Eventually he said he couldn't be just friends because his feelings kept growing.. so we started actively making an effort to talk less.
2 months ago I got a new job. As a result I wasn't online much but I'd still text everyday.
In this time I noticed his replies seemed dry. When I brought it up he said something along the lines " i always makes an effort to accommodate to your schedule but you never take that into consideration. The time difference, your new schedule & my own job load during peak szn is a lot & i'm sleepy these days. When I text you in evenings I'm just sleepy but still stay up & text you.". I felt bad so we discussed this & then things seemed fine again !
Fast forward to this past month...
He goes ghost for 5 days.
When he reappeared he said his flu symptoms had gotten worse & he's been really sick & basically apologized for going mia. We had short sweet for few days after that. But He said he's still not feeling great & that he only came online to explain & say hi because he felt bad for leaving me suddenly & missed me, etc. & that he would call me to go in detail about what happend.. the next morning he sent the usual GM text & well he hasn't logged in since then... It's been 2 weeks...
I'm worried for him a lot... but
I do wonder of im being clowned & he's literally just ghosting me & this sickness was all just an excuse.
We only communicate through the app so there's nothing I can do.. I've kept busy ,& don't log on everyday but I'd feel like an asshole if he was going through something truly bad & im here thinking rotten. Anyways I don't know what to think or feel or do..
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I am going through something similar. Ultimately all of the “too busy” excuses are just excuses, meaning no longer interested. Mine is an online situation too so it’s hard to gauge the situation, but, if they really wanted to, they would, like they did in the beginning. It’s not impossible.
It really is difficult & that's why I didn't want to go through all that without actúally meeting first. I guess I wanted confirmation that like he probably did ghost me & I'm right to feel this way.. ... but I also feel a little guilty in all this too because he's called me out before & said I changed my texting habits with him, etc. But it was literally only after he said he agreed we shoukd text less... & ik he was referring to a weekend I stayed out late w friends & had work right after so I didn't text him until the night after &other few instances similar to that where my phones died, etc. But I've always told him I'm going out before hand & its literally happend a handful of times but I've never lied & I've always texted him after & it's never been for more than a day.. getting this new job maybe added a bit of flame to the fire... I don't know tbh its a lot but the facts rn is he's been mia for 2 weeks at a time now & if he really did want to he could've just brought up a conversation & not ghost.