What are some tips for a crush I have on this guy I have just only met?

[Anonymous]

I recently met this guy and he is really cute. I'd like to get to know him, but we have only just met, and not really spoken much or gotten to know each other.

We happen to be in a group, and are planning to go on a group trip. It is going to be a one night, one day trip, and it is coming up in two days. I am really excited, but do not want to make him uncomfortable, or fumble.

What are your best tips?

[SueShe]

Remember that a crush is usually a one-sided affair and that the crush seldom reciprocates that liking.

If you want to draw the attention of that person, remember not to come as needy, clingy and possibly even toxic by doing things you would normally not do just to draw that target person's attention.

Now, the question here is: What are your intentions, your final goal with that guy? Is it simply to get into his pants and once you have achieved what you wanted, you will get rid of him because he is no longer a novelty?

Whatever your ultimate goal is, don't hush or hurry things because you will just achieve the opposite of what you wanted.

[Asker]

Yes, I totally agree with you! My intentions are to hopefully pursue a relationship if he were to reciprocate such feelings. What would your advice be here?

[SueShe]

Do what I would call your homework.

That mean, inform yourself about that person and find out what his likes and dislikes are, his hobbies, what singers, music, movies and the like are and study about those things. When you see him, direct your chats onto those topics. You will see that if he realizes that you share the same interests, the conversation will just flow by itself. Good luck.

[Asker]

That sounds good! We share many interests and enjoy many of the same artists, etc 🙂

[Changiis07]

Just be yourself and approach him like you would a friend. Ask questions be happy and smile guys like when girls smile. It's feminine and they like being around you when you are in a good mood

[Alex-Snow]

Are you following him on socials yet? Maybe ask him out before the group outing and see how it goes?

[Asker]

I am not following him on socials yet and actually don’t know if he has any… maybe I could casually ask him then?

[Alex-Snow]

I would. How old is this guy?

[Asker]

He is the same age as myself. Just a few days older actually hahaha.

[Alex-Snow]

Go for it!

[Nikki1989]

Crushes are for teenagers or the very immature. You should be past those kinds of feelings by now.

[Asker]

You are right, but I am more so inclined to pursue a relationship in the case that he may be interested as well. What would your tips be here?

[In_Trance]

Talk to him

[Asker]

I totally would if I had a good idea how! What’s your advice?