What's more important, listening to what women say they want or what they actually respond to?

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ManOnFire · Accepted Answer

Actions speak louder than words, especially with women. I have said this multiple times on here. It doesn't mean what women say they want is always untrue, but what she does and how she behaves, especially with others vs. with you always tell you the most about her. They will often say things they think you want to hear or what they think they should say.

You also have to remember that women are often double-minded. They may tell you they don't like you doing something as a general rule, to make you believe she doesn't like that from any man, but you later find out she liked some other guy doing it. And I'm not even necessarily talking about something sexual. Women will say stuff like that just so you will leave her alone because she's not into you, meanwhile she's enjoying another guy doing it. This is dishonesty. So for me it's more important to listen to a woman's actions than her words.

genericname85 · Accepted Answer

women very rarely say what they actually think straight up. so just taking what they say at face value is probably not the smartest idea ever.

CubsterShura · Answer

It is important to pay attention to both and that universally applies to everyone. Even most men don't know what they want and have no idea about their own cognitive dissonance, or at least they like to think that they like things a certain way but they actually don't and hate to admit it. Ignoring one of them fully is never a good idea.

Of course, it is important that you believe someone's behavior more than you believe their words, however, without trying to understand where someone is coming from with their words, you can easily jump to wrong conclusions. I'm a very straightforward person and never has a guy ever successfully pulled the "I know what you want/need/like better than you" on me. Given that sometimes I feel absolutely clueless about life, I can't tell you how badly I WISH I actually had someone who knew better lol.

Till then I'm good with choosing to date guys who are just as straightforward as I am, and I'm very happy with my boyfriend who is a very honest and straightforward person. Not that I like everything he says, but I can 100% believe in him.

Oh and also I should mention that in my relationship I'm the one who pulls the "I know what would be better for you/us" card more than he does, with a very high success rate. Even he ends up admitting that my idea was good 😂😂 again given that other guys have failed to do the same thing with me before I find that the difference is in your thought process. Are you coming from a place of empathy, knowledge or experience? Or are you coming from a place of cockiness and projection?

Little_Bumblebee · Answer

You kind of gotta do both.

The thing is. People, and in this case, women, are different.

So if you hear one woman say that she wants A, that doesn't mean the next woman wants A, she might want B, C, D etc.

But respect whether or not she gives consent. A no is a no. Which can also be given by how she reacts.

And of someone says she wants a good guy, and you see yourself as a good guy, doesn't mean you're the one she would want.
Mayne this is where people go wrong when they say stuff like "women don't know what they want"

Anyway.
Consent is important and women are individuals.

gothbxtch · Answer

i would say what we say we want, because thinking you know us as women better than we know ourselves is a dangerous path. taken to an extreme, that can lead to awful shit like “she said no, but i know she really meant yes”.

exitseven · Answer

I said what they say they want. Maybe you should get it on video however so if it goes sideways tyou can play the video showing that this was what she wanted. It probably won't get you off the hook but you can have a little joke at her expense.

artgorgeous · Answer

Noo!! Never listen to what they want. They do not know what they want (most of the time). You are the leader and you are the daymaker. Care more about their reaction and how they respond. Do not do what they literally want. Be more creative.

VikingWarLord · Answer

Listen up sunny boy,

women say things to SAVE FACE, especially if they think people will assume they're a WHOORE or a GOLD DIGGER.

My advice is to get on one of those Rich Guy Dating sites like Seeking Arrangement and then contrast that to your experience on a regular dating site like Tinder or POF.

Observe their behavior on each of those and you will understand Female Nature

OddBeMe · Answer

My male feminist voice says to always listen to what they say! And try kale!

But responding to people’s likes is THE marketing strategy. Period. So male/female, just really pay attention to response.

Same for racists or toxic fcks. They’ll deny they are, but if your response is toxic toward them…that’s what it is.

Apple1996 · Answer

What we say. Our actions don't always equal what we want.

Just a random example but we say we want to lose weight/diet but then go eat a bunch of sweets. That doesn't make what we said false we'd still want to lose weight/diet

Jamie05rhs · Answer

What they say they want. Because then if they aren't happy, it's their fault, not yours. Even if what she really wants is being with you but she says she doesn't, it's best to just let her suffer alone. Because that is what she deserves.

Lionman95 · Answer

B because that´s how women communicate their needs and wishes. Women build connections through talking to each other so when a woman tells you something with words, she says something that she likes but also something that she thinks you want here.

Nikki1989 · Answer

You would know that already if you would actually listen. Funny that.

IceCreamSandwich · Answer

If you listen to what she says she wants, and she isn't happy about it, and doesn't wanna work on that, then i don't think she's worth your time.

Anonymous · Answer

Genuine guys who end up in lasting relationships and not on child support as baby daddies do the first-but they get less attention from women in terms of total numbers. Fuckboys and pimps do the second, and get more attention in terms of total numbers-but eventually end up as baby daddies on child support.

Billlewis · Answer

Following her instructions to the letter and working tirelessly to please her are all I'm interested in.

LazerBean · Answer

Depends on if you are chasing ding bat women to waste your time with or if you're intelligent.

Adaeva · Answer

Women don't say what they want because saying something else is more politically correct.

JesseP1nk · Answer

Actions speaks loudest. How many times have you heard "i want a good man" and then they go for a clown, get kids with them and then they wonder how their home and life became a circus 🤣

ProbablyClueless · Answer

You have to read the situation and find a way to do the right mix of both.

Luopio27 · Answer

I have been studying women my whole life and still dont know anything useful about them. I am a natural born idiot.

Juxtapose · Answer

If a woman cannot be straight up with me then I am not interested. I'm too old to be playing guessing games.

DummyThiccFeraligatr · Answer

Words are hollow. Actions and meta-speech are what one should pay attention to. Women are no different.

Justneedtokno · Answer

It seems like you’re listening either way and that’s a start

DarkLegacy · Answer

You can never really trust what a woman says

Unit1 · Answer

What they do (greater than sign) what they say

Emilianorodríguez · Answer

I'm not interested in paying attention to what women want, I don't care at all what women want or not.

Anonymous · Answer

Do you know that if you find answer for that question You will get Nobel award for that  And will be remembered forever "THE MAN WHO FINALY UNDERSTAND WOMEN"

WhiteBoyChill · Answer

Actions they take speak louder than words they say

inhua · Answer

do you like listening to politicians?

A_Bell · Answer

"No. I'm fine. Do what you want."

blueonblack22 · Answer

Talk is cheap.

Peter_Penetrator · Answer

Sounds like a coach Corey question.

KrakenAttackin · Answer

Listening to a woman's words is a waste of time.

magiusX26 · Answer

actions speak louder than words

jeffend888 · Answer

This applies to everyone.

ta-ra · Answer

Both.

Djaay · Answer

Niether.

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