Polls: Dating

One of my friends told me that she's been dating this guy exclusively for 8 months, though they're not officially boyfriend and girlfriend.

This was strange to me, as my approach to dating is different. I prefer befriending the person first before deciding whether I like them romantically or not and if I do, I'd go on a date with them if the feeling's mutual. This process could take about 3-6 months. However, I decided to try dating through apps like Hinge.

I recently started going on dates with someone who I'd known for 3 weeks (we'd been on 3 dates so far). I'm unsure of when is an appropriate time to talk to my date about the status of our relationship and when it should become official.

Is 3 months of dating too soon to decide if it should be a serious relationship? Is 8 months too long that it becomes a situationship?

your Dream man

I noticed whenever someone asks a couple who met on a dating app they hesitate or seem embarrassed to admit it but when the couple meets through work or mutual friends or even through family friends they don’t seem embarrassed?

You two aren’t exclusive and haven’t had the relationship talk but you find out that while you two were getting to know each other and in the initial dating phase he slept with another girl

Please be honest.

Who would you rather date/go out with?

I'm talking about myself here of course, I used to prefer videogames and spending time home or just somewhere nice and quiet over partying, drugs, having X number of (usually fake or temporary) friends and hook ups.

I know that made me less experienced and more awkward, but I think I got over that (the awkward thing), partially at least, I'm still my little old shy me (and I still take an interest in videogames and stuff like that, just not as much as back then when I was younger).

I only wonder whether I should be honest with guys I go on dates with (when I actually go on a date lol) and tell them how much introverted I used to be, or whether I should rather keep my mouth shut?

I'm an ambivert now. I like to go out but only with people worth the time.

21 year old Black girl here. Throughout most of my life I've been mostly attracted to other Black girls, but also really anyone with darker skin. They didn't necessarily have to be EXACTLY as dark as me, but someone you can look at and say like "yes they're a shade of brown or tan, looks like they could tan easily" and not "yes they're completely pasty white and pale, looks like they'll just burn easily." Which to me normally meant I wasn't attracted to White girls, unless they were biracial/mixed and therefore not completely White anyway.

However... more or less recently, I realized that with TANNED White girls it's a completely different story. I first realized this with one of my White friends who in the winter was completely pale like a stereotypical Goth who avoids the sun at all costs, but in the summer suddenly gained a beautiful golden brown tan like a stereotypical preppy girl who absolutely loves pools and beaches. My physical attraction to her went from I kid you not: basically 0 to 100. It's not like she looked bad when she was very pale, she was in fact still very pretty, she just didn't do anything for me. But with her skin a beautiful golden brown color... oh yes. She just looked so... for the lack of better words, "HOT." Like someone who isn't afraid to go out and run around in the sun.

Since then I've tried to see if this was something exclusive to just my friend, or just a general thing... and it turned out to be a general thing. Whenever I saw a completely pale White girl, no attraction... an at least slightly tanned one though? Oh boy...

There's nothing wrong with completely pale skin, and I realize tanning can be quite unhealthy, especially if extreme... but it's just a physical attraction thing.

I attached 3 pictures to show the type of thing I mean. As you can see, none of the 3 women are COMPLETELY pale. They all seem to obviously get some sun. Good view of the thighs too. Not just a tan face and arms.