I got ghosted by a guy that things seemed to be going so well with. Do guys that ghost ever miss you or have regrets?

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It’s weird to get close to someone who just up and disappears. I thought we were into each other. No I didn’t sleep with him. I don’t know what happened. It just seems like guys are cold and don’t care if they can vanish like that. Do guys ever miss the women they ghost or ever regret vanishing?

akihon · Accepted Answer

Ok so let's get this in context

Why is any man going to invest in any form of long term relationship with any woman when he knows that two things are always true.

First she can choose from a long line of men and she doesn't have to invest nearly half as much into any relationship that he does because he knows she can always keep him on the back burner while she looks for somebody better.

Second no matter what she says he has to take the first statement as true no matter how much he wants to believe otherwise.

Given those two things then, why do you think a man is going to settle, if a woman can look for always better and never settle then welcome to equality and don't expect men to settle either.

Now if you expected to have your freedom but expected that you don't have to abide by traditional dating rules then women have no rights to expect that men will hold to those standards either, fair is fair.

Now then do men regret ghosting, maybe some do and maybe some don't, I suppose that it's no different to asking the same question of women, but furthermore then why should any man regret ghosting if he isn't supposed to settle for good enough just like any woman then ghosting is just a way of saying you aren't good enough and he's now doing better, again this is no different to the mentality that women are being brainwashed with daily so therefore you got exactly as you wanted and welcome to the brave new equal world women have been demanding for generations.

You should be happy

Volucum · Accepted Answer

I dated someone, it was really fun. But he was already a really different person from me. When I stayed the night. Out of nowhere. I got introduced to half the family. Including the grandma that didn't even speak my language. Scored some points by being able to respond in Chinese in a couple sentences. But the night after he packed his bags and told me he was going to Switzerland for an undetermined time because I had also met his dad. It was weird. He was cute. But jeez. It was one big can of worms.

lumos · Accepted Answer

They might, but I doubt it. I think it's pretty rare. Usually people ghost because there simply isn't enough interest and they can't be bothered with telling you face-to-face, or they're worried about how you'll react (they don't want to make you angry/sad/let you down) so the easiest and laziest option is to just ghost. And because of their lack of interest, it's unlikely that they'll give it a second thought or regret it later. Interest doesn't just magically appear out of thin air, especially if you're not in contact with that person anymore.

Cynicaldreamer · Accepted Answer

No. There's usually a reason behind why a guy ghosts us: he found someone else, he lost interest, or he wasn't sure how to tell you he wasn't into you, so he was a cowardly ass and ghosted you.

Don't let it get to you. Some people are just disrespectful and rather than say, "I've lost interest in you" they take the coward's way out by ignoring or ending contact with you. It's NOT a reflection of you! Remember that.

Mikayla3 · Answer

Unfortunately, this dude was a douche. Move on to a better one. This one cared nothing... most likely he had other options. The only time he will regret is if she or they dont work out. Or, his options become less. If he tries coming back. Just dust him back... let him wonder about you. But, dont give him a chance in your life. He thinks your ground beef when you are the juicy perfect steak. Do not let this person's opinion make you feel less. You are not less. He is!

elite665 · Answer

I’m gonna be honest
Not as more then friends no
I’ve been ghosted by girls who were very friendly but in the end did not want to associate after finding out I was interested in more and I have ghosted girls for the same reason so no most of the time they ghost you cause they can and they want to they don’t regret it

metalhead_66 · Answer

I don't think he's ghosting you. I think that he is keeping distance from you for a short amount of time, because there are some things in his life that he's trying to solve and he needs to be by himself at this moment. But at the time he's done he would have missed you so much and he would be ready to get back to you with a stronger love than before

eminde · Answer

I regret it all the time
See we guys are not cold we are completely available sometime and sometimes we’re completely offline
Sometimes we’re so involved into our lives that we completely forget about texting or social media for instance
I regret that I’ve done that to many people and I apologise for that
Don’t worry it’s not like he has found someone maybe he’s just gotten into something
Don’t wait tho move on and find someone who prioritizes you the most

SirRexington · Answer

Well im sorry that happened. There is no way to be certain why he stopped contacting you.

I have ghosted someone before but it was because she was annoying and there is no point in telling her I'm no longer interested in speaking when I can just stop texting her.

crazy8000 · Answer

Just like females. most likely not.

Unfortunately do they lack maturity on that point and proper social skills.

Be glad you didn't have anything more to do with that person. they always have other unpleasant behavior attached to that.

