Is it weird if your 30 and have no interest in meeting new people (dating)?

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I feel like I've been burned so many times I just don't feel like touching the stove top again.

Finchie40 · Accepted Answer

Sometimes it’s good to take a break from dating and focus on yourself , and try to figure out what is best for you , to help you play your cards right if you ever decide to start dating again , I had my heart shit on as well and I didn’t date for a long time after that , I lost trust and respect in girls and went through a faze of holding walls up to protect myself from having my heart shit on again, I learned not to rush into relationships anymore , that it’s best to take things slow with someone new , because most people are just infatuated with each other when they first meet someone new and not really looking at the big picture. why I prefer FWB’s these days with some strings attached , to give each other breathing room and to see if we really are compatible with each other then just assuming we are , Most girls I have gave my heart to turned around and shit on it and took me for granted once they got bored and the infatuation faded away and we realized we really didn’t have much in common , the only thing we had in common was the sex lol so it’s best to take things slow with someone and truly get to know them before making the big commitment, Most people think they want love and commitment with someone and then when they get it they change their minds because they feel like they are missing out on shit and don’t grasp what it means to be in a committed relationship they don’t understand boundaries , their selfishness shines and then they start to do what’s best for them and not considering their partner’s feelings they just do what is best for them, for a relationship to survive and for love to grow both partner’s need to make each other their top priority , wear each others shoes before making decisions and remove selfishness for each other and understand you can’t always get your way , when you learn to remove your inner selfishness for your partner they will be able to remove it for you , but if you only do what is best for you be prepared for that relationship to come to an end , stour partner needs to be your top priority over anyone , if they aren’t your top priority then you will not be theirs

lightbulb27 · Accepted Answer

no that's called human. Scientists experimented on animals and they do the same. Its not weird.

let me guess... an other...

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/basics/highly-sensitive-person

with a lot of powerful emotional abilities... and so they get hurt more easily. they assume others are like them and others hurt them. If just unlucky, that happens. if a pattern, then you own the awareness and making the changes so you can live a good life.

you have to learn... as good a time as any to start...

welcome to humanity... the process of discovering your true self, your best self, and finding ways to contribute to family and society, while finding a mate.

May God... Christ... be with you!!

WonderBell99 · Accepted Answer

I’m 18 and I have no interest in dating anyone at the moment. I probably won’t date anyone until I’m around 22-23, which is when I’ll finish my undergraduate course.

It just sounds like you’ve had too many shitty experiences. You should be careful in whom you choose to date. Try increasing your level of standards and maybe you’ll see a difference.

Anarcamus · Accepted Answer

I think we all are

OlderAndWiser · Answer

I was interested in dating up to age 65, when I met the girl who is now my fiancée. To lose interest at age 30 may be a sign of depression.

Summeroflove · Answer

If you don’t feel like doing something. Then don’t…. It’s that simple. You’re not required to date

Vesuvius87 · Answer

No it's not weird. It means you're tired of games, wasting your time and temporarily (just a boyfriend/girlfriend) people that come and go; nothing lasting.

If I were dating, you ready to assume I'm looking for a lifetime commitment, not a temporarily trial period nor ''lets move in together to see how it all works'' style. I'm taking a break from looking and don't care if I'm not in my 20's anymore. I have no obligation towards anyone at this moment. A boyfriend isn't a family.

glennos89 · Answer

I feel you 100%. I'm 33 and I'm not saying that I lost interest all together but I definitely lost the thrust in relationships that will actually work out in the end. It sucks to feel I have failed in the dating area and to risk growing up without children and a wife but I also realise Im far from alone that are stuck in the exact same situation so there is still a little bit of hope left and I'm not the one to blame but I feel that society is causing this so it's not my fault. Society is just wrotten to the core and online dating ruined a lot aswell for me

Leapfrog00 · Answer

no, not at all. Just don't wait too long. When you get to my age, meeting people is obsolete. Hmm, maybe I'll get a puppy! But no, I understand. When my ex broke off our wedding, I said NEVER again!

Loneliness is the only thing that sucks in the equation.

asphaltrhymes · Answer

I'm 29. I'll be 30 in 2024 and i am so glad to still be a virgin and I'll be quite happy to remain so into the future past 30 , because I actually feel like you sort of do, sort of, of being content and oblivious to dating. I'm quite happy as I am.

After all, in some ways, I'd rather have spent fun times in university and my 20s then settle for less in my 30s or . Lol.

Screenwriter · Answer

What is the common thread in these so many times failures? I'm worried by your having a list of failed relationships. Could your picker be off? Have you seen a life coach or other counseling pro about this?

I want you to succeed in these relationships because it's clear you want to HAVE a love relationship, but something or things aren't working out right. Good luck.

