Questions: Dating

AKA "Ice Queen"

Guys, when you are on the prowl, looking for a potential dating partner, do you want to find a girl who has

low self-confidence, because she will try harder to please you,

quiet self-confidence, because it is usually easier to co-exist with such a woman, or

a woman who is cocky and arrogant, because a strong woman is sexy and perhaps will be a fiery vixen in bed?

(Girls, I have already posted a corresponding question for you.)

I asked a question about whether you view yourself as a big prize in the dating world

Do you think you are the big prize in the dating world?

and had some conversation with one female user about whether women prefer men who lack confidence, who have confidence but are quiet, or men who are arrogant and cocky. She suggested that women prefer men who are cocky and arrogant. If that is true, it is a bit of a surprise to me. I promised to make it the subject of a question I would post soon, so here it is. Ladies, what is your preference?

(Guys, I will post a corresponding question for you.)

They can both be bad in their own way but you can only pick one.

If you are dating to find a long term partner, I think dating requires a healthy balance between self-confidence and humility. It is much easier to maintain standards and boundaries if you don't desperately need validation from others, but when excessive self-confidence is placed on display, it often looks like arrogance. . . and that is quite unattractive. So, how do you see/evaluate yourself as a potential partner for the opposite sex?