RHK36 · Answer

Seems like guys are cold? So are you saying no women do this lol? 😂

People do what they do, unless you ask him you won't know. He could have had am emergency, maybe his girlfriend caught him, maybe found someone else thought you weren't worth it anymore or maybe he's just busy with life. Doesn't seem like you have known him long enough to know him and decide his intentions are negative.

theCobbler · Answer

I've only ever Ghosted one Lady , she came on way to strong, saying she "Loved" everything I did, too clingy, always texting me, "where are you,? what are ya doing? Hun,? Hun? Answer me?""" After I'd ghosted her, seems like she did a 180, I contacted her about 3 months later, and she was just meh, !
Came to find out , she was taking Oxycontin and valium with antidepressants, !

COMMODOREII · Answer

I just recently got ghosted by a friend i felt the same way. Why would she do that? I think it sucks. I didn't deserve it. I would prefer her to tell me bye but instead she had no manners. If you want to make a friend share in our hurt feelings pm me.

honestGUY45 · Answer

There are many guys that leave a relationship that is going well, simply because the sex hasn't happened yet. They will blow you off and pursue someone else, then when things don't go as expected, they may reflect on what they had and regret it. No one can tell you how this guy is feeling, only he can answer that.

TheIdiotManiac · Answer

If he ghosted you without any good reason than I don't think it's worth thinking about the guy any further tbh. Yes, he could have plenty of reasons to do so but ghosting someone is just rude in my opinion, at least have the balls to say what's up ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

Theundisputed01 · Answer

I’m going through the same thing with a girl. She hasn’t answer none of my text in the last two weeks. I wonder if she was just bored and liked the attention I gave her? I wonder if she will come back because the last couple of times she did.

SexyAshh · Answer

Exactly what @boggboss said.

He probably got bored, the initial excitement was dead. And no most guys dont care, they are more logical then emotional. But like the other guy said, he will care when he gets bored, and he’ll be back

Anonymous · Answer

i ghost girl a girl i love 6months ago because i felt i was annoying her too much with my jelousy of other guys, i didn't wanna piss her off any more so i thought its better if i jus leave and go from her life,

even tho we know each other for like 2 or 3 years and was really good friends,

yes i miss her and i still love her and still think of her, but... i can't keep pissing her off, i have to move on :(

sensogal · Answer

I'm not a guy but if i ghost someone it's because I care so little about this person that I can't even be bothered giving an explanation or answer the person's texts/calls

boggboss · Answer

He will miss the attetion you gave him when he gets bored and other options dry up then he will come back untill he finds other women

SarahsSummer · Answer

Probably but rather than to think winder it hope this guy regrets his actions, make your own action and move on. Dwelling or waiting won’t help you.

cicchis0 · Answer

I don't know. Ghosting is cowardly and rude. I wouldn't care what they think because I couldn't respect anyone that behaved in that manner.

ts416 · Answer

I was a doormat for the last woman. I got tired of being used so I just ghosted her.

DiscomfortZone · Answer

If you got ghosted - you deserved it. Try to think what stupid, senseless or inconsiderate think you did to drive him away so don't do the same foolish mistake next time.

Flower7 · Answer

Sometimes they come back, depending on how long you talked to each other.

Pamina · Answer

What difference does it make to you if he regretted it or misses you?

Dongtai · Answer

Do girls miss guys or regret ghosting guys? There’s your answer.

Phantom歩Princ · Answer

There are 2 types of guys in these situations. 1. They are shy and are trying to gather up words to talk to you. 2. Stalkers.

simplelikeme · Answer

I have never done that to a woman so I would not know. But I have definitely missed some of my ex girlfriends in the past. It would probably be best if you stayed away from people like that though

Browneye57 · Answer

Are you nuts? Cuz guys ghost girls that are drama queens. Just sayin'.

babyygirrll · Answer

If he ghosted you then you’re not the only girl he was associating with. When those other girls don’t show interest, he will come crawling back into your life. Don’t give him the power. Ignore him!

craig777 · Answer

Remember 95% of our actions are controlled by the subconscious mind, consciously I would add that he wasn't for you, it will be a blessing in disguise you'll see.

pocketman · Answer

If he's got no interest, why would there be regret?

AlongCameCindy · Answer

I'm sure sometimes they'd regret it if they miss the person.

Jasonball · Answer

The second testosterone is released a guy has no interest in a woman unless he has a true love towards her

logic69 · Answer

Well the same happened with. A girl did the same thing with me

_Stefan_ · Answer

Never done it myself, but I probably would miss chatting with them eventually if we go along.

Anonymous · Answer

Probably not he’s got what he wanted he’s a player.

cute_short_nerd · Answer

Got ghosted to bby feels the same.

Agem123 · Answer

Nope. He didn't even have any respect for you.

ajaykinky · Answer

No regret... Just karma

Mehzmeh · Answer

Some of us do.

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