Is dating in your 30s pointless?

Question

Especially, for women. I’ve heard quite often that, once a woman hits 30, she’s no longer dateable.

DaveJord · Accepted Answer

Thats not true about women in their 30's. I been dating constantly for years since divorce with women all in their 40's. But generation gaps between GEN-X, Millennials and GEN-Z... seem a lot larger these days then when I was growing up.

As a GEN-X guy Boomers and us didn't seem that different. But GEN-X were born and went through adolescence pre-digital age, no internet. So, the gap between GEN-X and Millennials were huge. We were raised not only in completely different generations, but in a completely different age. Like Bronze and Stone Age.

Then most Millennials were raised in the digital age but went through adolescence pre- social media. Then comes GEN-Z and they were all social media generation. So, the gaps between are large.

So just like it is for you at 30, it's the same for me at 40... the dating pool is smaller, like very small. At 46 I cannot really date or really relate to anyone younger then 42 or older than 50. But most 40 southings are either married or so scared by all their previous relationships it hard to find someone in a good place to date. The only women I dated that was under 40 in last the 3 years was 36 and I was 44... but she was Columbian and nothing like American Millennials. So, it worked, but I have never dated any American women more than 4years younger than me my entire life. Just was too hard to relate to each other.

Vegasrunner · Accepted Answer

Ignorant statement and question. People have dated in their 30 for years.

Women have 2 major problems when it comes to dating in their 30's.

1. The prince charming dream is over- Women leave in delusion in their 20's believing that a rich, successful powerful man is going to settle for them usually by the time they hit 30 they are more realistic.

2. Men catch up - Women typically receive sexual attention earlier than men so when women are in their early 20's most of the guys they deal w/ are inexperienced which allows them to play games, and get away with much more. Once guys get around 30 most have had enough experience so it's more difficult for women to run game on them.

BlueScorpio · Accepted Answer

Don't listen to men who keep saying that negging mess. They're just trying to lower your self worth, self esteem and confidence cause they are hurt and angry. If that was the case I wouldn't be married and expecting my first baby, my parents wouldn't of been able to have me at 30 and they wouldn't of it made ut to 32 years of marriage if my father had that ridiculous mindset. My grandparents wouldn't of stayed together till my grandma died if he thought this way. I don't know how anybody expects anyone to have a long, healthy relationship if they are just going to walk away from someone the second they are no longer 20. It just doesn't make sense. I mean should we start dropping men the second their hair starts to thin out since most men start going bald faster then women? And baldness for men can start as early as 30 and some cases younger.. not all the time though, mostly when they get middle aged.

jennifer_bloom · Accepted Answer

If a woman is diligent and consistent with preparing for her future - she could be 70 years old and still attractive to men. I know 70 year old women with better bodies than 16 year old girls cause they clean houses for a living.

Guy13 · Answer

It depends upon one's perspective and what one is seeking. Relationship and fun within family of two then 30 is fine. Family and own kids then 30 is bad for dating.

HollyK21 · Answer

Nope. I turned 30 last year, met my current boyfriend November last year as well, and we are still together as of now.

coachTanthony · Answer

Yes if you think it is and or feel like not doing it. Nothing is pointless because others say so.

Avicenna · Answer

Thats completely untrue. Women hit their peak in their 30s.

God_of_Thunder · Answer

The people that believe that bullshit are the exact people that you wouldn't want to date, anyway.

Many women become even more enticing in their 30's. They're more mentally mature, more likely to want to settle down, and are more exciting in bed.

I would much rather date a woman in her 30's, than a woman in her 20's, because we're more likely to be at similar stages in our lives. I don't just say that because I'm nearly 40; I felt that way when I was in my mid-late 20's, too, which is why I dated an older woman.

I know I'm not the only guy that feels thst way, either. Women 30+ are simply more appealing, and more desireable, to a substantial portion of the male population, so don't listen to that garbage, please.

GreenLanternI0I · Answer

If you are a man with too much money and NOT Covid-19 vaccinated, than NO.

If you are a woman, regardless of your monetary statues, Not pointless, but dangerous (higher chances of birth defects and miscarriage) I hope you are not double vaccinated with Covid-19 vaccine B. S. that has absolutely nothing to do with helping you with keeping you save, but everything to do with either killing you or assimilating you into a bio-mechanical world which is already here and controlled by an A. I using D-wave quantum computer. If you are vaccinated with this poison, Do Not, I repeat DO NOT get pregnant, it will make things only worse for both you and your children.

Anonymous · Answer

It’s not that she’s dateable, she just has a lower chance of meeting someone in regards to something serious. Of course men will date women in their 30’s, there’s good looking women of all ages even though a lot seem to go downhill. Is he dating for something serious or just to get laid that’s the question. If she has children that lowers her chances of meeting someone. If she’s slept w a lot of men that also lowers her chances unless he’s just looking to get laid. Most men see older women as old, bitter so that may lower her chances as well. If he’s looking for marriage, children, that may lower her chances as well because she may not wants kids at that age.

Berethor · Answer

Christmas cake? it happen in 26 by japanese standards, yea men prefer young women.

HighValue · Answer

Try going for a single father or go for someone that doesn't want kids. That will increase your odds of finding someone.

For me, I want to create a family so I wouldn't be interested in someone past 30. There are people that fit the other two types I mentioned though that would.

