Friends with benefits can a girl get a guide book here?

[plumplum-1994]

So I think I have a friends with benefits? I don’t really know? I just need a man’s perspective or well anyones really. I met him through church. Well his mom who was at church then him. We all went out to eat. He payed for us. Was sweet and respectful. Gave me his number if I needed any help with anything to give him a call. Well we ended up texting to hook up, I work a lot don’t have much time for dating I’m in a new town. So I don’t know anyone. I’m single. He’s 6 years older than me has no kids. Last night afterwards he mentioned his ex who we go to church with and how she wanted a baby but he didn’t want one so she got knocked up by someone else and married him. He’s mentioned that she drinks a lot. And is mentally manipulative, like she could have really messed up his life after he everything he’s done to fix it from leaving prison. So he slowly opened up to me last night. But he just like I don’t know shut down on me? When he left. He hasn’t messaged me like he normally has. Again this is just the 2nd time we’ve hooked up. Am I overthinking or? He’s mentioned he wants more to life he wants to travel he wants to do more. I was under the impression friends with benefits only message to hook up and that’s it but his words say something else. Like if my car acts up he gets upset if I don’t call him.

[ProbablyClueless]

Ugh... sounds like you're heading in that direction. Relationship lite... all the obligations of a relationship without any of the stability, reliability, clarity or communication of a real relationship. The man has even laid out his life story to give him an easy escape route if the hook ups no longer interest him. There's just so much instability in the situation you've described.

That weird expectation that you're going to call him if your car breaks down or something, even y'all have only banged twice. You're new in town. He's still reforming himself from prison. He dated someone who ran off to have a kid with someone else but they're still in church together.

If I were you, I'd being running like hell.

[plumplum-1994]

Ah got it okay really thought I was overthinking it but I rather know now than later on if I become to invested. Clearly I don’t need to take this too seriously and don’t overthink everything. Thank you!

[ProbablyClueless]

Sure thing! I'm glad I could help

[Anonymous]

You're 30 years old getting used like a prostitute. This is embarrassing. You're unmarried and have no kids. This man won't even make you a girlfriend because you're not pretty and you're an embassment. Way to go 🎉🎉

[plumplum-1994]

Cool,

[Nikki1989]

A friends with benefits is an elementary arrangement, but most men will seek to make it as complicated as possible.

[jahaims]

Fuck buddy's through church lmfao

[Pterodon]

Why don’t you just ask him.

[Sam1133]

You're overthinking