How do you politely reject someone after the second date?

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he is a close friend of my close guy friend and I liked him when i saw him in the party and I was like he's my type (only appearance because I had not talked with him) then at the second party he approached me and his voice and the way he spoke was such a turn off for me but not a big deal, so we went on our first date and everything was ok but again I got the ick from him like his manners are good but in general as a person he's not my type, so how should I say it to him or how should I act?

ohsheeT · Accepted Answer

Nice to see there is at least 1 girl out there that's doesn't pretend he will change

Well let's think about this um
I guess you could alway tell him you for got but you told your step dad you would go out with him.. might be a little to much. . how about step brother... ok then half brother... milk man no don't have those any more. Err let's see um your teacher no no she's already dating that one kid no no I know your friends little brother nooo wait Aluminum.
Can picker upper yah there ya go. And if they don't work You can always say the guy from the North Pole.
But he couldn't make it because there's no snow

Maybe_Maybe_not · Accepted Answer

Since he's part of your surroundings, I'd probably avoid white lies and tell it more politely than usual

alice55 · Accepted Answer

I have no idea it's very awkward like situation, if it were me I would just try to make him uninterested in me and make him end it.

trumpetplayerforlife · Accepted Answer

Tell them you had a good time but don't see this going any where else

Finchie40 · Answer

Just say you are a nice guy but , I like someone else , I’m sorry

LiaRaven · Answer

I would tell him directly that i don’t feel it anymore

Anonymous · Answer

Sheesh, females nowadays are so picky, no wonder people are single and not married and utterly scared of commitment. To the poster, I'm not saying you aren't allowed to have a preference or choice. But if you know him through a friend, it's mutual, if you met him at a party, it's mutual. If you like him looks wise and he has good manners what is the issue? No one is perfect in the world. If you're going to end, then fine end but don't drag something out where it gives him false hope. I'm in my 30s and as a guy, I regret wasting time on females I shouldn't have given a second of my time to. Good people with attraction is not easy. But I think that's why this generation, this era is COOKED. Females want to much and are way too picky.

There was a girl who didn't want a second date with me and she drag it out for almost a year until I got annoyed with her antics and she had the gull to insult my family and basically call me a POS. 3 months later she gets married and I see the dude and he's nothing special looks wise. Looks like a typical brown guy with a beard you'd see at a bus stop in New Delhi, India. I blocked her on everything and if I ever see her punk ass again I'd be rude with her the way she was rude with me. End of the day, I made her laugh, told her my ethics and morals, spoke about politics and she's the one who added me on social media and gave me her number. To all the girls and women out there reading this -- y'all are confusing, I'm not wasting my time with y'all, ain't worth my time to focus on my health, body, soul, strength and most importantly money.

RavVid · Answer

If it is not flowing he is probably feeling it too. Someone has to do the dirty deed. You can just say it is not gelling/not feeling it/its not you it is me/lets be friends. Or I don't want to fuck you... sorry.

I think keep it real and use the last variant. We all know the former means the later.

Shiprex · Answer

Say that you had a nice time and that you are grateful for him giving up his time to be with you but that you don't want to pursue anything with him.

slatyb · Answer

If he asks for a third date say "Thanks, you are a nice guy but I don't think we're a good fit." That's all. Don't give any specific reason, say "It's just a feeling." or something equally vague. If he asks again, don't respond and block him.

glennos89 · Answer

Being open and honest is always the best way to do it. People can't blame you for being honest about it although they might not liketo hear the truth.

PeachyPie93 · Answer

Just say you are a great guy but I'm not feeling it..

bddddd · Answer

Just lay it out flat and briefly... after two contacts you owe each other nothing. Don't be rude. Just say you don't want anything more with him. 25 words or less would be a good goal.

Nikki1989 · Answer

Be direct but gentle. If they can't handle it... not your problem.

BloodyMary6 · Answer

Tell him you like him, but he’s not for you. Act the way you do normally unless he makes you feel unsafe.

snotnose14 · Answer

Be straight up with him. If you keep beating around the bush and keep engaging him, he still thinks he has a chance. so tell him, "off!" F#@K OFF!

RingOfFire · Answer

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RedDawn_ · Answer

Tell them you were flattered and that you just didn't feel anything. I would offer to try and be friends instead

WhitneySnow · Answer

Just politely tell him you’d rather be just friends

beenherebefore · Answer

You either say sorry but I don’t think this going anywhere further or you ghost them.

Godihateyou · Answer

Go on a third and act a fucking fool. They will dump you.

Anonymous · Answer

it seems, keyword seems, most of the time, women lose interest after the first date more often than men do.

spartan55 · Answer

Has he actually asked you on a second date yet?

Jeff51 · Answer

Just say no thanks.

Aldan1609 · Answer

Tell him you have other plans

Anonymous · Answer

It's not important.

Robert1971 · Answer

Say not interested

itsannalee · Answer

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