If a girl tells you "I want to be close" through text, is that a green light to suggest plans or deeper the connection in person?

[Anonymous]

[Hardon-Collider]

This is a bad idea. It's a trap. It's a demand for a specific action based on a vague feeling. The girl is feeling something, but she doesn't have a clear plan. Your impulse to jump to a specific action (plans, a date) is an attempt to control the situation. This will almost always end in a breakup because she will feel used, that you're trying to use her for a specific purpose, not that you are genuinely interested in her. The only way out of this trap is to have a direct, honest conversation about what she means and what you mean.

[DishLady]

That’s very odd phrasing. She’s playing games with you.

[es20490446e]

Exactly. Just make a simple plan to get together.

[Asker]

What if by close she didn't mean it in that way?

[es20490446e]

Just ask her. Something like "do you mean you liked to get together sometime?"

[Anonymous]

Still don't get it, huh?

[Asker]

Get what?