Should special needs people only date each other and give up on dating non disabled people?

[Anonymous]

Okay guys. Im autistic. I’m just going to be straight up honest with you guys. I don’t think I will EVER find the man of my dreams.

Let’s face it, most men that I want and like never like me back. I’ve only had two boyfriends in my life. My first boyfriend had ADHD.

I went on dates with NT guys and that ended up disappointing. My current ex boyfriend cheated on me with another woman and said he couldn’t handle being with a woman that’s “special needs” and it’s better if I stick with men in my own league. Stick with special needs men and broke my heart. I took myself out of dating for. I give up. I don’t want to be special needs all my life. I thought I would grow out of being special needs but I keep getting reminded that even though I’m an adult I am still special needs and I should accept that I will never be like the neurotypical people (people with no disabilities, general people).

Let’s face it, I’m picky. I masked a lot because I didn’t want to be treated like I’m helpless or special needs (which I HATE that term) because people with disabilities and ND people get discriminated a lot harshly. I’ve always dream of having a wedding, marrying the man of my dreams. Being picked up and carried but my ass is too tall and fat (231lbs and 5’10”1/2). Guys find me intimidating because I’m tall and a bigger woman. I’m 26, STILL single, autistic (aspergers), still live at home, I don’t drive (getting back into learning) and let’s face it, I don’t have what it takes to date. I know my friends introduced me or tried to hook me up with men but I kept saying no.

[Anonymous]

I'm not surprised that you have dated or been in relationships before because it's more common for men on the autism spectrum to have never been in a relationship before than for women and it should be obvious or no surprise.

Of course plenty of guys on the autism spectrum you get to date and have relationships, but over the past several years now I've noticed that it's quite common or not unheard of for lots of guys on the autism spectrum to have never dated or to have never been in a relationship before and lots of these guys are in their later twenties and 30s and older

[Spencer10]

OK so beware... I am certainly no expert. But autism is a spectrum right? My vibe is you are high functioning given this question so I would not close any door or limit yourself. Dating just sucks at times period. You are not alone in that. I sense a lot of frustration. Totally understandable.

[red-lipstick-girl]

Please don't think like that. Being autistic doesn't make you different from others. You've come across men who upset you, but life doesn't always continue like this. Please get bad thoughts out of your mind.

[Anonymous]

Probably yes. I mean I'm not saying retards should be relegated to other retards. But let's be honest, most non retards don't want to date retards. So retards need to understand "normals" don't owe them anything.

In short, it's fine to want to date a normal. But you have zero right to be angry if a normal doesn't want to date you.

[Asker]

Okay first of y’all just because we have special needs doesn’t mean we are regards. That’s very offensive, brutal and very rude.

[Mrtcn01]

How could it be you are autistic but you define yourself very well

[Asker]

People with autism aren’t the same

[Mrtcn01]

I hope good things find you soon

[David_beckham]

In dating, love and personality are also involved and not just disability, so I don't think that disabled people should only date disabled people.

[Ironic_Method]

I'm autistic and have an amazing partner. It CAN happen.

[nicfire171]

I’m sorry that sucks