How do I fall asleep alone again after relying on my partner’s touch?

[Anonymous]

I have a new guy that I'm seeing, I've been visiting quite a lot and usually he rubs my butt until I fall asleep. As someone who has a hard time falling asleep that really helped. Right now the issue is that I can't seem to fall asleep on my own.

[HollyK21]

What were you doing for the years before you met him to fall asleep? Why not go back to doing that?

[Asker]

I've always had insomnia so I'd fall asleep for a couple of hours a night but now I can't seem to even do that.

[HollyK21]

Whatever methods you were using before, try re-exploring those. Do some research online, even consider going to a doctor to potentially get some sort of medication, at least until you can navigate this on your own. I just think you need to work on this codependent mindset you’re falling into.

[HollyK21]

I think the more you convince yourself you need him to fall asleep, the harder it’ll be to do so without him. Who knows, maybe it’s more about the comfort of having someone next to you vs sleeping alone. But you don’t need your ass patted to sleep, remind yourself of that.

[Mariogirl09]

Girl... Melatonin

[Asker]

Right but I can't be taking that every night

[Mariogirl09]

Yes you can. Get kids melatonin... 1mg not the 4mg for adults. Don't rely on no man 🙄

[Asker]

Thanks