Do you think it was a bad idea talking to her again?

[Anonymous]

So out of nowhere, I apologized to this girl who used to like me and spent time with me on Snapchat. I haven’t talked to her in years, and just one night, I thought it would make things better to at least one person who I neglected. Because I ghosted so many people in life. She said she misses me, and we’re talking again. But I don’t know if it’s a good idea or not because she’s still dating with her on and off again girlfriend. I helped her the last time they broke up, and cheered her up when she was crying. Anyways, the last time I saw her was when she asked me out. I was just so surprised that she even liked me in the first place. Because I thought the whole time she was a lesbian. And I felt bad for rejecting her, but I never thought of her as a lover because she was my friend. Anyways, I don’t want to come in the way between her and her girlfriend.

Updates

11 mo

I was also going through some things in my life, and I was just depressed. I’m at a better place now, but I do miss her a lot.

[stepyo99]

You have got to grow a pair, dude. I can tell from the question that you're still lacking self-confidence.

There shouldn't be any question about if you want to come between her and her ex girlfriend. Her ex doesn't factor into this. Make a decision if you want her, and if you do, pursue her. If you don't, move on. If she does the on again/off again thing with you, don't be clingy and dump her immediately.

Don't let regrets swallow you up. Take some time to examine your mistakes, identify the lesson to be learned from them, then put them behind you and move on.

[TracyF]

She only has a girlfriend because she can't get a man. I've know girls like this all my life. If you want her, take her. If you don't, then leave her with her fake girlfriend. Trust me these girls are only together because it's trendy and no man has ever looked at them.

[dolllface]

if you guys are mature enough i feel like its fine if you talk to her about it, tell her you love the fact that you guys reconnected but you wanna make sure no one is leading the other on and that because you guys are friends and you dont wanna ruin the friendship u wanna make sure she understands you dont have feelings for her and thats ure just friendss.

[Asker]

I don’t know, but I can see myself dating her. I love her personality, and I do love her hugs. Maybe it could happen. I just don’t want to be a reason why I stand in the way of her relationship.

[dolllface]

i mean if you like her and she likes you back and that relationship is clearly not a good one that she got going on
i dont see why not try dating.. but be clear with her that you’re unsure about your feelings yet and that you still wanna hang out more

[dolllface]

OBVIOUSLY DATE AFTER SHE ENDS THE OTHER RELATIONSHIP

[dolllface]

be clear and talk to her

[Anonymous]

you may have to ghost her again then since she's in a relationship and is thinking about you. i don't see this going in a good direction. just say why you wanted to contact her and leave it at that.

[lorenzomichael]

What are you kidding me dude she might want to bang you, and your worried about what. Stop being a pussy and stop being nice. Meaning stop being the nice guy that girls can depend on when it comes to making them feel good by consoling them or helping them get back together with their EX. Be a guy be an asshole sometimes. Nice guys finish last, and never get nowhere.

[nolabels]

That very rarely works out.

As in almost never.

Get over it by making a clean, hard break.

Then go find someone else if you want.

[Truthatanycost]

I tend not to ask whether something is good or bad, but whether it's wise (the answer is no). The only thing I invite into my life is health, peace and freedom...

[slatyb]

Her relationships with others are her problem, not yours. If you enjoy spending time with her, and she's willing, that's all you need to know.

[WanderingLoveWizard]

Absolutely get between her and her girlfriend... in bed

[Gent207-2]

This is ether the mistake that will send you to the alter or to shitsburg or both

[Actor3]

I have a similar problem. I have this woman to talk to. But her family do not and we love each other, but she feels lonely snd weak. As she was beating up by an ex lovers.
We never had violence lije that between us, and I got a lot of cash coming

[OlderAndWiser]

She still isn’t available.

[msc545]

So be her friend and find a girlfreiend of your own elsewhere.

[Ashia1127]

Do whatever makes you feel Good it’s all about your wellbeing!

[In_Trance]

bad idea

[Lavitadifarfala]

Never.