Why would a guy that you had a casual relationship with (weekly for a few months) ghost you without saying goodbye? No conflict or arguments happened?

[Anonymous]

Wants to avoid conflict?

He is losing interest but not fully ditching you for when he gets bored and wants you back temporarily?

Sensed you were catching feelings

Doesn’t care

[kylee2437]

Could be all of the above. I think what’s best in this situation is cut your losses and don’t allow yourself to settle for low vibration energy like this. It usually sucks, but people that are like this are just reflecting their true selves and you are better off not going any further with someone that ghosts after showing interest. The person that he’s entertaining will go through the same hell in a different or same manner.

[Asker]

@kylee2437 we were seeing each other for 3 months.. he even vented to me about a few things. Then bam

[kylee2437]

@asker it happens to the best. This happened to me also. He introduced me to his family and friends and he was the one that tried to make it a speedy dating situation. The one thing that I took out of it, is when my gut is feeling off and I have constant anxiety about a person, that means they aren’t for me. I know situations like this hurt, but take it as a blessing in disguise that this situation lasted only 3 months and you don’t have to deal with this man that is clearly damaged and has obvious issues. You are going to be happy you didn’t settle.

[Asker]

@kylee2437 didn’t get to finish that.. we were seeing each other for 3 months. He even vented to me about a few things 4 weeks ago. Then bam ignored me. I asked him if it was anything that I did or made him uncomfortable and he replied sorry been busy with work.. sorry didn’t mean anything by it with a 😘 emoji. I texted how he was doing 2
Weeks ago and no reply. So yeah weird he would apologise for not replying. And then just ghost me. I don’t feel that bad about it because I kind of saw it coming but I still felt something for him. And it’s not easy getting over a person.

[kylee2437]

Sounds similar to what I went through pretty much, same story line. You are better off not dealing with someone that can’t effectively communicate especially when communication is one of your love languages.

[Asker]

@kylee2437 sorry you went through that. The funny thing is that I thought to myself.. I’ll give him until a certain date to see if he starts making more effort and I can find out where his head is at and that’s when he ghosted me. He must of had a feeling and thought #1 if she asks me I’m gonna have to reject her and there is no way I can get her again when I’m bored #2 he wanted a relationship and not with me so didn’t want it to continue so I’d fall hard. But yeah he is in his late 30s so you would think a man that age would be a man to be honest.

[kylee2437]

Hey all good! I’d rather not be with someone that I have to beg for bare minimum out of! I already done it and in the long run it’s not worth it! 30 year olds are no better than 20 year olds (my ex) . This is a blessing in disguise because you are at least free from a man that thinks bare minimum is acceptable. You will have so much peace with the fact that you are no longer chasing this man’s attention, trust me.

[Asker]

@kylee2437 very true.. I should have listened to my instincts for day 1. Like you said, it was only 3 months. And it says a lot about someone that cannot effectively communicate and who would rather ignore you. He must do it to a lot of women.

[kylee2437]

@asker yes they do! The guy that did it to me, has been “dating” for two years with no progression to a relationship and that’s a huge red flag because that means he was not giving much efforts to many women and justifying it because in reality he has personal stuff to work on.

[kylee2437]

And even if he gets into a relationship, chances of it being low quality due to him is very high. You aren’t missing anything

[Asker]

@kylee2437It sux.. I’ll live.. he made 0 effort.. but I always try and see the best in people. Next time I need to really take the red flags as a red flag.

[kylee2437]

@asker absolutely! Don’t settle for no effort! Imagine being in a relationship with who that person is now. It would definitely be a less than desirable relationship

[hbg84]

Possibly all the above or he found someone else or started dating someone and decided to focus on his new girlfriend. Who knows

[304strichZUP]

Whatever the reason is it is detestable