Is dating in your 30s pointless?

[Anonymous]

Especially, for women. I’ve heard quite often that, once a woman hits 30, she’s no longer dateable.

[DaveJord]

Thats not true about women in their 30's. I been dating constantly for years since divorce with women all in their 40's. But generation gaps between GEN-X, Millennials and GEN-Z... seem a lot larger these days then when I was growing up.

As a GEN-X guy Boomers and us didn't seem that different. But GEN-X were born and went through adolescence pre-digital age, no internet. So, the gap between GEN-X and Millennials were huge. We were raised not only in completely different generations, but in a completely different age. Like Bronze and Stone Age.

Then most Millennials were raised in the digital age but went through adolescence pre- social media. Then comes GEN-Z and they were all social media generation. So, the gaps between are large.

So just like it is for you at 30, it's the same for me at 40... the dating pool is smaller, like very small. At 46 I cannot really date or really relate to anyone younger then 42 or older than 50. But most 40 southings are either married or so scared by all their previous relationships it hard to find someone in a good place to date. The only women I dated that was under 40 in last the 3 years was 36 and I was 44... but she was Columbian and nothing like American Millennials. So, it worked, but I have never dated any American women more than 4years younger than me my entire life. Just was too hard to relate to each other.

[Vegasrunner]

Ignorant statement and question. People have dated in their 30 for years.

Women have 2 major problems when it comes to dating in their 30's.

1. The prince charming dream is over- Women leave in delusion in their 20's believing that a rich, successful powerful man is going to settle for them usually by the time they hit 30 they are more realistic.

2. Men catch up - Women typically receive sexual attention earlier than men so when women are in their early 20's most of the guys they deal w/ are inexperienced which allows them to play games, and get away with much more. Once guys get around 30 most have had enough experience so it's more difficult for women to run game on them.

[Asker]

How is this ignorant? You wouldn’t believe how many men wouldn’t date women if they were 30 or up.

[Vegasrunner]

@Sasha0426 Not as many as you think. You're using your personal experience as the only experience. Some may not date you but 30 isn't a deal breaker for majority of men. I had 30 year old chick's when I was in my 20's and now in my 40's. The "dirty 30's" is a real thing and most men enjoy when women reach them.

[BlueScorpio]

Don't listen to men who keep saying that negging mess. They're just trying to lower your self worth, self esteem and confidence cause they are hurt and angry. If that was the case I wouldn't be married and expecting my first baby, my parents wouldn't of been able to have me at 30 and they wouldn't of it made ut to 32 years of marriage if my father had that ridiculous mindset. My grandparents wouldn't of stayed together till my grandma died if he thought this way. I don't know how anybody expects anyone to have a long, healthy relationship if they are just going to walk away from someone the second they are no longer 20. It just doesn't make sense. I mean should we start dropping men the second their hair starts to thin out since most men start going bald faster then women? And baldness for men can start as early as 30 and some cases younger.. not all the time though, mostly when they get middle aged.

[jennifer_bloom]

If a woman is diligent and consistent with preparing for her future - she could be 70 years old and still attractive to men. I know 70 year old women with better bodies than 16 year old girls cause they clean houses for a living.

[Guy13]

It depends upon one's perspective and what one is seeking. Relationship and fun within family of two then 30 is fine. Family and own kids then 30 is bad for dating.

[Asker]

What if you don’t want kids? Because I don’t want any.

[Guy13]

Awesome time !!! And when 30 there's the 20 and 60 year old men... 30-40 year old guys who are single parents may be the best option for instant family.

[Asker]

I don’t to date single dads because I don’t want a family.

[Asker]

*don’t want to

[Guy13]

Single 40 and up?

[Asker]

I rather be single and not waste energy finding someone.

[Guy13]

Alright. Good luck in your non-search.

[HollyK21]

Nope. I turned 30 last year, met my current boyfriend November last year as well, and we are still together as of now.

[coachTanthony]

Yes if you think it is and or feel like not doing it. Nothing is pointless because others say so.

[Avicenna]

Thats completely untrue. Women hit their peak in their 30s.

[JamesDiaz11]

No, they don't. They can't even have children, and their looks drop fast.

[Asker]

@JamesDiaz11 I was just gonna die single 🤷‍♀️

[JamesDiaz11]

That's your choice to make.

[Asker]

It’s a lot better and easier.

[Avicenna]

@JamesDiaz11: Women can still have children in their 30s- you know better than to say that. My ex had three healthy ones after turning 34.

