I've been seeing this guy whos 1 year younger than me Im 24 he's 23 He was in a 2 year relationship he's done everything except for sex So he's still a virgin
Im not a virgin And all my ex boyfriends were experienced
Im just worried dating a virgin guy lol
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Thanks guys for the opinions. I popped his cherry 😇
I have been there both as the virgin and dating the virgin. You guys are not that far apart in age. Now when you say he has done "everything" does that mean oral and anal with girls? If yes then you are able to get pleasure from him and vice versa so there should be a major issue.
Now is he wanting to wait for marriage to have vaginal sex? If so you might need to ask yourself how your sex drive is an how long you are willing to wait.
More often the problem is when one person has experience and the other person does not and the person who has is horny and the other person literally won't provide any pleasure. They can work but really are challenging.
The virgin i dated we made out like crazy and were hot and heavy for each other. We did oral and she lost her anal virginity to me.
Obviously they will have no experience but could still surprise you with how they are, but also remember that everyone was an inexperienced virgin at one time. Pretty ridiculous to not wanna be with someone because they aren't experienced in sex. It's like saying you won't date someone that hasn't been married before. It happens at different times for everyone
Why should that even matter? Sex doesn't make a relationship, it makes a marriage. If your looking for sex, then you shouldn't be with a virgin then. And this is coming from a virgin. I would not be with a virgin who isn't waiting for marriage. That's my standard. If its bothers you, move on. That's what dating is. Process and elimination.
See, to be honest if you really like someone then virginity shouldn't be an issue. I have liked couple of people in the past but they didn't date me because I was a virgin. My simple reply to them was that you can't judge someone over whether they've had sex with someone or not. If they judge then I'm sorry to say that they are just in it for fun. That said, I am not saying that it couldn't turn into something more, it could. I personally feel that it doesn't matter if someone is a virgin or not as long as you really like your partner. You/they will learn along.
I am 22 and I can proudly say that I am a virgin.
It's not because I haven't gotten any chances, on the contrary I have gotten many chances to have sex but I just simply didn't so because I want to make sure that my partner and I genuinely like each other.
There's one sole thing to look out for. Is he a "panic virgin" or not. If he obsess over this whole thing, it's going to be a drag to go through this with him Though it'll probably be better eventually.
But if he isn't.. consider the benefits. He may have all quirks and hangups people generally will have but one thing he likely won't have is grieving an ex or being in trauma over a past breakup, and that's the sweet thing. You don't have to go through any of that crap with him. Also, if he made it without relationships until 23, good chances are he's not the kind to acutely fear loneliness and chases a partner for dear life.
What is wrong with being a virgin? The only reason it would be a problem dating one is if you were planning on having sex with her/him within a short time. In that case there are a lot of free sex girls or guy players I'm sure you can date and not having to work too hard to get into someone's pants.
My ex boyfriend was basically a Virgin. He had only been with one girl before me and they had only had sex a handful of times. Not that the sex was bad, but he wouldn't make sure I reached my peak as well. He never understood why I never came from penetration alone. I told him how to get me there and he didn't. As much as I loved him, him not making sure I got there made me feel like I was only there for his enjoyment.
Well hunny you may actually have a guy worth dating and considering a future with he has obviously not rushed into his life with women and had a little more respect for himself and as well you for that matter as a pionr you might want to consider a man isn't judged by his sexual status but his restraint of sexual activity just as a woman would be considered in same be it either way you him him you?
have done twice before, first time was my first serious relationship and 2nd time was my last one i dont mind either way, as it only matters who we each feel about each other, and if we got on... besides everyone starts from somewhere... we all have to learn so why complain or not allow somoene who could be the one who you was looking for just cos of something trivial
I think virginity has nothing to do with your relationship (past/present/future). It's always a individual choice. I think that guy don't want to be sexually active until his relationship means anything, maybe he is a old school type, or wants something with his relationship. And being a virgin is not bad afterall you'll get to experience that feeling again and he will also learn something.
You are worried he won't be good in bed? See why he is still a virgin, if it is because if religion and waiting for marriage and you don't agree with this then point dating him. If he doesn't have this mindset just mess with him and see if there is chemistry between you too. If he is open to have sex, do it soon and see if you connect before investing more feelings into it and then realise you are not sexually compatible.
Worried? About what? That's he's not a porn star? Sex is Sex ; tetes great, good, and just so so, sex... but all ( hopefully ) ends with the same result " Orgasms"!
Love: is built upon two working towards the same goals, ideals, with integrity , passion, trust, and communication & understanding...
Virginity doesn't matter or at least shouldn't matter!
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I’m a virgin and I’ve tried having sex with other virgins. Never worked out, first time we were both way too inexperienced and the other times the guy couldn’t get it up.
For this reason I don’t think I want to date a virgin. I think virgin-non virgin relationships work best; one to guide and one to be guided. So in your case, you’d be the guide.
@Jamie05rhs let’s just say it wasn’t enjoyable for anyone lol. He didn’t know what he was doing and neither did I, both drunk and just not horny enough
Ohhh. You didn't get it in. I see. Thanks for explaining.
Personally, I consider someone not being a virgin any more even if the head of the penis makes contact with the outer labia. (Though my definition also includes oral sex.) But I realize that other people may define it differently.
@Jamie05rhs yeah this is the definition others impose on me. Personally I always think “being a virgin” is weird. If you know you’re a lesbian and only have had sex with women, does that mean you’re still a virgin? Of course it doesn’t. But then why does it mean you are still a virgin if you’ve done similar things but are straight?
I consider sex to be intimate acts involving genitalia. But people generally just tell me I don’t want to be classified as a virgin when I say this🤣 I don’t really care either way.
I'm confused, though lol. Why do people tell you that you don't want to be classified as a virgin, when you are in fact classifying yourself as a virgin?
@Jamie05rhs bc I start a convo about how I feel sex is more than just p in v sex and they’ll stick to that definition. So according to their definition (which is the normalized one) I am a virgin (and I do classify myself as such bc that is the normalized definition).
It’s not a biggie. The only time I preferred a non-virgin was when I lost my virginity (I wanted someone with experience since I didn’t have any myself haha). I wouldn’t mind now though. Could be fun, you never know.
Yes, why not, you're dating the person. The reason for dating is to find someone to marry. Some people have forgotten that and are comfortable just dating to pass time or because they are bored or lonely.
well... this gives you the opportunity to influence things in bed... you can experiment a lot of things that you want to as he has no experience... and both of you will enjoy each other company while exploring each other's sexuality...
I answered yes to the question... My rebuttal question would be Why wouldn't you date someone who happened to be a virgin? And since I suspect that little tid bit wouldn't be revealed until a few dates down the line, I presume the question should be "would you break up with someone when you found out they were a virgin?
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