Polls: Dating

Is it typical for them to stay on your mind? Or am I just weird? Even though I don't think about him at all, he still haunts my dreams.

We’re currently in a dating app era & the idea behind dating apps seems practical yet you hear more bad than good things about them. Almost 30 & I’ve never been in a LTR, I have accomplished everything I currently want out of life but been able to find a quality guy. I’ve owned a condo & strive to eventually own a home in a few years, are dating apps to blame behind being single or is there more to it (aka am I the issue)? I’ve been told I’m attractive by all kinds of people for a good chunk of my life but I’ve never been approached in person by a guy I’d like to date (getting checked out doesn’t count).
The only times guys I find attractive have acknowledged me were on dating apps, it’s just there’s times where maybe I feel burnt out & can’t be bothered to end up meeting that guy in person.

Or when I feel like I have *options*/ I’m in a mood where I just don’t want to put in the effort. And when the app outlook looks dismal at a given moment (like now), I consider deleting & reinstalling at a later time. I get bored after communicating too long etc, it may seem like self sabotage topped with my terrible anxiety but I’ve never felt SO unsure about something in my life & that *something* is dating. Unsure if my lack of libido/lack of interest in being sexual might play a part (no health issues). There’s always that voice in the back of my mind that makes me think the right guy will change all of that but who really knows. I’m worried I’ll be shriveled up & when I finally have that drive, it’ll be too late to find a match. I heard an influencer say the other day that there shouldn’t be pressure or a rush to date, it’s an opportunity that’ll always be available.

TL; DR: Is dating hard for most? And is my case bad luck or someone unsure of what she wants?

I feel like girls enjoy kissing more and guys just kiss because they just hope it’ll just lead to sex or something. I’m perfectly fine with a kiss but I feel like guys get annoyed if all you want to do is just kiss. What do you guys think?

I realize that when I’m PMSing my anxiety sky rockets which leads me to overthink and get highly suspicious of my boyfriend. It doesn’t help that I’ve been cheated on in the past, and my boyfriend has a history of lying… Please tell me that I’m not the only one 🥲

When I’ve asked other Reddit subs, I’ve gotten chewed out but there were a few women that got where I was coming from. I know it’s very very early on to jump to conclusions, for example I was expecting him to ask me what I do for work when he mentioned his title. It’s too soon to assume but still kinda on the fence, I’m purple & he’s grey