[JamesDiaz11]

You're like a woman- just pointing to exceptions to try to disprove general rules.

https://www.webmd.com/baby/pregnant-after-35

[Asker]

@JamesDiaz11 I feel like you don’t like women. Also, even women know what age will be complicated to have kids. Is it possible? Sure. Would it be smart to? Not really.

[Asker]

So his ex had plenty of time still. Even if she had one year before turning 35.

[JamesDiaz11]

I don't think you understand that it doesn't drop off at their birthday, it begins declining significantly at 30 forming a downward sloping line until it becomes near impossible in a woman's mid 40's (but considered difficult, riddled with possible complications at around mid-30's).
I have a lot of complaints toward modern women, and I don't like many traits they exhibit, including willful naivety (e. g. wym my 20's aren't just for sleeping around and career?), entitlement (e. g. my guy needs to be 6 foot, make 6 figures, etc.), the need to be right (it doesn't matter what the stats say, because I think...), and lack of accountability (body count and pregnancy are almost always entirely in their control, but they'll pretend it doesn't matter, or it's not their fault).
But I'm a man, and I feel a draw to, an affection toward, and a protectiveness over women. I don't hate them, especially when I've had a great mom, and had relationships with women who were amazing, moral, people. I'm not about to throw the baby out with the bathwater.

[Asker]

Good thing I don’t want kids because I’m already 30.

[Avicenna]

@JamesDiaz11: You’re very arrogant and quite dishonest. Anecdotes are used to support or refute a statement or argument, and it was used to refute your bizarre and false claim that „women in their 30s can’t have kids“- that was your own unforced own goal.

[JamesDiaz11]

I may be arrogant, but it's because I'm so much more highly educated on this than all of you troglodytes, yet here I am debating you with stats, and logic, and you're throwing out, "well, I know one case where..." Of course I'm going to voice my frustration in such a manner. I can say men are stronger than women, but you'll try to "refute" it by saying, "well, I know several strong women..." It's annoying when all you can do is point to what are clearly outliers, are acknowledged as outliers by SCEINTIFIC FACT, and claim this is what discredits a statement that is largely true.

[Asker]

What are your thoughts on Ronda Rousey? The female wrestler?

[TenderFantasy]

@JamesDiaz11 There's people that are 25 and infertile you know. Maybe they got sick with cancer or something bad happened to their reproductive organs or hormonal imbalances, stuff like that. But yeah, I agree, obviously, the older the woman, the less in quantity and quality of eggs she has sadly. Men, on the other hand, could probably produce sperm till their death bed, but what about QUALITY and QUANTITY? ! That affects them too the older the man gets!

[Avicenna]

@JamesDiaz11: You made the statement “They can’t even have children”, which everyone knows is false. That’s not a fact nor is it logic. Arrogance tends to equal stupidity, and it certainly does in your case. That dumb statement will hang around your neck like a millstone. And don’t try to use a strawman, dumb ass.

That women’s fertility in their 30s is lower isn’t a secret. But most women in their 30s can still get pregnant.

[God_of_Thunder]

The people that believe that bullshit are the exact people that you wouldn't want to date, anyway.

Many women become even more enticing in their 30's. They're more mentally mature, more likely to want to settle down, and are more exciting in bed.

I would much rather date a woman in her 30's, than a woman in her 20's, because we're more likely to be at similar stages in our lives. I don't just say that because I'm nearly 40; I felt that way when I was in my mid-late 20's, too, which is why I dated an older woman.

I know I'm not the only guy that feels thst way, either. Women 30+ are simply more appealing, and more desireable, to a substantial portion of the male population, so don't listen to that garbage, please.

[Asker]

What if she has no experience in dating or sex?

[God_of_Thunder]

That's still a bonus, actually.

A lot of men are turned off by women that have been around the block several times, so a woman being less experienced at that age would be a good thing.

That's not to discount what I said earlier, either. Both are actually good things, honestly. Different men value different things, so either way is going to be a positive sign to somebody.

[GreenLanternI0I]

If you are a man with too much money and NOT Covid-19 vaccinated, than NO.

If you are a woman, regardless of your monetary statues, Not pointless, but dangerous (higher chances of birth defects and miscarriage) I hope you are not double vaccinated with Covid-19 vaccine B. S. that has absolutely nothing to do with helping you with keeping you save, but everything to do with either killing you or assimilating you into a bio-mechanical world which is already here and controlled by an A. I using D-wave quantum computer. If you are vaccinated with this poison, Do Not, I repeat DO NOT get pregnant, it will make things only worse for both you and your children.

[Asker]

I got my shots and I never really wanted kids in the first place.

[GreenLanternI0I]

Since you already got your shots, I strongly recommend you NOT to have kids, but since you don't want to have kids in the first place, then it is never to late for you to get a husband.

