What is your opinion on this?

[Anonymous]

My situationship has a problem with me wanting to go away with my best friend on holiday because the last time that I did go with her I got raped... I can understand why from his perspective but at the sametime I think he should trust me and I will not allow anyone to put me in vulnerable situations again why would I?
He was wondering why I won't go with him even though at the moment I am on holiday with him and his family,
I just wanted to be fair to him and to her too.


He said that if I go with her then him and me are done I told him that's toxic and black mailing too.
So if he wants to leave then he can I'm not stopping him as the door is always open to leave because I'm not gonna allow any man or anyone for that matter of fact to control me

Just wondering what is your opinion on the matter?

[chocolatetwopointo]

well is the person who raped u coming with you?

[Asker]

Nope my best friend

[chocolatetwopointo]

was the one who raped u someone u knew or a stranger?

[Asker]

A stranger

[chocolatetwopointo]

then what do ur boyfriend think is the problem?

[Asker]

That I might get raped again because of my friend acting reckless which I understand but at the sametime why would I ever put myself into a reckless situation again because of my friend?

[chocolatetwopointo]

wdym reckless? how is it her fault u got raped?

[Asker]

She went to the beach when I insisted her not to go because she doesn't know the guy... she promised that she wouldn't and we went to a bar where she knew that guy and had a lot to drink she wanted to go to the beach and I didn't want to be a bad friend so I went with her but then another guy came with us and long story short I was raped.

It was my own fault really because I should have just left her and went back to where we were staying but I would feel like a really bad friend if I did that

[chocolatetwopointo]

yeah no, it wasn't any of yall’s faults, only the guy that raped u. that can happen anywhere sadly.

[Asker]

True either way he has no right stopping me from going on holiday with my best friend and black mailing me by saying that if I go with her then he is finished with me but I guess if he does that then I'm better off without someone like that in my life anyway

[chocolatetwopointo]

yeah exactly, u should leave him

[Asker]

He can leave anytime the door is always open for him but if the toxicity and controlling continues I'll be the one leaving

[chocolatetwopointo]

good for u girl