Is there any point in dating a girl who’s not a virgin?

[Anonymous]

I’m a virgin at 26. I’m dating a girl who I really like. But I know she’s had sex before. If I fall in love with her I won’t like that.

Sex is a really intimate thing and it really is disappointing she’s shared it with other people.

There’s no point dating her

You should date her

[SueShe]

To some people like you, dating a girl that is not a virgin is not an option but then again, how long do you plan on dating this girl? If your planned relation does not go well, then you misused her virginity and she would no longer be pure to another person that thinks the same way you do?

It seems that the hymen plays a preponderant role in selecting a person to date. What about those girls that do no longer have a hymen, not because they were fornicating but because they practice such sports as horse riding, gymnastics or other sports where the lower body is the main stretching component.

What if the girl ripped her hymen doing sports? Is she soiled as well for you?

[Berethor]

Horse riding? that's what sidesaddle is for, sports in most cases is just an excuse.

[Asker]

I don’t actually look for the hymen lol.

[slatyb]

The median age of first intercourse in the US 17.2 for females. That means that by 17 years and two months of age half the women in the US have had sex. I wasn't able to find statistics for virginity beyond 18, but it can only decline with each year of age. You are 26, so you can't date 16-year-olds. If you are absolutely set on dating a virgin, you should put up a personal ad saying that. You aren't likely to meet them otherwise.

"If I fall in love with her I won't like that" -- Have you told her, or are you just going to string her along until you finally dump her because she's not a virgin?

Have you considered seeing a therapist to help you get over this hangup?

[Twalli]

As you get older the likliehood you will find someone around your own age who is also a virgin is shrinking. If you really like her then you should accept that she has had sex before you. I took my girlfriend's virginity at 33, but I woulnd't have minded if she wasn't a virgin, I didn't expect her to be. She had a 10 year relationship starting when she was 18. I guess you should find out how many people she's had sex with, and how long she holds off until having sex. If she waits until a relationship has a decent foundation, then you know she is looking for long term commitments when dating.

[Anonymous]

You should date her anyway. Because for some people such as myself, losing my virginity wasn't my choice

[Asker]

Damn what does that mean? How was it not your choice

[OlderAndWiser]

Do you understand the relevance of this picture?

[Guy13]

I hear you. If that’s a problem for you then don’t have sex with her…. It will not end well. Good luck finding the One.

[NamerOfStars]

What exactly do you think virginity DOES that losing it will corrupt her? Are you THAT desperate to meet a unicorn? You can see them at the zoo, you know; they just call them "Javan rhinoceroses" for some reason.

And hell, what if you find one and date her and the relationship doesn't work out? Are you then condemned to being single forever, because no one will date YOU if you aren't a virgin? Or do you not hold yourself to the same standard?

[Berethor]

You getting desperate, but looks like you don't want to date a ho, and it make sense.

[Anonymous]

I can't imagine dating a virgin. Between low sex drive and lack of experience, I'd expect the physical relationship to be completely unsatisfying.

[Philyouup]

it the state of her hymen is of concern, don’t date her, you don’t deserve her

[MountAverage]

People like you should stay single forever. Toxic lunatics.

[Asker]

I’m more likely to stay married for the rest of my life than you.

[MountAverage]

LMAO sure buddy

[Anonymous]

Easy pussy.