[Asker]

I want to die single instead.

[GreenLanternI0I]

You and me both Sasha0426. I think I know exactly what you are going through, but I might be very wrong.

[Anonymous]

It’s not that she’s dateable, she just has a lower chance of meeting someone in regards to something serious. Of course men will date women in their 30’s, there’s good looking women of all ages even though a lot seem to go downhill. Is he dating for something serious or just to get laid that’s the question. If she has children that lowers her chances of meeting someone. If she’s slept w a lot of men that also lowers her chances unless he’s just looking to get laid. Most men see older women as old, bitter so that may lower her chances as well. If he’s looking for marriage, children, that may lower her chances as well because she may not wants kids at that age.

[Asker]

I definitely don’t want kids. Also, my chances were always slim since I was younger.

[Opinion Owner]

You looking for someone to just date to have fun w or a serious relationship? I mean there’s men out there who have been through all that, marriage, kids, etc, so they may be looking for someone like you.

[Asker]

Something serious.

[Opinion Owner]

Have you been in a serious relationship before?

[Asker]

Unfortunately, no. I’ve been single my whole life. That’s why I debating if I should just forget about looking for someone.

[Asker]

*I’m debating

[Opinion Owner]

Single because you never actively tired?

[Asker]

Yeah, I never tried. Because I was scared to.

[Asker]

Men didn’t like me very much so I thought, “Why bother trying?” 🤷‍♀️

[Opinion Owner]

So do you blame yourself or men for that? A lot of men never meet someone as well. That’s cause they never tried even if they knew not many women found them attractive.

[Asker]

I don’t blame men.

[Opinion Owner]

I don’t think you should give up. But you really can’t give up if you haven’t even tried. I like to listen to a lot of audio books, one quote was something like, action doesn’t always bring happiness, but happiness does require action. I’m sure you’re not the only person facing this challenging issue.

[Berethor]

Christmas cake? it happen in 26 by japanese standards, yea men prefer young women.

https://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=Christmas%20Cake

[Asker]

Is that why so many men abandon their families?

[Berethor]

For younger woman? yea, but a man can get used to woman if she married while young.

[Asker]

Well, at least the kids have someone in their lives who truly love them.

[Asker]

I wonder if those men who abandon their families take after their fathers.

[Berethor]

Nature versus Nurture trope? by the way 70% of Divorces are initiated by Women.

[Asker]

Well, when your husband hates you because you can’t turn back time to stay below 30, I can see why 🤷‍♀️

[Asker]

Also, I realized men don’t give a shit about their own kids. So, there’s no point in having any when you’re just going hurt them 🤷‍♀️

[Berethor]

Those who initiate divorces don't give shit about kids AKA keeping the family together, a lot of modern women are can't be trusted. Kids are important for keeping family's legacy.

[Asker]

I wish humans didn’t exist.

[Berethor]

You really a nihilist, you would sure contribute to country's demise by not having kids.

www.washingtonpost.com/.../

[Asker]

Well, duh. Because I don’t want any.

[Berethor]

Then you not a wife material in any case, and it's more turn-off to men than your age.

[Asker]

Oh well 🤷‍♀️

[Asker]

I happily die single.

[Asker]

And why would it be a turn off when men will just abandon their families once the wife hits 30? I mean, what does it matter to them?

[Berethor]

Only 30% of men would want to abandon their family, most men get used to wife's looks.

[Asker]

Would you ever abandon your family?

[Berethor]

Kids create a bond, more than anything else, I don't think that I would abandon my family, also you missing the point, Christmas cake is about woman staying single for too long.

[Asker]

So I’m delicious 😋 Because cake is pretty damn good!

[Berethor]

You can look at it that way if it make you happy, are you going to share a peace? :)

[Asker]

Hell no! I don’t share food 😂

[Berethor]

Oh well, you wish for humans to get exist so I that's makes sense, then eat by yourself. :)

[Berethor]

I mean didn’t exist, but you seen more happy now than before, what has happen?

[Asker]

First off, I enjoy my own company. I’m not a people person. Second, one of my managers at work dressed up as the Grinch today 😄

[Berethor]

You not a people person? you don't say! I am not surprised that you like Grinch. :)

[Asker]

To be fair, a lot of people agree with him. You’ve seen the movies and saw the meaning between them, right?

[Berethor]

Didn't saw the movies but I know who he is, also I can check on him on TV Tropes. :)

[Asker]

Great movies. Start with the Dr. Seuss cartoon version first.

