Polls: Dating

So, I have a few tendencies when I’m angry to blame my boyfriend or yell, and The other day he broke up with me, as his therapist called me emotionally abusive. The kicker is, in November I told him I knew I could no longer have outbursts; and signed up for therapy. Due to my therapist and I both being out of town in Nov-Dec, I’ve only had 16 sessions that last a half our each (so eight hours total) and my progress has not been linear. I have always been clear with him that these outbursts are not meant towards him but stress or anger towards myself. He is on the spectrum, so it’s very difficult for him to process that (according to him), but he is aware. I just think that it’s unfair to label me, as I am actively working to rectify these issues. Do you label those who are actively trying to change abusers? Both my ex and my father are emotionally abusive, and neither is cognizant or their actions, but I have always been of mine.

Im a very masculine woman tomboy, i am a soccer player and many testosterone in my body even always think of sex all the time 😂, so confused of how to win a feminine, introverted, shy, thoughful, polite guy very well , should i treat him like a queen and i become his man and serve him like a queen especially in order to make him to crave more sex with me and become dominant in most dating actions or activities not only sexual?

Like do you actually see yourselves getting sexual or romantically involved someday or is it strictly platonic?
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I’ve always found myself having lots in common with guys up to 10 years younger and up to 30 years older. But despite the age difference, I always just saw it as nice to find someone who can relate (rather than date). I personally have no interest in dating or screwing anyone with a 5+ years difference and find myself stating that a lot because my kindness often gets mistaken for romantic interest. I admit, there have been about 5 exceptions to the rule that I got quite flirty with but that was often because i found out about their age last minute. Even though I’m mainly referring to older men, I definitely feel its anyones best bet to ask for a person’s age before you start to fall for em 🙃 #AgeDifference

So I’m new to dating apps and have gotten the impression of a few guys that girls don’t message first. I’m someone who can talk to anyone, so I have no issue sending a first message but all the guys that I have messaged all said the same thing that it was nice to contacted first. I would say men get rejected way more on dating apps than women so it does get draining constantly having to send the first message.

I'm a 16 year old girl, and because I have pretty strict parents, I don't have a phone yet. I do have access to a home phone which i use to call my friends, and i have a computer to talk to friends too, but I'm just wondering is you, as a guy, wouldn't want to get to know me since i don't have a phone. Is this like a major turn off? Or wouldn't it matter to you?

• Be single your whole life and never settle down but feel empty for the rest of your life.

or

• Get married to the person of your dreams but it's one-sided love.