Why do men hate dating fat women?

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Autisticguy · Accepted Answer

1. Men don’t hate dating fat women, if you aren’t physically attractive then you aren’t physically attractive, no one is obliged to date you

Yes personality matters, yes personality is MORE important than looks, but looks still matter.

If you are overweight and not having luck, try dating an overweight man, if he doesn’t want you, then he’s a hypocrite

Of course there are assholes who will put you down for being fat, but they’ll also put down women for being too skinny too, those people are assholes

But most men aren’t dating you, not because they hate you, but they aren’t attracted to you

And look, things aren’t that bad, if you are 30% body fat as a woman you are attractive and in the healthy range, women can have more fat than men, but if you are unhealthy, then yeah, sorry you need to lose weight, not just for men, but for your health.

Reducing sugar helps the most, cut all added sugar and fruit juice even, sugar free soft drinks are fine ignore all the BS on the internet saying they are bad, I can go into more detail and give facts about how they are fine if anyone wants to know

Increase protein and fibre, it can be difficult eating protein so I suggest using a lot of cooking oil, as long as it’s not saturated/trans fat, then it’s fine, oil isn’t meant to be used for energy, it can be, but your body burns calories if oil faster than it burns carbohydrates because oils and (consumed) fats aren’t optimised for energy, so your body won’t store as much of it as fat and will use it pretty quickly. You can eat pizza and burgers etc just make sure it has plenty of protein, don’t get sugary drinks, best to make burgers yourself at home

Reducing complex carbs (pasta, rice, bread, potatoes etc) helps a bit but don’t worry about it as much, I actually had to increase my intake because I was eating so much sugar that when I cut it I was losing weight too quickly so I had to start eating more of everything else (protein, fat AND carbs) but that’s my personal story, but I feel like it’s more common that people are eating too much sugar and not enough of everything else, so cutting sugar actually means you have to eat more of everything else (which is good, if you are eating just sugar and nothing else you should cut sugar and eat more of everything else) but depends

Reduce take out and cook from home, even if you use a lot of cooking oil or you’re making pasta, or chips or whatever, make sure you include protein and fibre (figure out how you like to cook veggies and what veggies you like, I like carrots, onion, capsicum, celery etc and pan fry with olive oil them over low heat for a long time)

ManOnFire · Accepted Answer

I think this question is posted just to see if there are men who will stand up and say they don't or they love them.

Most men don't hate fat women - in fact many will have sex with them if the opportunity is available. Although that still doesn't mean they love them, but they are definitely happy to get sex from them if she's putting out.

I will say the only time I've really seen men hating on fat women is in comments on social media. Other than that there are a ton of men who are happy to date them.

DishLady · Accepted Answer

I'll tell you now that's not true. There are guys who date and marry VERY... plump women. The problem is when a woman makes EVERYTHING in her life about being fat. (Same goes for guys who are considered fat.)

EVERYTHING becomes about the weight loss/gain. EVERYTHING becomes about appearances, healthy/unhealthy habits, finding something to wear, etc.

The thing is... staying healthy is a life choice a person makes FOR THEMSELVES and nothing more. MENTAL HEALTH requires a person to think about more than just their waistline, and if a person sees that there's nothing else to talk about, no other concerns, and that everything comes from that "dark"/"negative" place in the person's mind where they're constantly compensating for "being fat" (perceiving themselves as unwanted, unpopular, etc. etc. etc.) then there's really nothing to do with that person... there's NO making them happy... there's no future.

Unycorn · Accepted Answer

What is fat and what is not?

And there might be different reasons for too much healthy weight. And also slim women can be unhealthy.

To the question

Nature can stop period of a woman if she has too much unhealthy fat. I know women that didn't get their period until they lose weight. It ia not usual or healthy if the don't get their period because of their weight.

And this can maybe influence the choice. Nature wants to survive and men to spread their genes as much as possible.

Maybe.

AviatorTom · Answer

Deep down, there's an innate desire in both males and females to prefer healthy people. Fat is not healthy.

EzraIsShy76028 · Answer

I can only speak for myself but first it depends on HOW fat? Is she just like 10 pounds overweight or is her body type basically just a round ball?

Usually when I know nothing about a woman, the women who are just a round ball with no clear shape or curve otherwise are at the bottom for me. Doesn't mean I want stick figure women either but yeah.

Plus I somewhat have trauma of fat girls with shitty personalities hitting on me. I also had a real shitty relationship with one, worst relationship I ever had. Not sure why they're so drawn to me. Maybe they think I'm more in their league as an insecure shy loser?

To anyone reading sorry if descriptions on body types like "round ball" or "stick figure" offended you but I literally couldn't think of any other way to describe it. 😅

OneViewpoint · Answer

I don't hate fat women. I just don't find them attractive. And I don't respect their lack of discipline and self control. That's not hate. It's just me exercising my free choice in reaction to their free choice. Every choice comes with consequences. You don't like that? Life doesn't care.

