Ok, so I just don’t get this guy.
The first opportunity was when I told him about what was going on in my personal life and literally said I totally understand if you want to walk away now, but it’d be great if you could at least let me know. He replied saying he admired my honesty, but he wasn’t looking for anything serious anyway and was ok with it if I was., which was all good. We were chatting regularly, genuinely having a laugh, getting on well and although we were both busy we were trying to organise to get together.
Then a couple of weeks later, I didn’t get a response from a message. I didn’t want to assume anything so I waited 5 days before messaging again. I said I got it if he’d changed his mind or had a better offer, but it could be fun to hang out as mates. I’m always up for more friends and fun. He laughed at me and said it wasn’t like that and that it was all good.
But then a week later he ghosts me.
I was honestly never arsey or unreasonable with him, so I don’t understand why he couldn’t just tell me? It just doesn’t make sense to me.
What makes it more confusing though, is that I met him through work and even though we didn’t work in the same department, we would occasionally pass each other. The first time I ran into him I just pretended I hadn’t seen him, but he stood there staring at me. Then every time after that he would stare right into my eyes whenever he saw me coming, a couple of times I couldn’t avoid eye contact and he just looked sadly at me. This was starting to mess with my head because he’d chosen to cut me off, but was still trying to get my attention. Fortunately for me though, he has to move regularly as part of his job and recently moved to another town.
But why would someone ghost you then stare pathetically whenever they saw you?
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Maybe there was someone else and got to a point where he was forced to make a choice. He didn't want to tell you, so he ghosted. Now, at times, he regrets the decision he made.
It's a possible explanation.
It is an option, It just would’ve nicer if he’d said something. I would’ve understood.
Telling you means he would have been asked why he misled you.
That’s a good point! But even just saying I don’t think this is working would’ve been better than nothing.
Mybe he was too embarrassed to see you because he knew he had done you wrong.
Yeah, you have a real weirdo on your hands there. Move on.
That was his preferred way f backing out?
I guess so but it’s a bit gutless!
Yes and cowardly too.