Polls: Dating

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I have been dating this women, its been a lot of fun and I do seriously like her. She said she had 1 dog when we started dating. You find out she really has 4 dogs, one for each kid who are 14, 16 and 17... so she claims she didn't lie when she said she only had 1 dog. On top of that she has 5 cats, 2 rabbits and a snake. Again all of which are her kids and not hers.

On average it costs $50 a month to feed a dog. 4x dogs (In this case all Huskies) = $200 a month

On average it costs $50 a month for a cat with food and litter= 5 x cats $250 month

The snake is feed twice a month with live rats its $10 a rat = 2x rats $20 a month

Then two rabbits again about $40 a month for feed = 2x rabbits $80 a month

So that means she is spending about $550 to $600 a month to feed all her pets, and that is not counting any other out of pocket expenses. She's over $10,000 in debt with correctors can't afford to register her car and she is taking pay day loans. And she thinks all her animals are like people, but at what point does having so many pets become a determent to yourself, finically and emotionally when it comes to dating?

I know some of you are going to go off about never using dating apps or trying to find people online period. That’s a separate debate so please don’t bring it up. Not everybody has the time or environment to socialize with singles on a consistent basis.

Anyway I’ve gone real back and forth about ever mentioning sex or even acting flirty with girls I match on dating apps. On one end if she already finds me attractive, is in a good mood and hit her vibe right it can make her more eager to meet up.

However the downside if I just make one wrong comment many women panic and hit the “creep” button. It’s game over and there is little or no room for forgiveness. Often the guy has no idea he’s out. It doesn’t matter if it was an honest mistake or I had no idea she didn’t like a certain comment. Many women just freak.

An even worse scenario is she might just want all virtual sexting and has zero interest in meeting for real. The virtual attention is good enough for her. Most men aren’t satisfied with that. They want to meet someone for real.

Then there is the safe route (and it can be genuine). Just act friendly, funny and don’t mention sex. Many women find this to be non-threatening and are more likely to meet in person.

But a downside with this is she might find me more boring. Some women are deluded/selfish to believe that guys are okay just making “friends” with women on dating apps. Nope. That’s a huge waste of time and effort. That doesn’t mean men are always looking for hook ups. Some of us really want to start a relationship. But there is always at least some romantic interest. Men don’t seek out random women to become “friends” with.

So anyway what’s the best route?

Let's do the hair length swap. Or should I ask which gets more appeal? It would sound quite hypocritical of me to say I prefer girls with long hair when I have long hair myself. A lot of guys don't prefer girls with short hair. But i know and I don't care if girls prefer short hair on guys. So i'd like to know which is less likely to be rejected the opposite gender or the more acceptable one.