Blackmoonsns · Answer

As a man I know I like to chase younger women because she still in her fertility years she's still at her most beautiful and able to have children. That's not to say we don't want to spend time women as they get older we just if we're going to spend your sunset years with you we want to spend your spring years with you too.

CubsterShura · Answer

Lies. Continue dating, many women find the love of their lives way after they hit 30.

And this is also why people need to stop learning from the internet and actually go outside and touch some grass so that they can learn that while there are people busy pulling out evolutionary psychology mumbo-jumbo to explain why a woman can't date in her 30's IN THEORY, in practice plenty of women are already well past in their 30's and dating and finding their soulmates out there.

Adaeva · Answer

Women in their 30s are dateable. They are dateable in their 40s. It is only that their desirability and choices are greatly reduced. Because they have lost their bloom, it is not possible for a woman age 30 to compete with who she was at age 20. And, at 40, she can't compete with who she was at age 30. Nevertheless, there are still men that will date and marry her. However, the men are not as desirable as the men she could have married at age 20.

TenderFantasy · Answer

I met my ex fiance at 31. So nope not at all. He was 40 at the time. And no we did not break up because of my age, that was definitely not it. 30 is still young! I noticed my aging more around 35 plus to be honest with you. It also depends on what happens to you in life, not just your age. Please remember that!

Haha456 · Answer

No, they're just bitter angry jaded men who hate women because they get rejected by women. I'd say a woman's dating prospects are still great even in her mid 30s if she is still attractive. Plenty of attractive women in their 30s nowadays. Some women in their 30s look better than women in their 20s

chicosuave · Answer

they still are but if it comes to single moms and divorced women then its not worth the squeeze. There are single for a reason. And for those girls who are 30 and still single then it might be that she is too picky and not worth pursuing. But either way men would date anything that moves so you girls are still lucky. But not lucky to find the guy girls specifically want. no man is perfect

JamesDiaz11 · Answer

She's datable if all you wanna do is sleep with her, but she's got too much baggage to marry, and you don't want to get her past her prime anyway (when she spent her best years sleeping with randos).

7barbieringz · Answer

Stop making your life all about relationships. Women were convinced by society that their only worth lies in getting married and having kids

This goes for both genders, there's more to life than dating.

RavVid · Answer

Guys certainly prefer girls in their twenties. It's genetic. But I think a woman who is ten years younger than a guy is definitely dateable to any man.

icedragoom · Answer

Not even I am 28 and I am looking for a girl friend who is either 3 years younger or older than me reason why I don't date younger is cause I would have to explain my jokes and or not have anything to relatable to talk about

FilmGuy93 · Answer

Women can date just fine in their 30s. It's honestly more a question of your personal energy and confidence than anything else.

Tyrael · Answer

It's not pointless but it's definitely not as easy.

lightbulb27 · Answer

I know of women whom got married and had kids in 30's or even later.

Labokachulaa · Answer

It's definitely not pointless, I feel like that's when we're in our prime.

BJP21 · Answer

Not exactly true, my experience has been finding a girl in their 30s who isn't taken on some level. Its always they have boyfriend, Fiancé, or Married.

exitseven · Answer

If you are getting plenty then it is not pointless.

Anonymous · Answer

I dunno, I'm sure there are some 80+ year old men who would be willing to date a woman over 30.

I doubt I would, when I hit 80 I'll just hire 18 year old escorts to keep me company, but you might get lucky if their eyesight is shot.

PainusNdeeAnus · Answer

It’s not that she is no longer date able she is just less desirable

SamK20 · Answer

I think you keep asking questions that you already know the answers to..

Twalli · Answer

Girls are datable until they can't reproduce anymore. Most guys want kids, so they want a woman who can give birth after marriage

SteveSmith1985 · Answer

I sure as shit hope not!

Anonymous · Answer

Stupid people like to make things binary because they can't cope with shades of grey.

zagor · Answer

And, based on my experience, in your 20's and teens.

LiamJHayden · Answer

Not there yet, but I've dated women in the 30's, and even 40's.

HippieVeganJewslim · Answer

No. When it comes (NOT cums!) to love, age is a mere number. My mum dated in her 30s.

Fryday_Knight · Answer

Bull! If we're gonna talk pointless with age, I would raise that age a bit more.

collie22 · Answer

I wouldn't listen to that stuff. If you want to date you should. :)

shanshu · Answer

People in their 50 and 60's still date, you are fine

bamesjond0069 · Answer

Depends on if your expectations align with reality.

LimitedBenefits101 · Answer

That's correct 30 is when women hit the wall.

Hispanic-Cool-Guy · Answer

Not true. It's pointless only if you believe it's pointless.

Anonymous · Answer

I think it's pretty pointless at any age. Most women today are dtf without needing to date.

dustybiker · Answer

lol Only few select bitter men say that.

sheikalana · Answer

Oh honey I'm still very dateable.

AsaKyo · Answer

I think dating me is pointless lmao

Danny_dan92 · Answer

At this point for myself I’ve given up lmfao

moviedude714 · Answer

Doesn't seem as fun anymore

Stevefiveo · Answer

Everyone is dateable.

SlavicThor · Answer

It's never too late to date at any age

Anonymous · Answer

Please don't start believing that garbage.

msc545 · Answer

For men, dating is always pointless.

4ngelic · Answer

not at all lol

misogynistic_pig · Answer

Yes.

CT_CD · Answer

Yeah

Loser94 · Answer

Possibly

Jmmmfi4 · Answer

Yeah

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