What’s too fast or too slow in a relationship for you?

[Summeroflove]

This is different for everyone. I mean…. From the first date to being committed. As well as being girlfriend/boyfriend to being engaged and subsequently married.

Too fast is a red flag. Too slow is a red flag. What’s extreme of both.

[Gobbyjobby52]

If she starts saying we should try for kids 1.5-2 years into the relationship, there are deeper things i have to announce before going there that polarised political etc. I worry because the honey moon phase has said to last multiple years for some people and if she realises i am not who i say i am or vise versa this solution of trying for kids could backfire for everyone and the kids.

[DishLady]

Too fast = everything feels rushed and anxious and the physical needs to be now, now, now, without getting to know the person….


Too slow = you know so much that you’ve hit friend zone and you’re still hinting at physicality but it’s been too long so the chemistry has fizzled a bit.

[DishLady]

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[Noredcarpet]

It indicates their attachment style if anything if something is wrong, off, off balance. It is important to take the pulse on the relationship now and then, that's only healthy, what are we, we're we going, what we want with our future.

[queenofcardio]

Too fast- talking about marriage after the first date

Too slow - a few dates and no physical touching at all. Not even hand holding

[Summeroflove]

This is just me personally everyones different. A few dates is only there and a lot of times I like to wait before getting too intimate. Especially if someone pushes sex… I mean just assume either they’re after one thing and probably promiscuous which leads to cheating later.

I mean…. If I’ve been dating for months and someone doesn’t know if they want to put a title on it… ehhh.

[Summeroflove]

Same thing. Been dating someone years and no talks of marriage. Ehhhhh

[unsteadydreadfeeling]

It depends on person but for me is when certain men pressure you into going to fast and get in a relationship. For some reason I noticed when I went to meet & greet for a learning disabilities aim. They seem to very fast and get into relationships. I prefer to take my time and get know person first before getting into relationships.

[Greek_goddess_Iris]

Talking about marriage three months in.

[Summeroflove]

Yeah…. Yeah. Trying to get you to sign your self oher to them before you see them for who they are. Or…. they genuinely get carried away too fast.

But rushing marriage especially that fast. Major red flag.

[Summeroflove]

I’ve seen women before. Get knocked up…. Then try to score a dude fast as she can and then say it’s his kid….. and boom. Married.

I mean like get knocked up at a party or by some random dude or a shitbag ex. And she doesn’t want him being the father of the kid.