Polls: Dating

Im a 27 year old who just returned to University college after taking years off of school for personal finance reasons. I'm quite an underachiever for a guy my age (something that definitely does not attract many women for the most part) yet somehow I romantically and s3x-u@lly attract mostly Gen Z girls as young as 19-20 years old, more so than women my own age. Don't get me wrong, I don't mind being with younger women but certain societies seems to look at significant age gaps like that as creepy despite that 18 years old is the bare minimum age for legal adulthood in most developed countries.

Meet Hannah Hays. Hannah's car no longer works and she needs help from people online to get it back running. She is willing to give out the girlfriend experience to the two highest tippers, which means she'll do everything else but sleep with you. To reiterate, she will act like a normal girlfriend in these modern times but will not have sex with you, unless of course she finds you attractive.

Would you accept this deal?

Me and my girlfriend had a fight 5 days ago days and we haven’t spoken since. I tried text/calling her and she’s still ignoring me. Is the relationship over? I just met a cute nurse that wants a date with me. Would that be cheating is I went out with her?

I read a research paper today explaining how people naturally are more drawn to things that are rare and/or require effort to acquire, thus making it more valuable, and don't see something that's easily acquired as anything worthwhile.

Which is a principle that has also been adopted in the dating world I think. People who act, or simply are, hard-to-get, seem more interesting to people because they will naturally be drawn to this person because it would actually mean something to make this person interested in you. You'd have to earn it.

Which brings me to my question. Would you personally see yourself generally being more attractive to that nonchalant guy, who doesn't really pay attention to people, minds his own business but is charismatic and intriguing at the same time in the limited conversations that you have with him, or would you prefer that bubble, positive happy guy, who likes to talk, is generally the center of attention and gives you a bunch of compliments?

The comparison is not huge but noticeable. For example, if you make $97k per year then he would earn $47k per year. Everything else is perfect tho.

Years ago I briefly dated a former stripper. She might of done some “side work” but it was never confirmed. But I wouldn’t be surprised if she did.

After getting into long conversations with her she was actually much smarter than I expected. She was of course extremely beautiful. She was one of the top 3 most attractive women I had ever slept with in my life.

Ironically she came from a good family but she was the “problem child”. She wanted to date me seriously but she didn’t have a steady work nor any plans to go back to college (she dropped out). She also had problems with excessive marijuana use and experimenting with other harder drugs

I didn’t want a relationship but I did care for her. I was willing to just stay platonic friends and help her recover. I saw the potential if she reformed. But she didn’t accept that. I also inadvertently made a very stupid insulting comment after we had sex one time (and said wow you are so tight). I regretted saying that. I would of apologized if we talked again.

Anyway I followed her IG for a long time. She has now been sober from all drugs for 2 years. She also got several of her tattoos removed and she is going back to college. I don’t expect her to let me “accept” her idea of dating steadily at this point. But if she was were she was at now vs where she was 5 years ago I would of definitely considered it. But at the time I think she saw me as a “safety net nice guy”. Also I just bought my own house and she figured she might be get free rent if she moved in. But she was a mess at the time and was it really my job to reform her?

So I've been hooking up with a woman for over 4 years now, but now she seems to be trying to lock me down as a boyfriend. She knows that I'm fucking 2 other women, but she wants me to be exclusive with her. The thing is that she's getting fatter and starting to get saggy boobs etc. she's getting older and more desperate. I'm thinking I shhould just dump her. Thoughts?

Let’s be clear. There is a fundamental difference between someone disagreeing with you vs. being a douche and insulting. Some people think that getting the answer they don’t want to hear is “trolling”. It’s not.

Trolling is when you are just being a douche who put zero thought into what the other person is saying and/or their position.

For example if I see an overweight girl post about “being picky” (yes I have seen this) I won’t insult her appearance. But I will tell her the truth that she has two options: she can either improve her physique or she can stay as is but she has to lower her standards. I won’t day something stupid like “just get on a treadmill you fat ass”. There are minority of guys out there who do that but its rare

But I notice many women on here who troll and tear into men with little regard over things guys have little control over (age, height, etc.). The word “creep” is there ace hole in one insult and they will use it despite the guy not saying anything sexual (it’s based on their bs “feelings”)

If a meeting was setup between a guy and girl by their common friends...

They meet for sometime , had very small talks , they did exchange numbers.

After sometime the guy messages her. Hi/Hello/ How was your day etc etc... to which she replies very late or sometimes no reply.

He asked when can he call... to which she says whenever you want to. But also says she's sleepy at the moment. So he doesn't call her obviously.

So she just doesn't reply back to a simple Hello, how was your day/what are you doing etc.

So what does this all mean?