I just attracted a girl out of my league and I’m a virgin, should I even bother?

[Anonymous]

I work in sales, so I’m a good bullshitter, probably how I got her interest. But it seems that I’ve gathered a woman’s interest. Thing is, not even that long ago she was making fun of male virgins and saying it’s a major red flag and saying she doesn’t know why they even bother.

Physically at least, she’s one of the prettiest women I’ve met. Not sure if I like what’s INSIDE though.

But she’s clearly very attracted to me and asked me to bang. And I’m not having much luck elsewhere. Should I or should I wait for someone who doesn’t think my type deserves to die?

[Hardon-Collider]

You're looking at it wrong. You're a contradiction. A man's physical form, his life-force, can be incredibly attractive to a woman, drawing her in with a powerful, animalistic force. But her soul, her spirit, might be repelled by the very same thing. She might be attracted to your vitality, but her inner self might not find that 'life-force' appealing. You need to understand the difference between the force that draws you together and the spiritual nature of what you are. Don't worry about the 'bang'; worry about whether your physical and spiritual being are even compatible in the first place. Her desire is just a mirror showing you your own inner weakness.

[Vevv123]

If you’re looking for someone long term looks are meaningless. They should at least have good character. And since this would be your first time, if she really thinks that way, imagine how meaningless it would be for her, which could be very hurtful for you especially if things don’t end up working out.

[Asker]

I lowered my standards to hell in looks, do not get me wrong.

The universe didn’t give a shit though, it just gave me a woman who’s too pretty for me to the point that it’s not even exciting.

[Asker]

So, her being pretty is actually part of the problem.

[Vevv123]

From what I read, she asked you to “bang”… which means she asked you to sleep with her? This sounds like someone who is not looking for something serious, so I guess it just depends on what you’re expecting from this person.

[Asker]

Sadly you’re right. This situation kind of sucks honestly. One of the few women into me, she’s very pretty, and it seems like we get along, then this happens.

[Vevv123]

I mean don’t get discouraged, there’s plenty of woman and many that value different things. Maybe just talk to her a little more and see what kind of person she is and if there’s long term potential.

[Nikki1989]

There are no such thing as leagues.

[WhitneySnow]

That’s a really good question. I would wait and turn her down. Your first time should be special.

[jahaims]

She sounds like a red flag