ProbablyClueless · Answer

Well for me is a lifestyle alignment and health thing. I want someone who lives an active life because I live an active life. And I want my companion to be able to live an adventurous life alongside me.

I am a bit of a gym bro. So, even if I find a woman who wears the extra weight well and our personalities mesh nicely, it would be tough to find things to do together because the kind of person who carries a lot of weight probably isn't going to be the kind of person who lives an adventurous life.

RandomGirl42 · Answer

Prolly 'cuz women who are face fu**ing themselves with chocolate all day to get fat in the first place and then run around saying "Big is beautiful! It's ok to be a big fat cow! You hate me 'cuz you're fat phobic!" is usually a symptom of deeper under lying emotional and/or psychological issues and most guys prolly don't want to deal with that.

Hellraiser1984 · Answer

It's seen as being unable to have a mate thats acceptable to other males. Being with a fat woman if you're not fat means you give up and are a loser to other guys. You're expected to find a skinny girl with a cute face. Being with an ugly girl is the same thing. It works the same for skinny girls too. If they are with an overweight guy it means they've given up on themselves and have no respect for themselves. Their friends will make fun of them and their parents will be displeased. If a girl is with a nerd same thing. You're not going to accepted by other guy/girls because you are seen as having low standards and expectations. Being fat and or ugly is unacceptable to our society. You're supposed to be with someone who is physically attractive and in shape otherwise you're seen as a loser.

Bitter_Sweet94 · Answer

I don’t think it’s “hate.”

Some men aren’t attracted to bigger women,
but a lot of men actually are, they’re just quieter about it because the internet loves pushing one beauty standard.

Attraction isn’t universal.

Everyone has preferences, and bodies don’t make someone less worthy.

What matters is finding someone whose taste naturally aligns with you, not trying to fit into someone else’s.

Lliam · Answer

I doubt if they hate them. Most guys just aren't physically attracted to them, but some are.

I have been good friends with some fat women who were really good people, but I wasn't interested in a relationship with them. There is a certain appearance that I'm attracted to.

Anonymous · Answer

For the same reason women generally don't like dating short, fat, bald, bad teethed, poor, unconfident men.

Why would you ask this question?

I'm sure you found something in that list that turned you off.

Why ask why? Just accept it. It ain't changing.👍

PeachyPie93 · Answer

Not all men hate fat woman but you won't strike everyone's fancy..
I am on the fat side and I do fine cuz I have a cute face. Most guys I don't know are polite to me, hold doors, smile, and treat me nice. Reason I don't lose weight is I think it protects me from men I wouldn't want in my life anyways..

Anonymous · Answer

fat women or BBW's mostly dates black dudes over stereotype and social media. They also watch too much interracial porn and do bbw modeling like posting pictures on instagram eating 4 Big Mac sandwiches or eating a huge family size meals from popeye's or KFC. Older BBW's in their late 30s and early 40s who never had kids trys to get pregnant quickly from younger men from 18 - 21 who have higher stamina and higher sex drives. It's very rare find good connection with them. Not all BBWs are like this. I'll would only do friendships with them but dating in general is NOT guaranteed and dating is very near impossible in today's dating climates unless you very rich like Elon Musk and have the right vehicles.

jshm2 · Answer

They don't, they just can't afford the grocery bill...

Joking aside, it's a myth that men "hate" dating fat women. There are many different class of being "fat" from just having thic thighs to being round enough to roll down the street without bending.

But dating is not simply looks, there is a lot more too it.

genericname85 · Answer

well cause being fat really tells a lot about your character and your physical health. not good things. cause after all it's your choice to be fat. so if you know men don't prefer fat girls, why do you still choose to be fat. that would be the only logical question to me. not "why do men hate dating fat women".

msc545 · Answer

Well I don't like dating people I'm not attracted to and I don't find fat women to be particularly attractive. Also, other men look at you with pity in their eyes and that's kind of awful too. Finally, I don't like dating fat women because I don't want to have sex with them and I date people that I want to have sex with. That means dating thin women.

DextroShade · Answer

There are multiple reasons: It is ugly, men want to be with partners they find attractive  If there is anything long-term, a man will have to deal with her inevitable health problems  It says something about her character, namely that she lacks discipline and self-control

LemonsAreLae · Answer

depends how fat. im 5'11in - 190lbs / 86.18kg

if they are around my height, anything above 300 lbs / 138kg (nope)

if they are short, anything above 250 lbs / 163.29 kg also (nope)

My dad is obese, told myself i dont want to live that way. i want to do sports, i need a girl that will climb rocks with me.

on top of that one time i couldnt find the hole, there was too much flab. (Not great, never again)

NoDecision · Answer

The same reason women don't like dating fat men.

