What are ways to meet the one?

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OneViewpoint · Accepted Answer

ROFL, if there is a secret method to finding "The One", it has eluded me all my life.

I think the only way to even increase your chances is brute force. Volume! Get out there and meet people. More people = more better. Socialize. Not dating per se, just meeting a large number of people so you can see what's out there and who may be a good option.

And accept that chasing "perfection" which doesn't exist in the real world is stupid. Perfection is an abstract concept that's only useful in intellectual exercises. We all have to make a choice and settle. Otherwise you risk losing a good chunk of your prime years searching in vain. Instead of getting the whole cake, or a nice slice of cake which would fill you up, you end up with no cake and a lot of regrets.

There is no shame in settling. 99% of us do it. Just don't settle too low. And realize that making a relationship work will take work and compromise from both people. Try focusing on healthy personalities who can put in the work and make rational compromises.

Summeroflove · Accepted Answer

Well you do have to put yourself out there but not try too hard. Because what can happen is two extremes one being that you make false self fulfilling prophesies with confirmation bias. Where every little thing is taken as a sign someone’s meant to be the one when they’re not. As well as if someone becomes too picky where every little thing makes them push someone away because well they aren’t perfect.

It will happen when it happens many times people know when they know. But some people get too desperate and marry the wrong one. Which is worse then never finding someone

DishLady · Accepted Answer

Basically just attend things you enjoy and someone with similar interests will also be there. Avoid bars/pubs if you’re looking for something more long term (although SOME people do luck out and find their person that way). Get out to galas and festivals that are going to start popping up. Volunteer for your local church/temple/school/etc.

ohsheeT · Answer

Well the thing is is which one

I mean it could be anyone.

And if there's 2. We'll which one it the real one from there

Or if there is 10 and they meet you at 5 pm and you meet 9 and none are really your type

then the10 th one shows up but everyone is gone he was probably the one

Tomorrow you could go somewhere. And he might walk right past you.

Learn how to feel energy. That way you will feel him coming from 50 feet away

Static_In_The_Attic · Answer

As for that special wonderful someone they’re waiting be to found & who knows maybe they will find you first. In life I always say if you never try you will never know & as for me I rather try & fail rather than not try at all. In life if you like someone you shouldn’t be afraid to tell them & in life if you want to meet people you have to get out & greet people. As for that special wonderful someone when you meet them you will know. Time will cease to exist when you are with them & two hearts will become one. When you are with them they will bring the best out in you & vice versa. When you are with them you will have fun, get silly & stupid with each other & write a love story.

Zack-Bann · Answer

Well let’s see the definition of “the one”
Someone you meet with whom you’re very highly compatible

There are 2 ingredients:
- compatibility
- meeting

So first you need to be meeting people
You won’t find the one if you live in seclusion

And second you need to get good at weeding out incompatibility

Many people waste years of their lives trying to fit a cube into a triangular hole
They date someone they’re not compatible with and hope for the beat. Or that somehow the other person will change and molded into their ideal partner

It never happens

When people report having met “the one” it’s not an act of destiny
It’s an act of luck

They met the person that fits without you needing to make them fit

So there you have it. These are the ways

Anonymous · Answer

What’s your past relationships been like? Do you have kids? Divorced? At your age it’s harder, not impossible, just more challenging. I think women who are meant to be wives get swooped up right away. So then you think ok what’s going on w you? Not that good looking? I don’t know.

HighValue · Answer

One important thing many people overlook is to be a good quality desirable person first so when they finally do meet someone they want for long term, that person wants them too.

slatyb · Answer

Go where the boys are. Outdoor activity groups, gaming groups (chess clubs, board games, etc.), dance groups (Salsa, Swing, etc.), mixed choral groups, Habitat for Humanity, etc.

NicholasRedone · Answer

In person aka they're a former coworker, a former customer, a customer but your quitting anyway, etc etc or randomly you meet them or friends of friends or - dating app - bumble or tinder

sawno · Answer

Tell me if you figure that out. The only time I met someone who could have been the one it happened entirely randomly.

Nikki1989 · Answer

You can meet people anywhere at any time. You are only limited by your imagination, confidence, and your motivation.

Lovelydear7 · Answer

In my opinion, you can't just meet the one like that knows everything about you , What you like and what you dont like. It's more about like meeting a person and liking them and kind of mold each other to fit each other's needs and hope for the best

exitseven · Answer

I am the wrong one to ask about this because I found my wife while doing everything I could to not find anybody.

Shiprex · Answer

Go out. See a potential 1 and then go talk to them to check if they are who you thought they were.

David_beckham · Answer

Well, "meeting the one" can be anywhere and everywhere. But some of the ways can be "going out" or "going online."

nedyboy05 · Answer

i’ve always been happy by myself or with friends. i’ve never gone out of my way to find someone. eventually you will meet someone and either something will happen or it won’t. when it does, that’s how you’ve likely found the one

Iron_Man · Answer

i’m not sure if there’s really a way but theLord will provide

Anonymous · Answer

Either someone will recommend him to you, or you will meet him through social media. I don't know of any other way.

Jay-_- · Answer

I don't think there are set ways to meet "the one".

Markella2 · Answer

When they earn the ones get 99% I give 50% the other 49% is earned the other 1% so we don't get too comfortable.

Anonymous · Answer

I wonder the same, because I'm still single and a virgin, never had a date, never had a kiss.

Eempriyanka · Answer

If someone is the one then you must have already found them

Stacy00 · Answer

Meet in High School but didn't hook up until 5 years later. Were now Engaged.

Menace69 · Answer

Start with becoming one at first.

DrPepper12 · Answer

At a bookstore with a cafe.

LiamJHayden · Answer

Take some swings by approaching.

Uglygaypoorcoward94 · Answer

no such thing

In_Trance · Answer

Get off your phone go outside and talk to people

PaleDale · Answer

I use meetup just to hang out with potential dates

Ladsin2 · Answer

Through friends and family.

Anonymous · Answer

There is no the one or soulmates

Smile456 · Answer

Meetups, bars

masterSir · Answer

Say hi

wkhan_87 · Answer

Just let them know

Predetor · Answer

Come let's meet

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