What are some dating red flags you've heard that turned out to be false or misleading?

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There must be some, right? Show them. Please? 👁️

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

A red flag is when guys want to pay for their meal only.

I see this as misleading / complicated since the guy probably goes on multiple dates and as inflation / costs rises, he doesn’t want to pay for two meals especially if 99.9% it won’t lead to a follow up date.

Not to mention it is less of a burden that way, it is already an emotional damper on things to begin with especially after 5, 10, 15 dates with other girls leading to unsuccessful results. Guys don’t like to be emotional or show heart since they see it as girly, weak, effeminate though these are the emotions they have under their cover.

It isn’t a red flag. Yes he can provide for a family in the future and yes he is capable of helping you out, ONLY if it is a committed relationship which has to be shown on your side too.
This isn’t an attack, but a perspective that some may not see. It is a minority of girls and guys, but it deserves to have a record straight since I see no one else bring it up.

For women, there is a red flag of “being on social media”. Shocker for most guys, but women this day in age are on social media. Women are more social and more interlocked with their gal pals so, of course social media would be a must. You are allowed to not have your photos showcased or whatever, though don’t put a damper on her style. It isn’t a red flag, though to be against it is a red flag for her onto you. Understand that perspective guys.

NathanDavis · Accepted Answer

the were a few things, and I'm talking 20 years when I was around age 15... some things that some dudes would say about girls, and dating and all that... that I never really listened to

one thing in particular, I would never listen to "all women are... this or that"

bullshit, I knew it was bullshit even before I actually learned things on my own

nowadays... all of these, online... "red flags" and other situations you "hear" online are just a bunch of nonsense that fortunately, for me at least... I never really had to deal with

but, I am a very selective person in regards to who I am going to actually spend some time with and get to know in person, one on one... I don't leave it to online interactions

DishLady · Accepted Answer

MMN, I don't understand the question... You mean gossip about someone having a red flag that turned out to be a false rumor? No, typically I consider the source. If the source is reliable chances are that the red flag is a real thing... so I wait and see if it's true or not.

For example, there was a fellow who has been known for over 15 years for being a total player. I'll admit he's cute, but he's VERY awkward, so he doesn't come off as a guy who would BE a player. I heard it before meeting him and thought "Wow, if i meet that guy i have to stay away." But then he popped up in my social circle and he seemed fine... not too cute, not too forward, just kind of laid back and accepting whatever attention was given to him. My immediate reaction was to find ways to make him sit as far away from me as possible. But he ended up laughing and sitting next to me anyway. We ended up chatting and having a good laugh. Months later, however, I'm very glad I was conservative about being around him bc it turned out that the rumor about him was PARTLY true and PARTLY false... and OTHER rumors were orbiting around him... and he was using me to try to elevate his poor reputation, which I won't allow.

So... true and false are subjective. I didn't make it into his stats of discarded gals, but looking at him i still don't believe that the stats are 100% accurate... he's definitely embellished a bit.

petitedollbabee · Accepted Answer

The age gap one. The healthiest and longest relationship I’ve ever had, had the largest age gap (9 years). It made me realise that it’s not the age gap that people should be focusing on, it’s just character. Whether someone is 20 years older than you or the exact same age, they can be abusive and manipulate you, it’s more about who they are than their physical age.

Beckybooboo · Answer

A date that doesn't give much information about themselves is hiding something. My first date with the man I'm engaged to was kind of like that. He was very secretive about himself and it did worry me but I later realized he's just humble and doesn't like to talk about himself. It wasn't until our third date that he told me what his job was. I really never pressed the issue but I knew where he worked (We met because we shared the same parking lot and he worked in the building next to mine) I just didn't know what he actually did. Then as I would meet his family and friends, they would be more than willing to tell me about him 😂😂😂

alice55 · Answer

I heard if a man have no Facebook / instagram it mean he's more than lily hiding it and cheating on his girlfriend / wife and you're just a booty call.

And that if he don't make the first move and all it mean it isn't really interested and you're just gonna be treated as booty call or a second option to his favorite.

Lalalove11 · Answer

Hm the age gap one 😚🤣

actually a guy calling me pet names but he was nice and not manipulative which is sometimes what we associate with using pet names early. He only used Hun. Sometimes over use of them I get a bit wary though.

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