Why are much younger guys interested in me?

[Anonymous]

Lately the majority of guys are a lot younger than me and want to date and hookup why are younger guys wanting older women?

[beldath]

Probably because you're easier to reach than someone of their own age.
The internet is completely changing how dating works, and who we date.
Being hot definitely helps.

[Blunky]

You check the box for most younger guys.

A woman? Check.

That's it.

[Sudheerk]

I think, Boys like mature women, they feel mature women have better understanding and experence,

[Stevepro68]

Maybe you are just really hot. Age doesn't matter

[Madgedays]

I just saw you complaining about a 19 year old not being adult in another question where the man was older

I smell hypocrisy or jealousy

[Stevepro68]

@Madgedays well there is a reasonable limit my Girlfriend of 4 years is 20 years younger than me. Our differences are manageable. I never said that 19 year old wasn't adult. Just a disproportionately developmental difference. I hope you can agree that there is a tremendous personality and emotional stability change from age 18 to 25. So it's a fluid time. In the other post you mentioned there was a 25 year difference. I hope that this person is not referencing that. assuming the age is accurate would be attracted to infants or 5 year olds. Assuming 18 year old at a minimum. The developmental difference at that age is significant but even then not as disproportionate change as someone who has 20+ years of adult life experience. A significant. In my personal experience I love her and we have a lot in common adult children, divorced, own our homes, have our own money. She's younger but we are far closer than of she was a recently graduated. High school senior and I was 39.

[Madgedays]

You said she wasn't "really an adult" at 19. And I do understand your point about the development but if it's purely sexual I don't see the harm or how brain development matters.

[Madgedays]

*"hardly an adult" it was

[Stevepro68]

@Madgedays its is a clear power dynamic to have the advantage of decades of life experience money that 20 years of adult life has verses at best 3 and more like 1. Doesn't make it wrong but it is an obvious difference. They will always be the same age apart but as you age the percentage of your total life that 20 years makes is significantly from a experience and power dynamic. You develop physically until about 16 to 18... Mentally your whole life. This person has 1 year of adult experience. The 40 year old has 20+ years. A 50 year old has 30 years. While a 30 year old has about 10. Simply put 1\3 of a 50 year old adult experience while the 19nuear old has 1\20th of that experience and development. Plus significant data in psychiatric research shows that the biggest social developmental stage is from 18 to 25. So not only has she seen less but she has yet to take in the biggest portion of her adult social development. Where a 29 year old has about 10 years and a 18 year old has about 1 10th that experience. I definitely see your point that there are similarities but this author didn't say how much younger the males were. Could be a year could be 15. There is a real difference.

[Madgedays]

Research says mid twenties is a time when people make a significant development but this varies from person to person. Some say you only develop at 30, that makes 25 year old kids by that logic. Mid twenties also start at 23 or 24, so once again the 25 number is just a myth.

I also understand power dynamics are important in relationships but not in sex. They are two different things not to be confused.

[Stevepro68]

@Madgedays it's not a myth see my other reply research but arnett Kroger martinussen and Marcia as recent as 2010. Also well defined puberty to 25 there are physiologic changes to the brain this is supported by multiple lines of evidence in nueroscience.

[Madgedays]

I know neuroscience debunked the myth that the brain matures at 25
there's no evidence for it or anything. They also explained why scientists and people thinks it's 25. Your brain can develop anytime in your 20s up to 30s. There's no rule.

[Madgedays]

slate.com/.../...ment-25-year-old-mature-myth.html

It's explained well and steinberg agrees too

[Stevepro68]

@Madgedays so 25 as a cut off is not arbitrary. There is reasonable psychological and developmental support for 25 as a age milestone. As for individuals we aren't talking about an individual this was a general question. It's not a fringe or minority developmental hypothesis, not a myth or arbitrary. I am not really sure why this distinction is so important to you. Is your argument that there is no significant difference between 19 and 25 psychologically or emotionally? Or more that we have slow steady development, or no development as we age? There are always changes. School employment, living situation. Usually unstable under 25 stable over 30. Not always but generally, Which is more my point. A 19 year old is far far more likely to be dependant for living space, money, and choices than a 40 year old. The father you get away from adolescent years. The more likely you will not have to rely on someone else for basic needs. Level the playing field. There are always exceptions, if that is what you are arguing, this wasn't a specific case except for age. So it's only generalities. I more than happy to take on new knowledge. My child and human developmental sections in school were more than 20 years ago and I am happy to learn something new..

[Madgedays]

It's very arbitrary, there is no specific age when something important happens in your life or brain. You can disagree but the scientists I linked agree.

Regardless, this has nothing to do with sex. So I don't even know why this is a topic for discussion?

[Anonymous]

Because the guys your age are wise enough to see through your 💩.

[Asker]

LOL. omfg

[Anonymous]

My ex wife F44 started dating 18M. Those things just happens 🤷🏻‍♂️

[jahaims]

You're a milf to them

[Anonymous]

Because liberalism is being more entrenched