Why is dating a non virgin girl OK? Am I a loser for dating a Non Virgin Girl?

[Anonymous]

I am dating a non virgin girl. I'm #1 now and for the forseeable future but that isn't good enough for me. I wanted to be her first sexual partner and #1 in chornological time order. I want to date someone who truly feels I'm their #1. But I will never feel #1 because another guy was there before me. Know what I mean?

I've dated a handful of virgin girls and done oral sex with all of them but never got to do intercourse. This girl I'm dating has only been with 1 guy but did intercourse with him once. Therefore she is worse than me.

This girl really likes me, thinks I'm great and wants a future with me, but is also afraid that I'm going to break up with her for sleeping with her ex.

Why is dating a non virgin girl OK? Am I a loser for dating a Non Virgin Girl?

Am I throwing away the love of my life? Should I break up with her to teach her a lesson?

[jacquesvol]

A vagina doesn't get used from one dick.
Your number one idea would block you from many, many good women.
What happens now is more important than what happened before.

She didn't commit a crime.
You had sex too. (only oral, I read it, yes, but that's sex too.)

Break up with her to teach her a lesson

You have no lessons to teach.
If you break up you lose your girl. But that might indeed be better for her if you plan to hold her previous life against her as long as you're together.

Good luck

[Asker]

Good women don't have used pussy.

[jacquesvol]

Yes, I would date a non virgin girl.
Virginity is highly overvalued.
Virginity is just a phase in life: the phase between mid puberty and first sexual experiences. Usually a few months or years thus. That's all there's to it. Seriously.

[Asker]

I just feel that she is wasting my time by calling me her #1. She chose to give it up to another guy first instead of me. How do you live with that?

[jacquesvol]

It isn't worn out, you know.

[Asker]

It may not be worn out but its used and damaged. I don't eat leftovers. Leftovers are for losers and guys she chose second. I want to ask her why she chose me second. But i think she will get mad at me.

[Asker]

So what are the benefits of dating a non virgin? Why is it ok?

[jacquesvol]

I'm sure she'll end getting fed up with and mad at you.
Virgiity r not has NO importance if the girl pleases me and likes me. NO importance at all. It's simply irrelevant.
Oh so you're a virgin? Then I'll be prudent the first times. That's all there's to it, seriously.

[Asker]

Why would she get fed up? She's the one that fucked up. She needs to own her mistake. Does complaining about her make her feel she is not good enough?

[jacquesvol]

Please do her a favor and break up. It's the best that can happen to her.

[Asker]

I refuse to break up. I don't want to be alone. I don't have any other girls that are showing interest in me yet.

[greycadillacs]

Good god, get over yourself. You're not a loser, and it's highly unlikely you're going to find a virgin anyhow. "Teach her a lesson"? She should dump you first and maybe you'll learn to be a little less inconsiderate

[Asker]

How am I being inconsiderate?

[Asker]

So what are the benefits of dating a non virgin? Why is it ok?

[greycadillacs]

She won't be 12 years old?

[Asker]

Good point

[Vesuvius87]

Good grief is this some high schooler

Personally, I consider oral sex something intimate and find it hard to call someone a complete virgin if they have at least done that. After all it does have the word sex for a reason. Sharing of genitals in other intimate ways is already not a virgin to me.

[Asker]

I always imagined myself trying intercourse with someone who hasn't done intercourse yet. She chose to give it up to another guy first instead of me. How do you live with that?

[Vesuvius87]

You seek for the other qualities that defined the girl other than the fact that she didn't do intercourse yet. Any type of sex to me is sex. I disagree with the dictionary's definition of a virgin. If you only lose your virginity through intercourse than using that logic, gay people are forever virgins.

Suppose you do find a girl that never had intercourse but she's the religious type of wanting to wait till marrriage? Are you going to continue waiting that long?
Or you find her but her personality sucks and she's an entitled princess type are you going to continue dating her just because she never had intercourse?

[Asker]

At this point i would continue dating the bitchy little princess just to be her first. Dating someone who chose you to be their second sex partner sucks ass.

[Vesuvius87]

I think you would be posting the same thing once you have intercourse and still demand a virgin girl. Your tone of voice is not that of someone that wants someone compatible. It's that of some judgmental prick with Madonna/whore complex.

