Is it okay and normal for a man in relationship to nudge your shoulders playfully?

[Anonymous]

[Alex-Snow]

As long as it is gentle or playful I do not see t as a problem. If the girl does not like it he should stop it right away.

[Asker]

Yea it has happened once I think he as being playful bc he trying to get my attention

[Anonymous]

Sure. That sounds normal.

[Asker]

Relly

[Opinion Owner]

Sure. What do you think is bad about it?

[Opinion Owner]

Oh wait! Is he in a relationship with you?

[Asker]

He married

[Opinion Owner]

Oh! In this case, no. Nudging your shoulders is a way of flirting with you.

[Asker]

Yea he never gotten that close to me it made me react and move away quick

[Opinion Owner]

Keep away from him. Is he your coworker?

[Asker]

Yesss

[Asker]

He never been this close to me tho

[Opinion Owner]

Report him to your boss or HR the next time he does that (probably HR if your company has that)

[Asker]

It wasn’t anything serious just a playful nudge

[Opinion Owner]

Ok. Do you like him even though he’s married? Cause he’s definitely interested if he’s doing that.

[Asker]

No I
Do not

[Asker]

No we was talking and he nudged me randomly on my shoulder maybe friendly way

[Opinion Owner]

Then defo keep away from him. Be polite but not too warm.

[Opinion Owner]

Does he do that a lot?

[Asker]

Trying

[Opinion Owner]

Then definitely avoid him. He’s hitting on you.

[Asker]

First time he nudged me playfully

[Opinion Owner]

Yeah but to a guy playful is flirty

[Asker]

He been giving me mixed signals tbh one day he avoids me the other day he wants to speak then he be nice other days more stick I don’t understand him

[Opinion Owner]

He’s into you. He’s also married. Stay away from him. He’ll just break or heart or harass you, depending on how interested you are.

[Opinion Owner]

Break your heart

[Asker]

No his been pretty decent he won’t like over due it prob fact his married bc I was reaching for label and he was like you need help I said I’m good he was like I couldn’t help u anyways it’s like I dont understand him

[Opinion Owner]

Don’t bother understanding him! He’s married. You should not be interested in his life enough to try to understand him.

[Asker]

I’m
Not he knows I know so

[Opinion Owner]

Just try to avoid him

[Asker]

Been he still be calling my name and little stuff

[Opinion Owner]

If it really bothers you go to HR. Let them handle it.

[Asker]

What for

[Opinion Owner]

So he’ll stop harassing you

[Asker]

He hasn’t ever touched me he playfully teased me

[Opinion Owner]

Do you like what he’s doing to you? If no, report it to HR. If yes, don’t bother.

[Asker]

What’s he really doing to me

[Opinion Owner]

Hitting on you

[Asker]

How is that hitting on me compared to being friendly how can I distinguish between two

[Opinion Owner]

If a guy does it once and you’re not close friends, he might be being friendly. If he does it more than once and keeps finding excuses to touch you, he’s hitting on you. And if he’s married, that is almost never a good thing.

[Asker]

That’s first time

[Opinion Owner]

I don’t trust him. You’re better off staying away from him before he harasses you more. I’m almost certain he doesn’t just want to be friends. Friends would be more respectful of personal boundaries.

[Asker]

It was light Elbow nudge

[Opinion Owner]

He’s hitting on you. Don't encourage him.

I have to go

[Asker]

Ohhh ok luv