Is dating, online dating, and the dating pool in general horrible for women after 30? I've met many women over 30 and they all say the same thing, and a lot of them end up alone.
Dating can be challenging as you get a little older, as it seems that anyone 'eligible' is actually, taken. People who are partnered up generally don't want to go out as much as they'd rather just be with their partner.
Dating may well go downhill for women over 30. But I doubt they fall into some big vacuum. Things perhaps level off more.
Women are valued in their 20s 10 times more than men. It's a horrible imbalance. But dating apps in particular are so distorted and are so flooded with weak and desperate males, that it does still appear to give some distortion where from what I have seen, a very average woman in her 30s would still get 100x the attention of a male that age.
As for in real life, things may well level off more a bit.
It probably depends on quality. Tacky shags are one thing. But attracting a quality mate with a tolerable level of 'baggage' is another.
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At 30, age alone should be very little problem. I hate to be harsh, but realistically, how many of those women have let themselves go? How many have put on large amounts of weight? How many are totally out of shape? How many are divorced or had a bad relationship, and now they are bitter?
A 30 year old woman who has kept herself healthy, both physically and mentally, and has a good pleasant attitude, should not have any problem in the dating world. And of course she has to put herself out there. By that age, most people are not as social, and not around nearly as many people in a social non-work setting.
How have their own expectations changed? Most likely they are looking for something very different than they were at 20.Assuming that it's because of age is jumping to conclusions.
Yes, I think so... not from experience, but logically that would make sense. One reason is that men prefer younger women, but another is that the best men are taken by their mid 30s and what you're left with... well, there are some hidden gems but probably most of them are single for a reason. Same can be with women, but it's easier for men to date younger than for women. Some women are also unwilling to do it.
Typical Millenial assumptions. That is the dumb question I've seen. Why do you millenial men always give woman in their 20s the VIP special reament? A woman my age has it all wealth stable financially life maturity. Why do yo millenial ma just don't care?
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You will also hear men over 30 saying how terrible dating is as well. People need to stop ragging on 30+ year-old women and spouting all that "hitting the wall" bullshit. Plenty of women over 30 are still having sex and relationships. Their situations are no worse than 30+ year-old men who struggle with dating too.
Sometimes I just want to gather everyone together to watch the movie 13 Going on 30 to show that no, life is not over at 30.
Anyone can be “Thirty, flirty and thriving!”
"After 30" is a really broad spectrum. There's a big difference between 50 and 35. And it really depends what a woman is looking for. A husband is harder to find, a fling, hookup or friends with benefits, obviously every easy.
The girls on gag will fight you on this one, but you hear it pretty common that because men date younger and girls date older they hit that wall first. So 30 for them is the end of the primary dating pool, and it makes sense due to the best fertility chances. It usually means children should happen by 35 at least in perception. So would you want to date a girl who is 33 and now you gotta rush the bonding and testing if your compatible in 2 years to have the best chances, or do you date a girl who is 27 so you have a good amount of childless years left before you have to make that decision.
It definitely is but it's not an all hope is lost case. For the most part these girls were used to getting way more attention than most any man and after 30 they gradually begin to age and the biological clock becomes a real factor. Men also don't like to think of all the baggage/prior relationships that go along with more age (whether that's right or wrong it's true of male behavior).
It just makes less sense for most young attractive men especially around the same age to not go for a younger woman.
No way! Dating can be just as fun and fulfilling after 30. In fact, a lot of women find they know what they want more and don't waste time on games. The dating pool might seem smaller, but the people in it are likely looking for something serious too. So focus on the quality connections and you might be surprised!
If you haven't found your person by college, it's usually downhill from there. I'm so glad I found my guy in college even though we didn't get together until years later. I don't think I would be with anyone now if I hadn't met him in college. I think dating in your 30s is hard because the selection of good people to date are slim vs in your 20s.
I haven’t noticed a problem. You will always find liars or ghosting on dating apps, but I probably have more choice now than when I was 20.
Interest comes from all ages.
I can’t swipe right without it always being a match.
Women don’t ‘decline’, they age. Just as men do. And with age comes confidence, knowing oneself and not putting up with any sh*t.
Women I know, who are up to 10 years older than me, don’t seem to have issues finding suitable men to date either.It just depends on what the woman is looking for. If it's a conservative woman looking for a conservative man who has never been married and doesn't have kids, then yeah it's going to be a lot harder after 30 because men that meet that criteria will have been married already. But women with those requirements are not very common. For the average woman, it seems like it stays about the same regardless of age. And honestly, it seems like women who are 50 have way more game than younger women.
I don't believe it's downhill, it's just that after 30 you may have more of a criteria and won't have the time to go on dates as frequently as in your 20s due to work, studies or life challenges in general. You may just search for what you believe you want, rather than open up your horizon and You often want a gentleman but end up finding still a lot of boys who just want to get laid and hence as time goes by, you end up spending more and more by yourself.
Nah.
I think it has more to do with where you are at in life and what you’re doing rather than just turning a certain age. All the women I know who are 30+ have zero problems dating and meeting new people.
Not really. There are just more people married by that age.
It's really downhill for women over 30. Reason being, their standards are skyhigh (they want the 6ft/6in/6figures guy), and they don't have the youth and beauty they did when they were 20 to lock that guy down.
A woman after 30 who isn't married most likely is already finished being taken seriously for a relationship or marriage at least from smart men because they are going to conclude this woman has been sleeping around a lot by that age or been in multiple relationships and failed for whatever reasons which most are going to be negative reasons.
Nah 30 is the age most women are starting relationships/getting married more so than any other age in a woman's life
I take it you don't' know many women, or you are just believing the garbage you read online. This is not true at all.
No. It, like at all ages, depends on the woman and what she brings to the table. Some of the most beautiful and desirable women I have ever met were all 30+.
Ohh come on ! Seriously !
Absolute prime of life , this is bullshit , no no no -- Its the very BEST of times , whoever seriously came up with this? utter nonsense.
Id say it is for men and for women. The 20s were the highlight for dating for all genders. I only just turned 30. Sure I may never had successfully dated or scored, yet, there's always been and always will most likely will be, ways of self-love :)
Yes because their standards go up for some perverse reason while what they have to offer goes down: they are less attractive, less fertile, have more trauma, taken more dicks, and have more bad habits.
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