In a social event is it better to peace out quick or chat up an unattractive person who is obviously (and respectfully) interested in you?

[Anonymous]

I don’t go out often much nowadays. But I figured I try for the hell of it. A buddy and me hit up a local bar that had a dance floor. Two older women (guessing 10 years older) wanted us to dance with them. Neither was exactly a Jennifer Anniston looking but just for fun I took up their offer.

I did dance with them for two songs. But I made an excuse to get water later and didn’t come back. Neither one of them were attractive but it was obvious they both liked me.

My buddy isn’t picky. He will bang older women, overweight women, very weird women, etc. He has a funny extroverted personality who enjoys a good time which is completely cool. I also don’t mind have friendly chats with women I don’t find attractive. But if they are obviously interested I don’t care to get their hopes up nor just take it because it’s an easy lay. I have to be at least semi interested.

I ended up playing an arcade machine for a while. My buddy came around to check in. Told him my apologies for not wingmanning but he didn’t mind. I later said goodbye and the two older women tried to convince me to stay. But the they got the hint.

Anyway I wondered if I should have stuck around just to chit chat and socialize. Get used to socializing again. But I didn’t want to the uncomfortable moment of telling them no if they wanted to take me home or ask for my number.

Make a polite excuse to peace out. Don’t get their hopes up.

Chat them up but respectfully turn them down if they want more.

[Guy13]

Chat Up, be nice, spend more time than should, and leave respectfully. She has goood looking girlfriends cause they all need ugly girl to contrast well against.

”I met this nice guy and I liked him. 15 minutes we talked but it didn’t work out. I’ll introduce you to him.”

She needs proof for hierarchical girl designed friend group. Many of the misfit toys have hot girlfriends

[Asker]

Yeah I have been out of the loop for a while. I dunno but I didn’t used to make quick judgment like that.

[Guy13]

Like or Dislike create a Bridge to Goldilocks cause she probably knows at least one. ;-)

[Asker]

I can tell you right now I highly doubt these women had any attractive younger friends.

My buddy would of it hit it regardless. I won’t.

[Guy13]

Gotcha... I am a "won't hit it" too Type.