and it just stems from low self esteem.

If you had the confidence to talk to girls in high school whether they initiated or not, then where did that confidence go?

[Bkay123]

I don’t know. I guess life. I even met some girls in college. One girl turned gay and now looks like a guy. Another girl I got her number but every time I asked her to hangout she was busy. But she would have conversations with me over text like a text buddy so I stopped.

[Ez-Bri-Z_v2]

Well, although your luck hasn't been the greatest with who you've found, you at least have the courage to talk to women. Is work or other social activities an option?

[Bkay123]

I work in the parks but not much people there during the work day.

[Ez-Bri-Z_v2]

Ok how about taking up a hobby that gets you closer to others?

For example, I play games. I get to talk to people in game and make friends.

Do you have anything like that?

[Bkay123]

Like video games?

[Ez-Bri-Z_v2]

Or just any hobby really. Video games are just one hobby you can try to meet people with.

[Bkay123]

I do play video games.

[Ez-Bri-Z_v2]

Multi-player games? I find a lot of women play mmo's for example.

[Bkay123]

I play call of duty off line

[Ez-Bri-Z_v2]

Oh, yeah that's gonna be harder to meet people

[Bkay123]

It’s harder now lol.

[Ez-Bri-Z_v2]

Lol fair enough. Maybe you can pick a hobby that puts you closer to a mix of people including women. Not sure what that would be, I'm agoraphobic and never leave the house lol, but my interactions all come from gaming or social media.

[Nikki1989]

It is sad that people have such low self-esteem they feel the need for dating sites. Go outside and look around, people everywhere. Go talk to someone. Not hard.

[Bkay123]

I work in the parks. The girls I see usually leave as soon as they see me in the park.

[Anonymous]

Yes, but mainly for entertainment purposes. Don't EVER take ANY woman seriously on a dating site until you've met in person and she gives you GOOD reason to take her serious.

Secondly my advice to you is NEVER message ANY woman on a dating site first. Look at as many profiles as you like. Look at them multiple times if you wish. But NEVER message them first. The rules for online dating are inverse to real life. And the women MUST pursue you. Because most guys on online dating are trash. That's just real. So you my friend are the prize. Always remember that. And trust me. The RIGHT ones WILL seek you out. I'm not saying it'll be a tor**** of women. Because the good women are in short supply as well. But they WILL seek you out. Be patient! And don't take it all too seriously.

Good luck!

[msc545]

It is not worth you time or money.

[msc545]

Your height might be the problem, but if it isn't, it will be something else. Women reject about 90% of men on these sites, myself included. These sites are a scam and a ripoff for men.

[Bkay123]

Yea I thought that as well. The girls I did match with and talk to were lunatics.

[msc545]

It is also very dangerous. Get off those sites, brother. And NEVER get married- that is financial suicide. I recommend patronizing escorts. Lots of them here - tryst. link

[Bkay123]

How much do they charge and have you used them?

[msc545]

They list their prices on the site.

[Bkay123]

Ok but have used used them?

[msc545]

Why does that matter?

[Chargirllll]

For fun yeah