WanderingLoveWizard · Answer

Not really
As soon as I got off my ass and started pursuing my dreams, I quickly realized I don't have time for a girlfriend! It's incredible how unimportant a relationship becomes when you're driven towards something greater and focused on pursuing your passion.

Now I just have to break the news to my girlfriend...

Anemone978 · Answer

Nah it makes sense especially with the garbage floating in the sea these days. We tend to catch garbage not fish anymore lol.

But to be honest I have lost all hope for me to find the ONE, I just will settle and go back to my shitty ex because the grass ain't greener out here, people are even shittier than my he is..

Smashingdoozy · Answer

No if you have experienced a lot of shitty situations in relationships it's perfectly normal to not be interested in pursuing anything. Though it's definitely something you should work through incase you want a relationship in the future

kakaling · Answer

I have been in this situation before.

There are personal issues that I didn't or refuse to overcome and learn from it.

You need to understand your true self, know what you really want in your life, overcome and face all the problems that you hide deep in you.

SunnyRS · Answer

If you have no interest in that then it's not weird but if you are scared to meet someone new then that's not healthy for your mental peace.
It's understandable that you might want to refrain from meeting new people because of bad results in the past but don't let it stop you from doing something you wanted earlier.

Sunssong · Answer

No. That's usually where people end up if they remain ignorant and never learn how to have a lasting relationship. Get pro help or focus on something else.

Anonymous · Answer

I feel very tired and exhausted. Even those who approach me are not stable and serious. They have no sense of commitment.

cth2188 · Answer

I'm 34 and have no desire to date anymore - I don't want too see another relationship and focusing on me and what I want ( goals, career, and money ) relationship is the least of my worries...

DextroShade · Answer

This is a textbook example of a woman who has been so ran through that she has lost her ability to pair-bond. To the younger women here: you don't want to end up like this as it's cold out on these streets.

TheMadLad · Answer

Have you thought about living in a Scandinavian country? Dogs don’t even bark there, You would love It there.

CallmeTheKnight · Answer

It’s not weird. We get set in our ways at times or we just want to keep to ourselves. Whats weird is if you want attention or affection, but make no kind of effort to date or meet anyone

YourExLover69 · Answer

Sometimes I also feel the same like people are wasting my time, they are fake or players. After having bad experience in past. One can feel that way and feel tired too.

DenizLikesTennis · Answer

Well... if I have to say it It's even quite understandable

Nikki1989 · Answer

That is odd. Meeting new people is what keeps life interesting.

DummyThiccFeraligatr · Answer

Not really. From what I gather, if you're a perpetual bachelor (ette) by age 35, then you'll probably stay that way. You've settled into a lifestyle.

Wild_princess · Answer

Well i am 22 and not a tiniest bit interested in dating

M-ikaela · Answer

nah, for me there's more negative things than positive ones in dating so I won't bother

DavidBibs · Answer

Because life is already so busy just dealing with daily tasks, especially at 30

Jazzy54 · Answer

Not at all. Many people choose to be single for whatever reason. 😊

FilmGuy93 · Answer

It seems fairly common, but it's definitely not good or healthy.

red324 · Answer

I'm disgusted myself with how the opposite sex treats me and I never even get to the point where they come over to my house.

DiegoO · Answer

No. Pretty normal, after either you passed trough several relationships, or only one that was bad enough to bring you down.

juatadude · Answer

not in tioday's world, can't blame you... Everything always works out though, have patence...

es20490446e · Answer

That feeling will eventually go away. It will be overridden by the call of the jungle.

Rangers · Answer

I mean, you're approaching your prime which comes at 35, but stay on your own if you so desire

najekim · Answer

Nah. Sometimes a break does a world of good. Like accidently bumping into your life partner for the first time.

Anonymous · Answer

No. I didn't want to date in my 30's either. But that was because my focus was amassing a fortune not because I was bitter about dating.

zagor · Answer

No, but it could be an issue if it stays that way.

whistlingwh0res · Answer

If you have some money you won’t be needing anyone.

Anonymous · Answer

Yeah, I’m 40 and married and have no interest in meeting new people to date either.

Vázquez613 · Answer

it just doesn't get me excited anymore

Jltakk · Answer

Lost interest at around 27.

fonduegirl · Answer

Welcome to aro spec community, sweetheart!

poetic_pisces · Answer

no its totally fine

AngryCarl2 · Answer

Not to me. It's all uphill after 30 anyway.

Ehjoh1 · Answer

Just do what you like :P

Jamie05rhs · Answer

Same here, Girl... Same Here.

shades777 · Answer

Best to be natural, it gets weird when its forced

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