Guys, How do I get a man's attention without being annoying?

[jazzy34]

There's a man I'm interested in and I'd like to get to know him better. Here's the thing, though. In the past, men have told me that I'm annoying, pesky, etc. I really like this guy and I don't want to push him away. For the record, this guy is 12 years older than me, making him 48. One thing I know about older men is that they don't have time for BS. So, how do I get to know him without being a pest?

[Anonymous]

First off have you ever really looked at why men in the past have said you’re a pest? That might be the first thing to think about or figure out. Obviously that’s the reason why your experiment w men has been this way, because of how out. I could see if one man said that, but to have a number of men say it.
Now w that said, even though he’s older, like most men he probably still goes for looks first. So don’t think he will find you attractive enough to want to engage in a conversation w you? Even than a lot of men, as we get older like you said we don’t have time for BS. A lot of us have outgrown that BS, especially when it comes to women. I’ve realized as a man as you get older your much happier, even being alone. So is being in a relationship worth disturbing his peace. Can you come into his life while making it better w out bringing drama?

[Hiker_011]

I guess you would just be friendly, kind, and as physically attractive as possible. It's the same basic idea that anyone would apply to be attractive. The only time people are annoying to others is if there's no attraction there, and the person is coming on way too strong.

[NathanDavis]

I think that the best first step is to figure out HOW or WHY are you considered "annoying" and/or "pesky"

because this might be a thing that's annoying for some but it might not be an issue for others.. could even be endearing for some

so, do you have any idea or did they actually told you what's that even about?

[dudeinohio]

I'd probably let you be a pest :)

But seriously... I assume you have an outgoing personality, so I'd just ask him out for coffee. Try to get a feel for him as well as let him get a feel for your personality. Explain how you come off to guys and you don't want to annoy im.

[Spencer10]

Just go talk to him. Be yourself. Honestly if he does not like the person you are he is not the guy for you.

[Woyboy]

Go out to eat. Then sleep with him

[jazzy34]

About a year ago, I literally had a dream about this and it was with him, lol. Anyway, thanks.