Why do I like this girl?

[Anonymous]

Hello, basically there is one girl whom i known for some years and i never had interest in her, normally i have like very high standarts about girls and that's why i almost never like anyone,

I always thought that that she looked good but, never considered her as someone i would be in a relationship with, she vapes, used bad words from time to time, the way she talks isn't like someone i imagined would end up with me, but it just started to change.

i started to fall for her because of unknown reasons, even the way she talked i started to like, i was fine accepting fact that she vapes, her whole character: what i would consider bad or good qualities i fell for both.

How can it be explained? Or what is correct thing to do? Should i listen to my past self who didn't consider her as my partner or should i listen to my heart?

[Zionne]

It sounds like your feelings are evolving naturally, you’re noticing her personality and quirks in a new light, which is common when someone grows on you over time. The “correct” thing is to balance your past standards with your current feelings: get to know her more intentionally, see if the connection feels healthy and mutual, and let your heart guide you while staying mindful of compatibility.

If you want, I can also give a step-by-step approach to explore this safely without rushing into anything. You may want to visit a dating coach for men.

[Abbycado]

You want us to determine your feelings? Okay.

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

"How can it be explained?"

There's one way: Feelings escape any rationalized box you want them to fit in.

This comes from a theory where our values, beliefs and criteria are operating on a different level than our feelings. Both would coexist, and for some people, they would coexist in a rather unpleasant manner... Until these people find a way to pacify the whole situation, to pacify their inner conflicts.

[Gobbyjobby52]

You might fancy her, when a person likes someone especially when we get to know them we sometimes let go of musts sounds like something similar is happening here, it's a healthy thing and a big part of long term attraction. if she has a good character then i'd get know her more and ask her out.

[Zack-Bann]

You’re growing
So is your taste
Happens to all of us


Forget your past self


You like this girl, go for it.
Live the here and now, always.

[queenofcardio]

Ask her out if you like her. Take time to figure out your feelings.

[Anonymous]

Maybe she's hot?