Do you find it easy or difficult to look into someone's eyes?

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Putting it another way: Are you shy?

NathanDavis · Accepted Answer

I find it fascinating...

and, no... I am not shy anymore, but I used to be extremely shy as a kid and early teens

funny thing is that even at the young age, I would still look at people and keep eye-to-eye contact and then I would not be able to "escape" or "avoid" that... it was like I was pretty much stuck with it and that's what would drive me to maximum anxiety, lmao

not anymore though... I love eyes, I really do

bddddd · Accepted Answer

You can spot an extroverted accountant because he is looking at the other person's shoes...

AmandaYVR · Answer

Not at all. Everything is in the eyes. I think I sometimes make people a little uncomfortable because I peer into theirs. They feel seen, heard, listened to, and that can be a little unsettling. They have to be on the ball. And, yes, I am seeing.

MrOracle · Answer

I'm not the least bit shy, and I have no trouble looking people in the eye.

I've done tons of public speaking, have been in bands, have been (and still am) a mobile DJ, and I own my own business where I am regularly introducing myself to and talking with new customers. Whatever "shy" I might have had as a young child got left behind half a century ago.

DishLady · Answer

Depends on the person. Most times I don't have an issue, but if they're looking at me too intensely it makes me want to look away.

HawkPerception · Answer

Very easy to look into someone's eyes. I find that's where I can tell a lot about a person as well, so it's where I want to be looking.

Simslover92 · Answer

I'm shy so yeah I definitely find it difficult to look into someone's eyes.

OneViewpoint · Answer

Oh fuck me. Here's another misunderstanding of people like me. Yes I find it difficult to look a woman in the eyes. And the default assumption of most people is that I must be shy. LOL no, not even close. I will say anything to anyone. I truly don't GAF if you like me or not. In fact, I'm usually praying you don't.

Why? Why do I avoid the "go to" flirting move of most women locking eyes with me like the plague? Because I get approached by women a LOT. And 95% of the time, 1 minute into the conversation, I'm looking for an exit ramp. I know if I look at them, and they read that as interest, I'm gonna have another 1 min conversation that leaves me trying to end it in a benign manner. I can do it. I do it. But it gets old fast. I'd rather not give them the wrong impression and avoid the entire process. So I'm generally turned 3/4 away, looking at the TV or my phone, or talking to one of my buddies. Doesn't work 100% of the time. But it's fairly effective.

If I want to look into your eyes and communicate interest, I absolutely can and will. No problem at all. I can walk up and turn on the charm and make you laugh. But the women who draw my interest and curiosity are few and far between. Don't assume I'm shy. I'm sending you a message you don't seem to want to hear.

Lliam · Answer

I don't  gaze  into people's eyes during ordinary conversations. Doing so for extended periods feels invasive or like asserting dominance or a challenge or something. It can feel creepy. I think I look at their eyes and face in order to gauge their reactions when I am speaking. But I usually look at people's lips when they are talking and lip read. I pay attention to everything they say rather than try to see into their soul.  I'm not averse to looking people in the eye. It just depends on the circumstances.

Anonymous · Answer

Incredibly difficult. Eye contact makes me feel threatened and unsafe for some reason. I get nervous and uncomfortable. Normally I can't even hold eye contact with someone for a full second before I look down or to the side. It started in middle school when I was bullied a lot and just never went away because high school wasn't a whole lot better either. I have chronic neck and back pain because when I'm in public I always tilt my head and look slightly down so I can't meet eyes with people, but the years of bad posture have fucked up my neck and back.

Little_Bumblebee · Answer

I've always struggled, though I'm much better at it than I used to be.
I do think it's more than me just being shy.

I'm often nervous talking with new people, but even when I talk with my friends, my eyes dart around in every direction, often they focus on something around the person I'm talking to.

Zack-Bann · Answer

As a kid, I was unable to look the store clerk in the eyes when buying a bag of chips.

