I am a research scholar (physics) of Indian origin who lives in the West. A lot of people don't realise that India is a big country with a lot of variation, and they club all of us together. I grew up in a very liberal family (not helicopter parents) with educated and employed parents who both work and share family responsibilities. I grew up helping in all of the housework, and been living on my own (out of home) after 18.
I enjoy reading, art, gardening, and cooking, among other things. I can cook most of the Indian food (even from every corners), as well as European food. I love cooking for my friends and often bake cakes to share with them at the Uni (they do return the favours). I don't adhere to any dietary restrictions and am not particularly religious.
Personality-wise, I am kinda nerdy, like reading and have read a large section of general history, science, sci-fi, and classic literature, and often write some of my own for online journals.
I can be a bit shy when it comes to relationships (not much if we are just friends), generally pretty chilled out, not that much into small talk, but if you love to yap for long, I would be your person. I often struggle to understand people a little, and I don't have much dating experience (spend a long time on academia mostly), so someone kind and open-minded would be perfect for me. I may talk about heavy Physicsy the whole day but play hide and seek with undergrads in the evening.
I love animals and back in India used to rescue and foster stray kitten/puppies for over five years.
In dating, people frequently search for emotional intelligence, kindness, and other humane traits. I won't describe them here because those are the intangible attributes that the other person must experience if you are dating...
Add any suggestions that you feel are helpful! Thanks for reading such a long description.
Girl's Behavior
Guy's Behavior
Flirting
Dating
Relationships
Fashion & Beauty
Health & Fitness
Marriage & Weddings
Shopping & Gifts
Technology & Internet
Break Up & Divorce
Education & Career
Entertainment & Arts
Family & Friends
Food & Beverage
Hobbies & Leisure
Other
Religion & Spirituality
Society & Politics
Sports
Travel
Trending & News
What Girls Said
Other than being shy, yes.
I am not too much but can open up if the opposite person shows interest.
Then that’s not an issue if you can open up.
I’m talking more sociably shy. I like to go out in groups and hang out with friends, etc.
It's just that I am bad at small talk and find it awkward, will probably listen to you if you talk long about anything.
Nope. Made that mistake once, never again.
Would you care to describe what happened?
We went out to dinner. Before the appetizers even arrived, he:
Said i can't have male friends
Can't dress immodestly
I have to speak only when spoken to
I have to give sex on demand
I can't have masculine hobbies
I can't work
Etc.
All within the first 10 minutes of the first date. I ended up leaving. Fuck that.
Wow, that's insane. I can't even comprehend who does that or how someone like this can even exist. Unfortunately, a lot of Indian guys are not civilised, and they are destroying dating for others who look like us.
As I said in my post, India is a large country with extremely varied demographics. My family and upbringing were never been typical Indian nor I am one. I am a scientist, and I do have Western friends, and at least the brainpower to differ what's creepy and what's appropriate.
I wonder where he is from! I grew up in India, but I had never heard of such extremities from any of my friends.
No. Indian men are small downstairs