Is it even worth dating now?

[Anonymous]

I (23) have had a horrible time with dating. I’m chronically single, never approached or complimented let alone asked on a date before.
I’m not interested in hooking up or sleeping around as that’s for people that have no self respect in my opinion.
My parents are starting to ask why I haven’t had a boyfriend before, which It’s embarrassing to say that it’s because no one wants me.

I'm not sure if it’s worth even trying to date anymore or if i should just get comfortable being single for the rest of my life as i have been.

[ohsheeT]

I love your question for a couple different reasons because it shows what we all kinda go through.

Right now in life your at a crossroads. And your saying that you want something so bad you want to feel and have this experience

But your reminding yourself not to sell out
Stay on the path your on

Your not going to give in to temptation and go down the path to hook up. But that's where you at and by asking the question your also telling yourself and the world it's OK. Your OK and your going to be patient because that's what it is you have to be patient or put your self in places to be seen

So I look at you as a breath of fresh air because your everything a guy is looking for with self control

We both know how easy it would be to take that other path and give in to that feeling so I say good job
And while your waiting there are things you can experience to learn and feel things if your curious, you can role play, you can experience things that way. Because no matter what you're going to experience it sooner or later, and if you're ahead of the game by experiencing\n It with somebody online versus somebody in real life. There's not the pain that comes with real life it's all just knowledge to be the best you could be but I love your question good job because it says a lot

[Anonymous]

Not to me. So few women are genuinely interested in men for who they are anymore. And if a woman is only chooses a guy from lack of options or is only interested in what she can obtain from a guy how is that really much different than a prostitute?

Sorry it hasn't worked out for you but look on the brightside. You haven't been used and brutally dumped either. One thing life has repeatedly taught me is you really only can depend on yourself. So really, you're really not missing anything. Love is an illusion.

[Asker]

I definitely agree, it sucks that it’s like this. And I 100% agree on the only depending on yourself, though I’d like to add family to that if your family is actually dependable which thankfully mine is.
I mean for me I don’t care for money, I make money he makes money we all make money.
But I also see rejections as guidance, those dudes ended up being really weird. They over sexualized girls and would also talk badly about the ones they ended up with, so in a way I was saved.

[Nikki1989]

If you would rather not date, don't date, but don't come on here to whine about it like most anonymous users on here seem to do.

[Asker]

Not sure where exactly I was whining. Just simple asking and giving an explanation to why I was asking a question.
Can’t ask a question/ ask for advice if an explanation isn’t given.

[slatyb]

What have you done to meet people? Are you going out? Are you looking online? I always suggest that women join activity groups that attract single men -- outdoor activity groups, co-rec sports, meetups for board games and chess, community college classes that attract men.

[Asker]

I used to be in classes and clubs. But now I work a lot to fill my time, because that house and financial stability doesn’t come by itself

[slatyb]

You aren't likely going to meet someone if you are never out. When you are out for whatever reason and you see an attractive guy, you might try giving him your number.

[Asker]

Yeah tried that, I get rejected a lot when doing so. So sounds like I won’t be meeting anyone at all, I mean it makes sense. I’m black that already limits me enough

[dfdfdffffdfdf]

Its better to focus on our self first to improve our value.

Dating is pretty much like transaction, its all about what can u offer in table to make people interested

[LiamS95]

Tske courage I'm sure the right guy will find you and appreciate that you haven't slept around or gotten involved with the hook up culture.

[BruceWayne32123]

If you don’t want to be in a relationship then don’t be in one. If it’s meant to be… you will be found.

[dudeinohio]

If you are only 20, you have your whole life ahead of you. It'll happen, just be patient.

[Anonymous]

absolutely not unless you wish to go broke

[Asker]

Well considering I currently work 6 days a week at 8-10 hours a day, I wouldn’t be going broke at all. But I see what your getting at

[Anonymous]

It could be worse.