Today I have absolutely no problem looking straight into someone’s soul (when it’s appropriate)

It took a long time and a lot of growth but my shy and awkward self is well into the past at this point

Likestorizz · Answer

Yeah I just don't want to scare them away with my 😡 looking face if their girls which are my favorite I would be in my mind wow your soo cute. I would say no no edu don't look at her tits focus, don't check her curves edu focus on eyes yesss. Then edu will say I hope my thoughts weren't heard.

Jove79 · Answer

I can look anyone in the eyes.. but I find that women are very shy around me, very few look at me in my eyes with a smile.. most bury their faces in the phone on purpose or look down

ABC1x1x · Answer

Yes and no. I'm a sociopath. We just stare. At people. Things. In people's eyes. I learned very early that it unsettled people so I literally count to 3 then look up at their forehead then back to their eyes and then count to 3 and look at their lips. Then look away at something else. I now notice that some people notice this and question why I won't stare into their eyes as they drone on about senseless things. It's so draining. Sometimes I wish i was born autistic instead.

PeachyPie93 · Answer

I used to be shy and I still am I guess.. so usually I don't look at people in their face unless they speak to me but I am confident to do that much..

Sonorous · Answer

I used to. But now I don't give a fuck. I'll look at anyone for whatever duration. Ever since I realized just how insane my shadow is, it's hard to be afraid. It literally smiles at danger.

Shiprex · Answer

I used to but actively make it a point and do not find it difficult though I do tend to find people really just talk and not say anything as well.

ChiTown33 · Answer

Nope.  I'm not shy, but I'm unassuming. Sometimes I refrain from saying to much until I understand somebody better so as not to say something that may offend them. But it's not done from shyness.

MemeSupreme · Answer

i used to be terrible, but i had to learn to do it at my my first job talking to customers. it still can be uncomfortable tho

Lynx122 · Answer

Now I find it easy. When I was 15-16 it was impossible. But I forced myself to do it until it didn't feel hard anymore :P

Abbi_T · Answer

I love looking into my boyfriend's eyes. He has the most beautiful, loving eyes

Phoenix98 · Answer

I mean I look directly into the eyes of everyone I talk to. I thought that was common place?

douride2 · Answer

I am kind of shy but I have no issue looking someone in the eyes.

Nikki1989 · Answer

I always look into the eyes of people I am talking to, and I hope they do the same.

Hispanic-Cool-Guy · Answer

Easy. Not looking someone in the eyes when they are talking to you makes it seem you aren't taking them seriously.

mrkdvsn · Answer

I've always found it difficult to "look into someone's eyes"... unless it's only for a moment at a time

Tommysunami · Answer

Depends honestly. Some people I can and some I can't. Obviously people I know it's easier then people I don't know or don't know well. I chalk it up to being somewhat shy.

fish5505_87 · Answer

I can be shy, but I was always taught to look people in the eyes, so I usually do.

Anonymous · Answer

No... if it's a really hot girl, I'm too shy.

Professor-college · Answer

I don't mind doing that anymore. I've become more confident

moon_knight · Answer

This should never be difficult for a knight 🌙

VictorHugo · Answer

It's very easy to look someone in the eye if you're nearsighted.

Tarifa · Answer

Easy with the people I trust.

serious · Answer

Yes, I honestly find it tough

lilBigPotato · Answer

No unless I have bad conscience

WhitneySnow · Answer

Not that shy but it depends on my mood

ProbablyClueless · Answer

I find it very easy

Anonymous · Answer

Not shy, just autistic.

Anonymous · Answer

If I like them it’s easy

Knightwatch27 · Answer

Always been easy to me.

Eempriyanka · Answer

If given the chance, I'll eye rp anyone

Lisaasker · Answer

Difficult at first

QuietRunner · Answer

depends on the activity

Agape93 · Answer

Very easy

KittygosMeoWW · Answer

Easy

Jay-_- · Answer

Yes.

dudeinohio · Answer

Yeah

shortster · Answer

Difficult

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