Why do people supposedly feel sorry for people with disabilities yet they won’t invite them to go out or date them?

[Anonymous]

[The_Confusion]

Coreect me if I'm wrong, this is probably going to be based on the last science rumors I remember off the top. And I think of this as some sort of key to the afterlife... secrets of the universe... ooooooops I mean I'm thinking up a theory to try to understand my own instincts, so I can direct them in the best way. Although spiritual shit is relevant, some credible gurus say that gender is very significant in the afterlife.

What you're really asking indirectly, is; why don't people want to start families and make babies with disabled people?

At least this sort of question feels different from the extremely boring questions flooding the homepage of gag.

Feeling sorry for someone and being friends with them and caring for them genuinely does not mean you fucking have to date them. Just like you don't fucking date your own family members of the opposite sex.

What you ask about, I think it happens for the same reason obese people are not sexually appealing. Going out and dating, are very different activities from having sex, but they all are parts of one long process: human reproduction.

Apparently some animals are monogamous and it is so only when the offspring is very needy, just like humans need multiple years of intensive care in order to survive. In other words some "scientists" would argue that love is a survival mechanism and specifically romantic love is a breeding and child-raising mechanism.

In short, disabled people will more commonly produce disabled unhealthy children. I don't think I really should chew up so fine the obvious. You probably understand that being sick and seeing others sick is a psychological kick in the balls. Only fucking degenerates can observe sickness and suffering and be sexually turned on at the same time. Being turned on isn't just a mere stream of ideas, although it can be that if you choose. To be genuinely physically turned on you require specific sexual juices to flow. And it is obvious that one's reproductive functions normally get suppressed upon observing sickness in another.

So, biologic processes by default make us act as if dating is reserved for those you plan on breeding with, and disabilities suppress reproductive functions.

[incorrected]

Feeling sorry for people isn't the same thing as caring enough to help them out, and certainly isn't the same as being attracted to them. If you're hot and disabled, you're still gonna get dates, but if you're average looking or below, you're not gonna get approached or any takers for your advertisement. Cruel world eh!

[Nikki1989]

It is called ableism, and it is a form of discrimination that involves prejudice or discrimination against individuals with disabilities. It can manifest in various ways, including negative stereotypes, low expectations, and exclusion. Most people do this in one form or another.

[Anonymous]

So invite them out of pity? As if that’s so much better.

[Cripplingkingship]

I don't feel sorry for people with disablities. I treat everyone the same. Feeling sorry for people doesn't help them. Plus it makes things awkward with that person, and most disable people don't want your symaphy.

I invite people or think most people invite accordingly who they like, not cause their disability.

[jahaims]

Why would feeling bad for someone mean they would date them? Having a pity relationship would be cruel in the first place.