He properly asked me to be his girlfriend, it seems so genuine and sweet but could it all be love bombing?

[Anonymous]

I have been talking to this guy for a while now. He’s very sweet and kind to me. He makes time for me. He’s taken me on lunch dates during his lunch breaks at work. He makes me feel special and wanted. We’ve been intimate with one another. He’s been around my kids. We practically live together. I make breakfast and dinner for us. We’re like a family. He’s made it official on IG and today he surprised me with balloons that read “Will you be my girlfriend?” And it feels good to see a guy putting in effort. It makes me think he could be the one for me. I don’t see us breaking up but I’m at the same time I’m afraid of just getting my hopes too far up but so far it seems to be going in all the right directions.

[Oliverlogan263]

Yo, that's awesome that your dude asked you to be his girlfriend in such a sweet and genuine way! It sounds like he's been putting in a lot of effort to make you feel special and valued, which is super dope. The whole living together, meeting the kids, and making it official on IG - that's some serious commitment right there.

At the same time, I can understand why you might be a little skeptical and worried about it all being "love bombing." That can definitely happen, where someone comes on super strong in the beginning just to reel you in, and then once they've got you, the effort and affection starts to fade.

My advice would be to just keep an eye on things and trust your gut. If his actions and words continue to match up over time, and he keeps putting in that same level of effort, then I wouldn't stress too much about it being love bombing. Dude seems legit.

But definitely don't be afraid to set boundaries and speak up if you ever start to feel like he's not being as attentive or consistent. Don't ignore any red flags, you know? Your feelings and wellbeing are the priority here.

Overall though, it sounds like you've got a good thing going. Enjoy it! It's so rare to find a guy who's willing to put in that kind of work, especially early on. Just don't lose yourself in the relationship. Make sure you're still carving out time for yourself and your kids too.

If this dude keeps showing up and proving himself, then girl, you might just have found the one. But take it one day at a time and don't be afraid to pump the brakes if something feels off. You got this!

[Staximus]

How long is a while?

[Asker]

Some months. He was talking to other women. I was talking to other guys all while still being around each other and being physically/sexually intimate. We chose each other out of all other options we both had.

[Staximus]

Besides the start of the relationship, I don't know what you are worried about. It seems like you are looking for a problem when there is none. Love bombing usually starts early and then goes away, not the other way around