Who would you choose; Someone you're very attracted to but less chemistry, someone you're less attracted to but more chemistry?

[Lalalove11]

I'm in this scenario right now. But I know chemistry isn't everything !

[HollyK21]

Picking someone simply because you’re physically attracted to them isn’t a good idea. For one it’s shallow, and two, looks can fade. I also think it would create a lot of issues if and when those looks do fade because you were only interested in them for that and your expectation would be them maintaining those looks.


Like let’s say you meet a dude in your 20s who’s really fit, clean cut, dressed well, but had a cocky attitude and a dull personality. However he looks so good and you’re very attracted to that, so it blocks out the negatives and you get serious with him. Once he starts letting himself go, not maintaining his looks and everything, then all you’re going to see is that shitty personality that you overlooked in the past. You’d want that person you fell for back, but it’s just not who he is anymore.


Now if you date a guy because you’ve got good chemistry then the attraction should come with that. It’s hard to imagine getting close enough with someone to assert you have great chemistry without finding them even remotely good looking.

[Lalalove11]

They are both good looking to be honest but the guy I'm more relaxed with and can laugh with is somewhat less attractive. The other guy is more shy, less experienced, but has shown that he is considerate and polite as well. Just harder to have a laugh with? Maybe I should give him a chance. I don't know honestly.

[HollyK21]

The answer to this really depends on where your morals lie. Are you dating to be with the most attractive guy or are you dating to build something? Because you seem to be prioritizing looks.

[Lalalove11]

I'll think about that. I'm more interested in long term for sure.

[HollyK21]

I guess I’m not real sure what there is to think about it. You said in another comment that it’s super awkward with the guy that you’re most attracted to, so if this just you being shallow? Sexually hyperactive?

[HollyK21]

*is this you just being shallow

[Simslover92]

Can't relate to either. Both guys are equally attractive but I just have more chemistry with one than the other. But the more I talk to the other one, the more chemistry we seem to have. So I guess I shall see how it goes.

[Alex-Snow]

While I want the best of both worlds there has to be a connection and some sexual chemistry. What do you value with your boyfriends?

[Lalalove11]

The one with less chemistry was the guy I mentioned before who is 21. But I'm a bit of a slow burn so I'm wondering if it could potentially grow overtime. We seem to have some stuff in common both musical and similar tastes.

[Alex-Snow]

Is he somewhat good looking?

[Lalalove11]

Yes both are but especially 21 yr old

[Alex-Snow]

:) !!

[Lalalove11]

Haha what

[Alex-Snow]

It is a win win situation

[YourExLover69]

That's tricky question. I'm fine with either. But probably first option. Can build more chemistry with her. 😊

[Nice222]

This is hard to answer since it is Chemistry that attracts me to people.

[jahaims]

Chemistry is the main part of attraction

[Lalalove11]

I don't get it.. because the guy I'm seriously attracted to it's just so awkward with him. The other guy it's super relaxed and I can be myself , I'm attracted just not as strongly physically speaking

[Plugs]

Build chemistry with the one u want

[Lalalove11]

@Plugs okay I'll try it's just been hard to be comfortable around him for some reason maybe stakes are higher

[Plugs]

It’s hard because he’s attractive?

[Summeroflove]

More attracted to.

[Anonymous]

Describe how both of them look

[Lalalove11]

One has red hair a bit shorter but cute face very blue eyes straight nose. More charming there's more chemistry feels relaxed with him. Other guy big blue dreamy eyes dark hair bigger nose goatie beard much taller. Way more attracted to him but it's more awkward with him, harder to be myself.

[Opinion Owner]

Any celeb example i can compare these 2 to?

[Lalalove11]

Paul mescal and Ewan McGregor

[Opinion Owner]

How do you look?

[Sebastian100]

None

[Sebastian100]

Chemistry and being attractive both matters to me