Pohjolan · Answer

When a woman is fat she usually call herself curvy or chubby and when she calls herself fat then she is obese.

She can't very well participate in certain activities like hiking, the sex isn't as good, she is more likely to die of certain complications, its a indicator of being either lazy or having poor self-discipline and it damages his reputation.

dragoblack · Answer

Because gorging one's self, low self-esteem, unproductive, complains about body but doing nothing to change it, lazy, doesn't wash properly, unhealthy amounts of fat... etc. is super unattractive to almost all men. Most of us don't mind a little chubby, but we have limits, unless it is his kink. It is all a preference though and as everyone else, we have the right to have preferences

Taylor_C · Answer

I'm not man but I have discussed this with male friends. No guy I know would be willing to date a fat woman as they are seen as totally repulsive and vomit inducing, to quote one of the guys.

Levin · Answer

I don't hate them. I'm just not attracted to them. Taking care of yourself and discipline is important. I do it, so why should I not expect it from a partner?

HighValue · Answer

Fat women can date men below 5' 6" tall that are, poor, bald, weak, and dumb.

Joshydavid25 · Answer

Men don't hate fat women.. It's the women who are loud, and conceited who happen to be fat that a lot of men don't like.. Plus there are chubby chasers out there..

Zionne · Answer

Not all men tho, there are still men who still thinks that being fat is pretty. They dont look at the physical appearance

Sunshinelips · Answer

They don’t. In my opinion I think they prefer them to skinnier women. I’m slim and petite (not stick thin) and men don’t like me

LiamJHayden · Answer

I don't care about that, but I am super active so if she is obese  and  doing nothing to change it, I just know thta or lifetsyles will clash to much. This actually applies to slim but lazy women, too.

loveslongnails · Answer

Do you mean they hate "dating" a fat woman, or they "hate fat women"? If you're not attracted to a fat, or large person, why would you date them? It doesn't mean you hate them, you'd just have no interest in dating.

WonderingManII · Answer

You just got to realize that not all men are exactly the same. Some like skinny girls. Some like tall girls. Some like busty girls. Some like fat girls. It is just the way things are.

strateguy632 · Answer

That is just a preference, not hate. Like prefer hair or skin color.

Sirenboobzilla · Answer

Physical attraction is part of the puzzle. People are attracted to different things

4ngelic · Answer

they usually just don't find them very attractive, that's all

Grond21 · Answer

They don't hate it, they just aren't interested. Why aren't women interested in dating poor men? The answer is the same

Billlewis · Answer

Not me. If she doesn't weigh at least 140 or so, I usually won't be interested.

Nikki1989 · Answer

Deep down, they are insecure men that hate themselves.

YourExLover69 · Answer

Not true. Few years ago I was attracted to one. Doesn't bother me. If you have nice behavior then it matters most.

Anonymous · Answer

I’m female and I wouldn’t want to date an overweight man.

Anonymous · Answer

It depends on their taste. Personally, I like some girls with some extra weight, but would prefer not to date anyone who is obese.

Alexandrubaschet08 · Answer

There can be exceptions if she have a pretty face.

zagor · Answer

I don't find them attractive. So just as I wouldn't date a 90 y. o. woman, I won't date one who is fat.

Snowman84 · Answer

I never did, l mean not obese or anything but chubby was fine.

TallMan89 · Answer

Women hate dating fat men. I've been laughed at so many times by women, even ones who were fat too. a lot of fat women have an OVER VALUED WORTH, because they are women.

Anonymous · Answer

I tend not to like ugly, hostile, women.

guesswhereivebeen · Answer

Because there’s always a chance that your in a fold

Anonymous · Answer

I work out a lot and stay in shape. I’m attracted to girls who do the same. That’s why I wouldn’t date an overweight person. Just not my type.

ABC1x1x · Answer

The smell. Lack of self respect. Gluttony. Inability to do anything active.

beefcakebradybatson · Answer

We black men are supposed to favour fat women, but not this black man.

In_Trance · Answer

For the same reason women hate dating fat men

SigmaGem · Answer

I wouldn't say men hate dating fat women. Is that were the case then only skinny girls would get dates.

Anonymous · Answer

why do women hate dating men with small dicks?

Anonymous · Answer

Why would I date someone whose fertility and life expectancy is terrible?

itsannalee · Answer

No one wants to sleep with pigs.

FreyaRed · Answer

The same reason women don't date fat man

Bricealan · Answer

They break the chairs in the restaurants.

Awesomesauce2005 · Answer

Fat women have a lack of discipline

Anonymous · Answer

why are women prejudice against short men

Nerdvana · Answer

Are you looking for a date?

jahaims · Answer

Fat= unattractive. That is common sense

blackeagle007 · Answer

There’s love for everyone

Talea · Answer

Why do women hate dating short men?

Anonymous · Answer

They are not attractive.

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