Is small theft a deal breaker for you? As in your partner sometimes steals small items (not from you) every now and then and never gets caught?

[Still-alive]

I recall going to this grocery store with a deli you could eat at with a girl and she just served up her own food and started eating it without paying for it. She told me after she was done already. I got the impression that she regularly steals things. Maybe that should have been my cue to leave her but i stayed lol. Oh well.

is this a deal breaker for you? They steal from others but not you?

Yes 💯

It depends on what they steal

As long as they don’t steal from me then whatever

Other opinion

[Kayla45]

Yes, it’s a dealbreaker because how do you know for 100% certainty that they’re not stealing from you as well.

usually thieves are repeat offenders, There’s no persuading them to not steal something rather than paying for it. They would rather go with the free alternatives, these individuals are typically very desperate, or have very low morals.

[Kayla45]

Thanks for the mho!

[GOLDFISH_smile]

Heavily depends. I would date someone who steals from Walmart, not someone who steals from an actual person tho.

[Still-alive]

What about in my example? Stealing food?

[GOLDFISH_smile]

I wouldn't mind that if it's from a chain store, & not like a local owned or something. Food is one of the most understandable things to steal in my opinion.

[Lynx122]

What happened later on after you stayed with her?

Idc that much about the stealing but usually it's a sign of mental issues. Usually these kind of things sooner or later come back to bite you. But life is not easy so just make the best of it and leave when it's not working anymore :)

[Still-alive]

it was the beginning of the relationship that was quickly becoming toxic. i left finally about two-three months later.

[MicahRaine]

Depends on your definition of "theft" in a relationship.

She's welcome to "steal" my clothes. She's welcome to ask and borrow things like earbuds. She but if she takes me condom box (we go raw) and it's empty when it's returned, that's not okay.

It all depends on context.

[Still-alive]

Im meant not you, they steal from other people or stores. Would that be a red flag to you?

[MicahRaine]

If they have a kid/siblings they are stealing for, I'd get it. Otherwise I'd break up with them.

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

The only occurrences of girls stealing I've seen are girls stealing make up or something trivial like this, we were teens, I've been in relation with one back then, I couldn't care less about stealing such items really. But then as a teen, I was blind to the bigger picture, blind to her personality, blond to mine, blind to too many things to count.

I'm not having eyes all open either now, but at least less wide shut than before 🔓

[BeeNee]

My mom told me a lonnnnnggggg time ago, never go to jail for anybody, it's not worth it. I don't care if their thing is stealing twix bars, they can still get caught, they can blame you in a panic, they can sneak stuff in your bags without you even knowing---I do not want anything to do with anyone who thinks it's okay to steal because most likely you're going to get caught up in their mess especially if they've had priors maybe you didn't even know about...no, nope, heck no.

[BetaBucks]

Yeah, I don't date losers or immoral people. Every theft from the major company comes out of all the customers' pockets with cost increases to cover losses and/or insurance premium increases. Only kids and narcissists will try to rationalize it.

And even if you go steal directly from a rich person's pickets, that still makes you an entitled snob, so I don't intentionally surround myself with people like that.

[Apple1996]

Depends what and where they steal. If it's from a big place I tend not to care. If they steal from a small business then yes a deal breaker

[Still-alive]

You don’t worry that they might steal from you in the future?

[Apple1996]

I don't own anything valuable lol

[Still-alive]

ok what if they stole something from a big place but got caught?

[Apple1996]

Id tell him that he should have been more sneaky

[Still-alive]

but it wouldn't effect your relationship with him negatively?

[Apple1996]

Probably not. I'm into the bad boy type so stealing is just normal for many of them

[PatKirby]

She must've considered you her sugar daddy and expected you to pay. So did you pay up?

[Still-alive]

uh no she didn't. she had other problems but that wasn't one of them

[electromagnetic]

Nah, I don’t think I can be with a kleptomaniac. Small items or not, it’s still a condition. Even if he’s not stealing from me, he’s still stealing.

[Dinklex3]

Yes.

He has absolutely zero reason to steal. I don’t fuck with thieves.

[DeeDeeDeVour]

Committing a mortal sin is definitely a deal breaker for me.

[Gwendoline]

Morality is a big thing with a partner or a friend. One day it could be yiu they steal from.

[SisterlyTwins]

It is because he's bringing my favorite stores to ruin.

[llorando]

Stealing no matter how low or high the value of the item is, is a big deal breaker. I have never stolen nor could I ever steal and a partner must act/feel the same.

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

Yes, a deal breaker for me

[Fromdusktilldawn]

its a serious red flag for sure, it means she is reckless and has no sense for responsibility

[Wiredone]

I would never knowingly date someone who has sticky fingers

[Caroline91]

It’s an issue with integrity with me.

[Abbycado]

Yep, because where does it lead next?

[jojouzumaki]

Indeed it is. Stealing is morally wrong.

[ProbablyClueless]

That is an absolute dealbreaker.

[SmileyLady]

Yes, for me, it is.

[RedInnocent69]

WTAF? If she’s a klepto she needs help.

[LiamJHayden]

Yes. A thief is a thief.

[DrPepper12]

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