Is it a bad idea to be my exes friends with benefits while he has a girlfriend?

[Anonymous]

My ex boyfriend (M19) and I (F19) recently broke up due to him cheating but stayed in touch as friends. We got back but this time I was the one unfaithful and talking to other guys as well because I like the attention from them but I love my ex. My ex and I just started talking again (as friends) and he wants us to be friends with benefits although he has a new girlfriend now. He knows I still love him and I don’t know his new girlfriend personally, but I know they share the same interests. We still share nude pics with each other (he asks first n sends) but after seeing what he’s doing I don’t want to get him back and I question myself why I still love him. I’m okay with being friends with benefits with him because I don’t want a relationship or anymore more from him now but I don’t know if it’s a good idea. Do you know why he wants to be friends with benefits although he’s taken? And do you think it’s bad to continue sending each other nudes and sexual favors?

Updates

1 y

He stopped trying to get with me now and is “loyal” to his girlfriend

[OlderAndWiser]

"I don’t want a relationship or anymore more from him now but I don’t know if it’s a good idea." Oh hell yes you know that it's a bad idea. You know that you enjoy fucking him and you are hoping it will break up his current relationship. You can respond and deny all of this if that makes you feel better, but be honest with yourself!

[Asker]

Firstly, thank you for your comment I appreciate it. It is true that I enjoy our current arrangement but I really wouldn’t get back into a relationship with him bc 1) I’m deeply embarrassed and ashamed after him cheating on me and 2) if he can cheat on her with me then I’m pretty sure he’ll cheat on me with someone else if we get back. Whereas for his current relationship, I know the girl deserves better therefore I dont care if they break up or not.

[OlderAndWiser]

So you are motivated solely by sexual desire and lust?

[Asker]

Mostly yes

[OlderAndWiser]

Five or ten years from now, when you look back on this episode in your life, will you be proud of how you conducted yourself?

[Asker]

Id be embarrassed

[OlderAndWiser]

If you want to be proud of yourself five or ten years from now, you know what to do.

[Anonymous]

Are you kidding. The guy is a cheating douchebag. Maybe you both deserve each other. Just tell the new girlfriend before you start screwing again.

[Aurora1010]

Yes it's a very bad idea, and I feel sorry for the girl he's cheating with... she probably deserves a better guy.

[Aurora1010]

The girl she's cheating on*

[Aurora1010]

He's****

[Asker]

She definitely deserves better

[bean2k21]

Your life is already riddled with bad ideas
So why not add one more

[Avicenna]

Very bad. Getränke n friends with benefits who doesn’t have his baggage

[Avicenna]

* get a new

[FilmGuy93]

That sounds like the very definition of a bad idea.

[jerdanro]

Yes. If it isn't an open relationship you're helping him cheat and either way, someone's feelings will be hurt.

[PeterSmith1983]

If you both like it why not its not your responsibility if he cheats or not. Have fun

[Anonymous]

Wtf is wrong with you? Like seriously what is actually wrong with you? This is next level toxic, have some self respect and dignity. Looks like its too late for that.

[Nachowedgie]

Uh yeah obviously, that's called being a piece of shit

[Anonymous]

wow you're a piece of shit

[Asker]

I know and the fucked up part is that I don’t really care

[Opinion Owner]

i know you don't

[Northernlights25]

A bad idea? Well, let me think. Yes.

[spartan55]

Yeah, what could possibly go wrong here?

[Wise4myage]

Very bad idea.

[In_Trance]

what's the point?