Questions: Dating

I am black, by the way

Firstly, I know this woman owes me none of her attention. I’m just curious what other peoples takes are because truthfully I’m pansexual and almost exclusively have dated men I never fully understood women.

I matched a girl on tinder and we’ve been talking for about a week and things seem to be going well. I’ve never been good at advancing things with women always seems like we just endlessly talk until one of us moves on and unmatches the other. To combat this I tried to advance things quicker with her and today about a week into us knowing each other I asked her if she wanted to go get lunch sometime. And she said “for sure” and I asked her when’s she free and she said “depends”. I asked her depends on what and she said school. She said if she wasn’t trying to graduate by August she wouldn’t care we could go today but she’s trying to focus on her school work. Which in most instances I’d be fine with that answer. However she just went out with a bunch of her friends last night until like 3 in the morning and got drunk.

So while I’m aware she owes me absolutely nothing, I can’t help but wonder if you’re so concerned about school why go out all not but not spend an hour or two to get lunch and talk? We both are relationship oriented, seem to like each other and share a lot of the same interests. So what’s the holdup? And how do I approach this situation? Because truthfully I don’t wanna just chat for 3 months on tinder In the hopes she decides to wanna meet.