What makes you say “yes” to a date with someone?

[Pearl222]

There are 2 guys I’m starting to like as I get to know more about them but I’m not sure how far things can go with either long term. However, I’m enjoying the vibe so far. Is this good enough to go on a date with them and explore further?

[aaron13547]

When I like you more then I don't like you. I don't know how to explain it but there are always things you both like and don't like about someone. I notice both, everyone does. when the good matters to me more then the bad... That's when I ask a person out. for me its a feeling that I just kind of know when I know. its either there or it isn't almost right from the start. The feeling don't always last... but with any seed it's job is to grow how well it grows depends on you and who you are dating. either person can ruin the growth. Equal hardwork and attention makes the seed worth growing to me. Also the seed has to be there to start with, for me its like when I know, I KNOW! 😊 however if you are worried your seed is a weed... Yea I don't know. I try not to think like that if I can the answer is no

[Pearl222]

Good answer. I’m only getting started so I don't know if it’s a seed or a weed but I think I’m ready to find out.

[aaron13547]

No body knows. Everyone grows weeds in their garden. its about knowing when to remove the weed and being willing to do what it takes to remove it. Don't be afraid your seed could be a weed when you already have the flowers without this seed. You are the flowers, so trust the seed you choose is a flower too 😉. I'm back at when you know, you know. YOU GOT THIS! Lol even if you don't you get to have some fun trying.

[Pearl222]

Hahaha, that was fun to read! Thanks for the lovely comment and analogy:)

[AviatorTom]

Going on a date is almost always a good idea. You get to learn about the guy, and maybe about yourself too, and decide if you might what to continue to date or not. Best advice I ever got, and I'll share it hear, is don't go into a first date thinking about long term. Just enjoy the date. Later on, you can think about long term, or not.

[Pearl222]

Thank you for the advice, seems like this is what I needed to hear.

[AviatorTom]

Thanks for MHO

[Finchie40]

The chemistry and connection and attraction we share for each other , if she is beautiful to my eyes and has a good heart and good morals , I will be all about dating her and getting to know her more. If things between us continue being positive , then I will continue seeing her as much as possible because I want a girl that treats me the same way I treat her.

[ohsheeT]

Well shevhas to have an open mind love to laugh flirty passionate likes music loves to slow dance and is happy

[DishLady]

The only thing that can tempt me to say yes is the guy’s personality.

[AvaRay]

What makes me say “yes” to a date?

It’s never about fancy words or perfect plans it’s about genuine connection..

Honesty, consistency, sincerity, n loyalty those matter more than anything else..

When the bond between us brings peace instead of confusion, kindness instead of ego, n helps both of us grow into better versions of ourselves..

When our connection guides us closer to God, not further away..

When every conversation feels respectful, understanding, n grounded in responsibility that’s my yes..



What makes me say “no” ?

When my presence feels tolerated, not valued..

When words sound sweet but actions don’t match..

When I’m seen only as a distraction, not a person with depth and feelings..

I’d rather wait longer for someone real than waste my heart, love, n energy on someone unworthy..



What makes me stay after the first date?

When being with him feels calm, not chaotic..

When he brings out the best in me not by changing who I am, but by making me want to grow..

When I can see a future that feels aligned, not just exciting..

That’s when I know it’s not just attraction, it’s alignment.. 😊

[Nikki1989]

Shared interests (music). There is nothing more stimulating than talking music with someone who has some clue about music history, theory, or just real music in general.

[Pearl222]

That’s a great conversation starter indeed. There is one whose music tastes are very aligned with mine. Hoping to see where it could go, otherwise no harm no foul.

[Nikki1989]

Indeed. I am in a listening party on Youtube right now and discussing music with friends, and we are into our third hour. Ha!

[sage2021]

Physical attraction. He seems like a guy worth getting to know better. I like the way he treats other people as well as how he treats me.
All any of us can do is try, do our best, and time will tell if he's in it for the long haul.
Good luck 👍 💓

[Anonymous]

She has to genuinely convince me she like ME for ME. Women don't realize how OBVIOUS it is for men when she's just trying work him. Because women are so used to falling back on feminine wiles to motivate a guy. Problem with this is we KNOW what you're doing. Maybe on some level you want to know US. But the problem is you're going about the cheap easy way. Nothing worth having ever comes easy.

Take genuine interest in me, in what makes me tick. My hopes, my dreams and aspirations. Find commonality in our lives and go from there. Just showing me your ass while it might be physically enticing tells me you have nothing else you value about you. So why would I be interested in anything else if you decided to lead with your ass.

[Static_In_The_Attic]

In life I always say if you never try you will never know & as for dating I believe in trying & I believe in giving chances as well. As for my special wonderful someone she’s out there waiting to be found & until I find her or she finds me or we find each other I’ll keep saying yes to dates.

[Fireguy17]

I can usually tell fairly quickly, her smile, her eyes, personality, sense of humor, not narcissistic, not buried in her cell phone, not doing selfies every 30 seconds, no gross fish lips, fake boobs, just a genuine fun person to be with.
Otherwise it looks like a great day for another motorcycle ride.

[HisBro]

Kindness, honesty, and just an overall sense of decency

[Purpleronnie]

My advice , unless there is actual chemistry between you both then don’t waste their time or your own. It’s simply not enough to like someone

[RavVid]

It is pretty normal to.

You might find both of them will be unhappy if they find out you are dating both of them at the same time however.

[fivebyfour]

Sounds good, imho do stuff together not as a date as such, I would suggest something not traditionally like a date so not a bar or restaurant, just a fun activity,,,

[NobodyXox]

Gut feeling. Your body tells you everything you need to know.

[mysteriousNicholas]

@pearl222 lol many women enter short term 😉🙂💟😅

[RedWine9]

Well they gotta do what I seen in nature shows fight to the death. But seriously it’s chemistry and vibes you feel.

[Anonymous]

A man has to have looks and a personality I find attractive. Also hygiene is important

[Anonymous]

I'll go on a first date with almost anyone. The second date, however, for me is the one most difficult to get me to agree to. If I dont get a good vibe, it isn't gonna happen.

[Staximus]

If she doesn't have a face like a bulldog and can carry on a normal conversation

[shortster]

They ask me out and there isn't anything that I know about them to dissuade me.

[Anonymous]

If she's hot, and self-confident enough to ask me on a date, I'll definitely say yes.

[Slave_submissive]

If she loves me and she is open to sexual life

[spartan55]

How else would you get to know them?

[loveslongnails]

What else do you want?

[LiamJHayden]

She asks while I am unattached.

[AdamMad]

How tall are they?

[RedInnocent69]

Being asked

[Damcky]

Their eyes

[Twalli]

Yes.

[bunniesrcute]

never have🤷‍♀️