[Vesuvius87]

no woman that was in a committed relationship (just like no man) are leftovers. Being in a relationships isn't a guarantee that it's going to work 100% and that you'll end up marrying that person... not always

[Asker]

So what are the benefits of dating a non virgin? Why is it ok?

[Vesuvius87]

honestly by the way you sound, virgin or not you don't deserve anyone

[Vesuvius87]

What are the benefits of dating a judgmental guy that thinks girls are only worthy if they're virgins?

[Asker]

She should have chosen to be in a relationship with me first. That's why being her #1 now doesn't mean shit. Her past relationship takes away from where I rank all time.

[Vesuvius87]

So do her a favor and break up. It's unfair to her that she should be with someone that resents her.

[jacquesvol]

@Vesuvius87 great! :)

[Asker]

If she would have chosen to be in a relationship with me first, then I wouldn't be judgmental. She says I'm better looking than her ex, I'm not a jerk like her ex was, She likes how I treat her, and she has more fun with me. That's what she gets by choosing me.

Her words and thoughts of me are nice but the don't mean shit to me. I don't feel special because she loved another guy before me. She should love me and only me.

[Vesuvius87]

That doesn't mean she doesn't deserve someone that respects her and isn't stuck on the ''But why didn't you wait for me''.

[Vesuvius87]

I hope she dumps you quickly. She shouldn't be ashamed of being in a relationship that simply didn't work out nor be shamed for not being a virgin.

[Asker]

Girls don't like it when you ask, Why didn't you wait for me?

[Asker]

Oh she is ashamed of sleeping with a guy before me. I made damn sure that she knows I'm disappointed in her. I'm glad she feels bad about it because I don't approve of her bad decision.

[Vesuvius87]

Hopefully she dumps you and fast. No one should ever feel ashamed of being in a relationship. If a guy tried to ashamed me for not waiting for him and having a past boyfriend, I would ditch him so fast he wouldn't even have time to say 'what?'

[Asker]

Why would you leave him fast? Can't take ownership of your past mistakes?

[Vesuvius87]

Why on earth would q committed relationship, in which I did once loved the guy but simply aren't together anymore be ever call a mistake? No, I have no regrets of losing my v-card to my then boyfriend... it was a good moment back then and I wouldn't change anything.

[Vesuvius87]

and yes I will leave a man that's trying to sham me and pressuring me into feeling guilty for having a past relationship

[LoloWaye]

This is so disturbing. What the actual f**k? I'm sad that I clicked on this post. You need to sit down and have a serious conversation with yourself.

[Asker]

I already had a conversation with myself. I feel even more disappointed and shitty about my girlfriend situation every time I have a conversation with myself.

[Asker]

I hate non virgin girls but I refuse to be alone.

[jtmc731]

What in the f**k... Yea you better have posted under anonymous. What's wrong with you?

[Asker]

Nothing is wrong with me. I'm just disappointed that she is giving me her used pussy now. She should have chose me first.

[Asker]

So what are the benefits of dating a non virgin? Why is it ok?

[jtmc731]

This has to be a joke lol. Can't take this post seriously.

[Asker]

No joke, I want to know what's so good about dating non virgin. They are used and damaged goods to me.

[GoodDogNigel]

Dude, you're trying too hard. Trolling is an art, you're just driveling.

[Asker]

Would you date a non virgin girl? Why or Why not?

[jacquesvol]

LOL :D :D @GoodDogNigel

[Klaatu51]

DEFINETELY not... otherwise most guys would b losers absically... ;-)

[Asker]

I think most guys should get to be a girls first. I guess most guys have bad luck.

[Asker]

So what are the benefits of dating a non virgin? Why is it ok?

[Klaatu51]

tsk tsk...

xperience duuude 8)

[Asker]

Experience and another mans dick germs you mean

[Klaatu51]

tsk... u r 2 insecure dude :-P

[changesinmylife]

No you're a loser cause you're stupid.

[Asker]

How am I stupid? Staying with used pussy is stupid.

[Asker]

So what are the benefits of dating a non virgin? Why is it ok?

[Krazzymike321]

How would breaking up "teach her a lesson"