When you ask a question (dating wise) what is more important you: An answer, or hearing something that makes you feel good?

[VIVANT]

Obviously both would be ideal 😂 but in the absence of perfect, what do you choose?

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Answer

Something that makes me feel good

Other

[ShellyB]

I think you need to understand the situation, people want or need different things at different times. Sometimes your role is to help their self confidence and sometimes your role is to really give a second opinion. If you mean here on this web site, the whole reason I am here is so I can give and receive honest answers, since I am basically anonymous here, vs in person I wouldn't want to talk about certain topics like how I have sex or my honest opinion of everybody. So to me the answer to the poll just depends on the situation.

[VIVANT]

You make really good points, I guess I was asking from the Angle that I don’t like being jerked around by sweet words, but you’re bringing out a very different and important side to this 😊

[Anonymous]

In everything in life, I much prefer the truth. I hate lies and find liars to be very despicable people, it's just something I can't tolerate.

[VIVANT]

Yes I completely understand 😊

[Lliam]

I picked 'A'. I don't think it's necessary to be brutally honest, offensive or mean. They can be honest AND tactful.
But I don't want someone lying, blowing smoke up my ass, or telling me what they think I want to hear. I can handle the truth as long as it is conversational and not confrontational.

[VIVANT]

For sure I don’t like people being a$$holes using the excuse they are just being honest. No you’re a 💩 🕳

[VIVANT]

Not you Lliam 😂

[Guy13]

First thing that comes to mind when a guy or a woman says, “you want to/let’s hangout?”
💩, any conforms left in the car…on the 💊…. Unless she’s got a ⚽️ ball on her.

[CubsterShura]

What I learned is that you can tell someone something 'unpleasant' without being a jerk. Many people who say they are brutally honest focus more on being brutal and justify it under the name of honesty.

You can tell your friend "You know this guy beat you three times and you're still staying because you love him? Are you out of your mind? You're just asking to be beat more at this point and if you don't leave then everything happening to you is your fault. Just leave and find a place, not at my house tho because then I'll be targeted too."

Or you can tell your friend "Don't you think it is high time that you leave now that he beat you three times, I understand it's very difficult to leave someone you love but I'd like you to prioritize your safety first. I can't let you in my house because your partner knows my address, but if you want I can contact my cousin and she will understand and let you stay for a while. I'm always there for you if you need anything."

Same message, said very differently.

[NathanDavis]

honesty makes me happy

genuineness makes me happier

when people tell me a lie, and especially to try and make me feel good I can usually tell... and that is never nice, lol

[VIVANT]

Yup it’s infuriating esp bc you know it’s off hit you won’t know exactly in what way & for me anyhow “, it leads to too many questions so I have to shut down or ask more , neither is good.

[NathanDavis]

exactly, I do not like uncertainty either... I rather know and not have doubts

[ZackBan]

I usually prefer getting the truth and giving the truth although I'm guilty dodging personal questions by making someone feel good

[VIVANT]

I think this probably applies to many of us. It’s harder to be honest with other prophet than to accept the truth ourselves, well for me. Tho I try bc I know I hate being her her around even if it’s “sweetly”

[SnowedIn]

I think I want an answer. But truth. Not just feel good fluff. True feel good fluff, however, is nirvana.

[VIVANT]

Yesssssss 😂

[Sevenpointfive]

i chose other because i really only ask if i'm about 90% sure i'll get a date. you can imagine i don't ask very often

[VIVANT]

I understand dnd I know many people operate thus way. You’re def not alone 😊

I’m the opposite 😂 I say something when I’m pretty sure it’s a bust— I just wanna be certain before letting go

[TheSpaceGnome]

Well since in the question I'd be asking I ask how to acomplish x thing, it probably would be both.

[VIVANT]

Fair point ☝🏼

[Belgie]

I can deal with a no. No's happen frequently in life. But I won't ask someone unless I think there's a connection of some sort with her, so no-answer at all means I've totally misread the situation and that would bother me far more than any no.

[Anonymous]

I need a little more to go on here. What am I asking? Regardless I want to hear the truth. I'd rather rather be told an unpleasant truth than a comforting lie.

[VIVANT]

Well yes that’s the gist of it. Do you want the truth or hot air. You answered 😊

[Opinion Owner]

Agreed but unfortunately some answers are not always clear cut when it comes to feelings. I mean we all want love. But people don't want it one sided. And when it comes to relationships virtually no one feels the same about thier partner at the same time.
Like i answered on a similar question. You just asked. How am I supposed to feel much towards her if I feel like she's minimally sexually attracted to me? I'm not suggesting that's all she should feel, in fact I think that's as unhealthy as only feeling that. But as I said on your other question. That's kind of the dividing line between friends and more than friends.
I know women and women don't think exactly alike in this area. But you wouldn't want to be with a partner that had NO sexual attraction to you.

[pizzalovershouse]

The fact people dont ask there partner what's up to often an ask it here

[VIVANT]

Yeah I know 😲

[pizzalovershouse]

😊👍

[TallAnon]

Truth, if it doesn't match up with what I want often enough, then too bad; we're not compatible.

[VIVANT]

Yuppppp 👍🏼

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

I prefer someone who will tell me the truth and keep things positive minded.

[BarryLiverstone]

The honest truth. Don’t want a lie to protect my feelings

[Chazmatazz269]

I am always honest and i expect the same in return. If you can’t be honest every time all of the time, i don’t need or want you in my life.

[YourFavoriteFriend]

The truth makes me feel good because I know how I can move and fix a problem, improve myself and my life.

[whereismyjohnny]

An answer. Honest one.

[VIVANT]

The best 👍🏼

[RealMarek]

What is most important to me is the truth.

[VIVANT]

Same. Tho not to say it won’t hurt but in the long run…

[RealMarek]

Yes, disappointment is better to know sooner than later.

[FilmGuy93]

Honesty is the best policy.

[VIVANT]

Indeed it is. Rarely, exceptions apply. 🤔

[humanearth]

something that feels good

[VIVANT]

Thank you for your honesty 😌☺️

[bamesjond0069]

I call BS. 99% of pink askers flip if you don't answer their question how they want it answered. Ie puts up pic of ugly girl, is this girl a 9 or a 10? Nah she's a 3. Blocked. Like wtf?

[Havthrills]

The honest truth.

[VIVANT]

Nothing beats it 🥇

[Jamie05rhs]

I want the TRUTH! Haha. No bullshit. Just straight facts.

[Jamie05rhs]

Letter form is appropriate if it requires more words. :)

[xoxosilentgirl]

Honest but not too hars

[xJayleenx]

An answer

[VIVANT]

They seem to be in short supply 😂

[xJayleenx]

Lol true

[the_sinner]

A straight forward answer without any filters.

[WhitneySnow]

The truth

[Anonymous]

Can I fuck you?