Is 4”11 a deal breaker for men even if the girl has an adult face/features?

[Anonymous]

I’m 27 turning 28 this year, pushing 30 basically. I am 4”11 yup. I have an adult face even tho I’m below average height even for being a woman. Lately I hear a lot of men say my height could be the problem with dating but I heard that men like shorter women, now I hear it can be a big deal breaker. I am average weight but I have a D cup chest and a medium sized butt. Most people say I look 22-24 I don’t wear makeup besides some foundation and mascara as I’m more of a natural gal. Tips? Advice?

[Anonymous]

If 4'10" wasn't a deal breaker for me I don't know why 4'11" would be. Is she too tall at 4'11"?

Maybe they're right about the makeup. Maybe you have the personality of a bowl of plain oatmeal. Maybe you have absolutely no social skills whatsoever. Guys are people with egos as well. You want a guy start simple. Smile and then see how he reacts to it. If he reacts but isn't talking to you then you have to talk to him. If you're unwilling to do that then maybe you should just be single. Because what separates women who attract men vs. The ones that don't is they're willing to put themselves out there.

[Asker]

Well not everyone likes to socialize so I’m hearing SO many different things and I don’t know anymore at this point. Guys say they don’t like girls who party then now it’s like socialize and be outgoing? I don’t get it… I also never liked to party in general. Guys are supposed to keep the conversation too because girls are shy or some can be or even self conscious at least I was. I’m a nice girl, I work two jobs, and like to play games, sing, bake, and go to arcades but it’s getting hopeless at my age since I’m almost 30 I just don’t care anymore

[Opinion Owner]

Well you can remain single. There's no law against that.
But if you are interested in dating you have to understand a guys point of view. Most women play games with men (and no not the good kind). Yeah, I never said that any of this was easy, or that all guys would react the same. Most women are very picky and choose men out of their league. IF the man is interested and that is a big "IF". He probably thinks he's doing you a favor. Now if you choose a guy in your league you still got a 50/50 shot because of how you signal him, approach him, what have you.
That whole, "women are shy excuse is played out". You want to wait to see what approaches you, then you deserve whatever er approaches you. Sorry. That's just how it is. Again, if this bothers you then maybe you should just stay single. I just read a statistic that said 25% of people today will never date anyone. So, you could just be part of that statistic. You would be a minority but not a tiny minority.

[Asker]

I appreciate the input. I’ve been in relationships but they’ve failed to be kept because I either got cheated on or I was abused. I know there are still good men out there but it seems very rare to find them. I think sometimes I really am meant to be alone and that’s okay it just sucks. I wouldn’t say I’m very picky I just don’t like facial hair on men and someone who has good hygiene and steady job , height doesn’t matter just don’t be a cheater.

[Berethor]

I am 5”11 and I have no problem with short women. Don't worry, your height makes you look feminine and young, things that men tend to like, you also grown up where it's counts most, with those D cup you sure not look underage. Looking 22-24 is great, and not wearing a lot makeup is also good, as it means that you honest. You can follow me if you want to chat. :)

[jazzy34]

If a man doesn't want to be with you because you're "too short", that's his problem. Not yours. Don't concern yourself with the people who don't want you. That's a waste of your energy. I'm sure you'll meet a man who will love you for you and not give a damn about your height. So, hold your head up high, girl, and have some self-confidence!

Signed, a 4'8" woman. :)

[petitedollbabee]

It shouldn’t be an issue unless you’re chasing after men who are over 6ft. I am also 4”11 and have never been turned down for my height. A lot of men tend to prefer shorter women.

[Pohjolan]

I am 6"1 and don't consider height a deal breaker.

[Asker]

I don’t mind if a guy isn’t 6ft. I don’t care if he’s 5”7 or 5”8. I’ve only dated one guy who was 6”1. Never been a girl to be picky on height cause I’m open to love with anyone who’s genuine.

[BuddyShort]

you literally just contradicted yourself. 6'1"+ is less than 10% of the world population. there is absolutely no way you've only ever been asked out or been shown interest from men who are 6'0"+. you literally do care if a guy is 5'7" or 5'8" (even if you only unconsciously care").

stop lying to everyone and especially stop lying to yourself.

[HawkPerception]

Unless you're a midget, which you're not, most men actually like a height difference. It makes them feel more masculine and protective. I'm 5'9, and my last girlfriend was 5'. I don't see how an inch would make a difference. I'd date a girl who was even 4'5. I think anything under that becomes a little too socially weird to me.

[sawno]

For me this could be, I don't mind a short girl but there are limits. I am 6'1 so the difference would be to big. You will probably need a guy who is also on the shorter side so that the height difference isn't so extreme.

[uzumymw]

I've dated a woman that's 4'11, it's not a deal breaker for me. I'm 6'5 and while the height difference is huge, it's easy to make it work if you vibe well

[DryGermanGuy]

Time to find some good high-heels or other shoes capable of lifting you a bit? 🤔

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

For me, that's too short but some men like short women like you though.

[beefcakebradybatson]

Yes, because four-eleven is two inches from dwarf status, and my sister Karen was four-eleven.

[BuddyShort]

it's not a deal breaker for shorter men... but you don't want any man shorter than 6'3" so why are you even asking?

[Anonymous]

4'11 isn't bad and i like youthful features too