[HighValue]

Try going for a single father or go for someone that doesn't want kids. That will increase your odds of finding someone.

For me, I want to create a family so I wouldn't be interested in someone past 30. There are people that fit the other two types I mentioned though that would.

[Asker]

I would definitely would go for someone who doesn’t want kids.

[Asker]

Didn’t mean the second “would” 🤦‍♀️

[HighValue]

If you would go for someone that doesn't want kids then you should be fine. It is mostly the single women that do want kids that are older that have legitimate concerns.

[Blackmoonsns]

As a man I know I like to chase younger women because she still in her fertility years she's still at her most beautiful and able to have children. That's not to say we don't want to spend time women as they get older we just if we're going to spend your sunset years with you we want to spend your spring years with you too.

[Asker]

You actually want to be a dad?

[Blackmoonsns]

Yes, well I did but I got to old and my health is taking a turn for the worst. I don't want my child to be without me because I died from what is killing me.

[CubsterShura]

Lies. Continue dating, many women find the love of their lives way after they hit 30.

And this is also why people need to stop learning from the internet and actually go outside and touch some grass so that they can learn that while there are people busy pulling out evolutionary psychology mumbo-jumbo to explain why a woman can't date in her 30's IN THEORY, in practice plenty of women are already well past in their 30's and dating and finding their soulmates out there.

[Adaeva]

Women in their 30s are dateable. They are dateable in their 40s. It is only that their desirability and choices are greatly reduced. Because they have lost their bloom, it is not possible for a woman age 30 to compete with who she was at age 20. And, at 40, she can't compete with who she was at age 30. Nevertheless, there are still men that will date and marry her. However, the men are not as desirable as the men she could have married at age 20.

[TenderFantasy]

I met my ex fiance at 31. So nope not at all. He was 40 at the time. And no we did not break up because of my age, that was definitely not it. 30 is still young! I noticed my aging more around 35 plus to be honest with you. It also depends on what happens to you in life, not just your age. Please remember that!

[Haha456]

No, they're just bitter angry jaded men who hate women because they get rejected by women. I'd say a woman's dating prospects are still great even in her mid 30s if she is still attractive. Plenty of attractive women in their 30s nowadays. Some women in their 30s look better than women in their 20s

[chicosuave]

they still are but if it comes to single moms and divorced women then its not worth the squeeze. There are single for a reason. And for those girls who are 30 and still single then it might be that she is too picky and not worth pursuing. But either way men would date anything that moves so you girls are still lucky. But not lucky to find the guy girls specifically want. no man is perfect

[Asker]

I was just gonna die single 🤷‍♀️

[chicosuave]

its not just you. I don't know where you are from but it was predicted that 50 percent of women will still be single by the age of 40 in the states. which is a choice women are making but this includes men also. so whatever. do what you want. half of us are gonna die single anyway.

[Asker]

I’m from Oregon

[JamesDiaz11]

She's datable if all you wanna do is sleep with her, but she's got too much baggage to marry, and you don't want to get her past her prime anyway (when she spent her best years sleeping with randos).

[Asker]

Guess I’m out of luck. Oh well 🤷‍♀️

[JamesDiaz11]

Are you a guy?

[Asker]

No, why?

[JamesDiaz11]

Your hairline and look just seemed a bit sus to me- forget it.

[Asker]

I get this strong feeling you don’t like me.

[7barbieringz]

Stop making your life all about relationships. Women were convinced by society that their only worth lies in getting married and having kids

This goes for both genders, there's more to life than dating.

[RavVid]

Guys certainly prefer girls in their twenties. It's genetic. But I think a woman who is ten years younger than a guy is definitely dateable to any man.

[Asker]

So do men dump any woman who turn 30?

[RavVid]

No. Wasn't saying that men will only date girls in their twenties then on the stroke of 30 dump them. If you look at the age pyramid that is scarcely feasible. www.populationpyramid.net/.../

Leonardo DiCaprio has pretty much stuck with girls between 20 and 25 and some other male celebs too. Not many men would have the panache and status to continue to be attractive to 20-25 females. So by and largely it doesn't happen.

So I don't think you should be concerned on this.

[icedragoom]

Not even I am 28 and I am looking for a girl friend who is either 3 years younger or older than me reason why I don't date younger is cause I would have to explain my jokes and or not have anything to relatable to talk about

[FilmGuy93]

Women can date just fine in their 30s. It's honestly more a question of your personal energy and confidence than anything else.

[Asker]

I’ve heard it’s harder for women. Or does that go for women who want kids?

[FilmGuy93]

It’s gonna get harder for everyone. More life experience almost always translates to more damage and garbage to sort through.