Polls: Dating

Romantically, to have his way with you.

At one time, when I had a first date with a woman, I would bring her a single white rose and explain that white roses are a symbol of new beginnings. Of course, most first dates don't result in a LTR but. . . I always had the impression that ladies appreciated the token of respect and hope. After all, it was a single rose - white - not a dozen red roses. A dozen red roses. . . my impression is that would set off warning lights and sirens with most women.

How would you feel about a guy bringing you a single white rose on a first date? How do you feel about a guy bring you a flower arrangement or a dozen red roses on a first date?

It is PC approved to say that appearance doesn't matter and OF COURSE we shouldn't "fat shame" anyone. That means that you aren't supposed to have any negative thoughts or feelings towards anyone just because they weigh as much as a baby elephant. That's a wonderfully exalted and elegant theory of the way things ought to be but it simply fails to account for the real world.

For real people, appearance is a big factor in physical attraction. I am attracted to some women and not others; I like petite, diminutive women who have a cute face. I am not attracted to significantly overweight women. You can send me to a PC re-education center and have me sit through sensitivity training classes until the cows come home

and I still won't be attracted to seriously overweight women. I have dated women who were 10-20 pounds overweight but that is the limit for me. I never told a girl that I did not want to date her because of her size, but I never dated a girl who I thought was abnormally large.

Fortunately, none of my partners in long term relationships ever gained any substantial weight while we were together. I'm not sure that I would have left them because of that. I probably would have talked to them, inquired about possible depression, medical conditions causing weight gain, offered to help them with dieting and exercise, etc. But I don't think I could stay in a relationship with a woman who was 5' 4" and 190 pounds.

Could you do it? Could you stay with a partner if they gained a significant amount of weight?

(SJW's: If you don't like what I said, I don't want to hear from you! Save you opinion for someone who actually cares about what you think.)